My husband doesn't compliment me anymore.?

Question

We have been married for 12 years.

He doesn't compliment me on my looks or new clothes etc....I feel he doesn't care

Answer 1

XXXXXXXXXXXXX My handsome hunk and I have been married 13 years. Four children. He thinks he's a Canadian Don Juan at 44. Wearing this ol girl out. He gives me so many compliments it goes in one ear and out the other as I need a break from compliments. I wouldn't trade him for the world. I'm having the opposite problem. How can I get him to slow down?
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Answer 2

I am very sorry for you. I have been there. But now that I am older I can tell you from hindsight... get to a relationship counsellor with or without your husband fast. You are feeling cut off. You depend on your man for your society and need to know that you matter. In his head it is possible that he sees you as too needy. He has put in a long day and is tired. He has laughed, chatted, complimented and all that all day away from the home. Now he wants to shut down. You have a big communication problem growing. Sort it, or watch the marriage die. It does sound like he could be depressed too... more than tired. Get help and while you are about it, when did you last affirm your husband? Tell him he is handsome and really turns you on big time? That is a two way street. If you don't do it, someone else may do. Best of luck, Lisa

Answer 3

The answer to that is so one-sided women always fish for compliments and want contant attention yes we did that at first but so did u.Maybe if most women and u know who u are do the same you'll get the same attention,it's amazing how most of u down your man.We do so much but u just don't see it all u do is complain about what u do and never think about him.at the end of the day we're tired and have done our job just like u.If u don't get a compliment or attention step back and think why is it because he's making extra money and hours to get the family out of debt or is it he's remodeling the house or doing what u asked him too,I think i speak for most men when i say u women just ask for so much and we give but PLEASE STOP LOOKING AT THE ONE THING WE'RE NOT DOING AND THINK ABOUT THE HUNDRED OF OTHERS THAT WE DO.

Answer 4

He's used to you now and doesn't notice when you look great...On the plus side, he doesn't notice when you look awful either. You are simply the one he married and the one he loves.

I think it's up to you to point out how you miss hearing some sweet words about yourself. ... Let him know you think he's great and looking good still, and I'll bet he'll start taking another look at you too.

Although, having a comfortable, loving relationship is certainly a bonus for anyone....a few extra compliments can heat up the romance. Guess you'll have to start all that. Lots of guys just don't think that way without someone taking the lead.

Answer 5

I have been married for more than 17 years, but we still have very healthy and passionate relationship. U know what the problem with us wives is that we expect only our husband to take initiative all times, I ask u one question, do u still compliment him and say sweet lil nothings in his ear, dress up only for him and give him passionate welcome when he comes home. I love sending naughty e-mails to my hubby. We go out for romantic dates without our kid. I go for swimming and am diet conscious, we both are fitness lovers that makes things even better. Try to follow my advice and u can also have beautiful relationship like us. Compliment him first then he he will shower u with so many. All the best

Answer 6

Hey, I've been married for 12 years, too. Yeah, husbands are idiots. We really don't know what you want. This helps: at the end of the day, you both say three things that you appreciate about the other or compliment them for something they did that day. If three things are too much to say after a long day, one thing is better than nothing.

Yes, your husband is taking you for granted. 12 years will do that. Don't let him.

And thanks for sharing your bra size. Now I don't have to wonder.

Answer 7

Mine doesn't either.. I don't know.. men are kinda shy/silly (I was going to write stupid) about it. You know, if they'd wake up and tell us SOME damn nice little thing, it might pay off later in the sex department.. (their favorite area..) but do they??? Nooooooo... I guess they figure they are doing you enough of a favor (mine does) handing you a check.. makes me feel kinda 'cheap..' (He doesn't think so?) Hell, if I'm worth money I'm gonna ask more than the check he's forking over from factory work, man.. (I take that back... the cheap *** doesn't give me a damn extra dime.. just puts a set amount in the 'joint' checking account and HE keeps the rest.. sux, huh?) (lol.. you think YOU are getting the shaft here? Try living w/this jerk for a while..) Oh yes and he can't 'talk' so I am one lonely woman! I'm a college grad (not taht taht matters.. not anymore..) and he's a GED and says "we was" (just one of a litany of irritations goin' w/him..) I've been married to this loser l3 years (I think I'm the one 'losing' here.)

Answer 8

Start complimenting him. Start hugging him. Start telling him you love him. Do each of the 3 things listed 5 times a day. Trust me, he will notice. He may be suspicious at first, but do not stop, and his attitude will change for the good of BOTH of you.

Answer 9

Do you compliment him as well? If you do already, then just do it a ridiculous amount more and then when he asks you why you're doing that, tell him that it's really important to compliment those you love so that they feel good. If he looks like he doesn't get it, yell "HINT, HINT!"

Answer 10

Youre supposed 2 b grown honestly I don't think u should should get a compliment every once in a while.