Ive been married now for 30 + years i go out or hang out with many female friends , married , single all types , my wife does not like to socilaize much i have friends my wife dont with( either sex ) , and the ones she has she does not socialize with at all , so is it wrong to being with these women , even though they trust me 100 % ??
2006-07-15 15:00:38 · 14 answers · asked by stephen_shaffer2001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you are a guy........what the heck is wrong with hanging out with other men? i don't want to hang out with a big group of women, talking about their problems. i have to deal with my wife doing that. why the heck would you seek that out from other women, unless you have "other ideas"?
2006-07-15 16:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by thom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wife unit is a problem? She is not a unit first of all, and she probably has a reason for her fear of other females coming near. Did you ever hear that the other woman are quite attracted to a newly contracted young man.
The idea is that if she, your wife wants you as a steady, then there must be something the girlfriend overlooked, a quality they did not see or at least a second thought for which the beguied is a haunt.
The fact is that often the default set is the wife's suspicion of unknown intent, is to destroy all friendships with potential competing threats.
So they don't make commitments with your friends nor do they allow themselves to become one of the girls who likes for your trends.
But nothing is decided at this stage unless the wife has other competitors for her unusual bedding skills or just a look or toll tale sign when the wife is ripe for dreamy slime, will she be there looking up with a smile that most beguiles.
Watch out for fantasy that goes to wild! Look to real listening, and meditate the same until you feel a real connection, a chance of reconcilation that may lead to a hopeful sensation. Then, wisk her off her feet, with a trunk full of special treats, and ask her out to somewhere discrete, and treat her like the only world you will ever meet.
2006-07-15 16:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she the jelouse type or controlling? I hope you don't have kids.
To socialize w/them or not? It depends on how much your relationship w/your wife means to you. I'm sure she just didn't start being like this. Try inviting her out w/a few of your friends and hers. Does she trust you 100% and have you given her a reason not to? If so then you should deffinetly not go out. She sounds like a nag. Try mariage counseling it may help.
2006-07-15 15:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by chill'n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong, but you putting this on here makes it seem like one of them came on to you. If they are flirting then you need to stand up to them, even if they are women, look them straight in the eye and tell them to back off!!! (your wife will cherish you for that) If this is not the case then there is nothing at all wrong with having girl friends.
2006-07-15 15:06:31 · answer #4 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say yes you can have friends with the opposite sex, the problem is i personally dont hang out with them unless my wife is with me, never is it worth her doubting me ( beyong reproach) and also notgood to be personal with them becuase any one who is married knows that marriage is at best a hard task especially when they are in the lows of the relationship and someone giving consult at the wrong time makes a attachment and a comfort that at the momment your wife cant fill. its too easy to fall in (love/ infatuation) ... whats the risk worth
2006-07-15 15:08:53 · answer #5 · answered by joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell you wife that you are only socializing with your female friends and its part of your life. Let her understand you this way.
2006-07-15 15:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by FRAGINAL, JTM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 30 years why the question?
Is is causing problems in your marriage?
2006-07-15 15:03:45 · answer #7 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say not unless your wife is along. How would you feel if it was her going out with male friends. Put the time and effort in with your wife. she deserves the time not them.
2006-07-15 15:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you should be worried about your friends trusting you. Does your wife trust you?
2006-07-15 15:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it would be but you really ought to get her involved so that way there is no doubts you are true to her only and you should stay true to her
2006-07-15 15:12:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋