I was married fir going on 8 years, we still are, but we're going through a divorce now and he's already moved on and is having sex. It seems too hard for me and I would feel wrong, like Im cheating if I have sex with someone else. Mind you thoughI havent been looking for sex or another man, Im just trying to cope. But if another guy came along would it still be alright?
2006-07-15 14:15:19 · 14 answers · asked by josielove455 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX AFTER the papers are clear, yes, it will be alright. Stop judging your life by your husbands life. In the eyes of the law, he's committing adultry. In time you'll have someone in your life again whom you can love and sex will come easy. Good luck hun XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-15 14:20:38 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure it'd be alright......but it's not truly alright until you're ready. Sometimes after you divorce, it's good for you to get out and meet people on a casual level. Just be honest and date and enjoy meeting new people. You don't have to get into anything serious, it will help take your mind off things, and you will learn a great deal about what dating is like at this stage in your life. I found this the most challenging.....I had been married 10 years.....so dating at 21 was a heck of alot different than dating at 32. Men were more mature, I was too. It was good to test the waters.
2006-07-15 14:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you wait until all the divorce papers are signed the i's are dotted and the t's are crossed so that he cant use that against you in court but you let it be known what he is doing when you do start to date go day by day dont rush anything after the divorce give yourself sometime to relax get him out of your system have some me time for yourself get connected with yourself again and than go on dates but move slow you'll know when your ready for sex also rack up on condoms good luck
2006-07-15 14:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by teresa d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it would be alright! But only if you are ready to take that step. Make sure you are ready mentally and emotionally before you let another man close, even for something like casual sex. Stay strong and listen to your inner heart. Brightest blessings to you!
2006-07-15 14:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by lilbitadevil 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to feel attracted to another man. From my observations I would say it takes a woman between 1-3 years until she overcomes a man - assuming you still have feelings for him. But let me tell you, once you are over him, you start seeing other man and have feelings for other man, you will look back and not understand what you felt for this guy. You'd look at him and think something like: "hey,, i never noticed his teeth are so yellow...:-) "
2006-07-15 14:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it would be alright and when you are ready you'll be fine. Think of the excitement of new romance, butterflies in your tummy and first kisses! Have fun when you get there, but don't worry and take as much time as you need!
2006-07-15 14:19:18 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush? Sex isn't going anywhere....it'll be there when you're ready. When you met the right person nobody will have to tell you how to have sex again. It's as natural as riding a bike. :-)
2006-07-15 14:20:15 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see no problem here. Your husband is doing it....whats good for the goose is good for the gander. Have a good time and enjoy the new relationship when it comes along.
2006-07-15 14:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello how are you i think its up to you but my suggestion men are like just one night stay and than run sorry . you still concentrate and see i hope you got the right person who love and not a fake one.
if you like mail me take care bye
2006-07-15 14:24:18 · answer #9 · answered by Heaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same way you did it before! Put his long pole inside your love hole!
2006-07-15 14:19:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋