I got married to this woman to help her get her kids back but i think it's the worse mistke i made in my life and i'm living to tell my ordeal. every thing is a problem for her where i'm concerned. she wants me to love her kid as mine but they are very disrespectful,lired,rude. they are all over 18 yrs. do you think i'm doing thje right thing by wanting to get out of this situation.
for my family it's a problem when i'm with them but it's ok for her when she is with her family. I ask the question last week about when a wife lies to protect her children so this is a litlle more details.
2006-07-15 14:13:58 · 14 answers · asked by waynegray490 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hate to sound this rude - but how f'in stupid are you? Geez, why not save the trouble and just smash your balls while you're at it? You got to get out of that mess... but you'll soon find that it'll be a lot harder and more expensive to get out of it that it did to get into it. Next time think before you do anything this stupid.
2006-07-15 14:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by RAllen1st 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Wayne, it sounds like she might have been a friend and you did her a favor by marrying her for the kids sake, but now that they are all over 18, you don't need to stay there in an unhappy relationship, the kids are not in any kind of custody battle now. I don't know all the details but that sounds like the case. It depends on the lie about protecting your kids. If it's for their safety and well being, most mothers will lie.
But if you are not happy and it sounds like you aren't, don't stay there just because you were obligated before. Tell her that you're glad she got the kids, they are of age now, and you need to move on, to find someone you love that can be your soul mate, wish her luck in finding hers, and file divorce and leave.
2006-07-15 21:19:33 · answer #2 · answered by Tina of Lymphland.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should leave the situation than she has her kids back so why stay they are over 18 so she doesnt need your help any more if you continue to stay your just making yourself miserable and when your not happy 9 times out of 10 that also causes health problems with some people you did your good deed now do something right for yourself and you go see your family and spend time with them thats your blood and when she aint there they will be
2006-07-15 21:29:42 · answer #3 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd leave the relationship or at least give it a little breathing room. If her kids are disrespectful to you, then why doesn't your lady talk to her kids? Because she allows her children to treat you this way, she is disrespecting you and your relationship and obviously is not trying to help you try to even start to love them. If her children are all over 18 years old, then legally, they don't have to come back home if they don't want to. Good Luck anyway!
2006-07-15 21:18:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave, this woman and her kids will drag you down the longer you stay around them. No one should live with misery hanging over them like a dark cloud day in and day out. Life is too short for that.
2006-07-15 21:42:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're already married so I guess you just didn't think this through. Just because it's tough is no reason to get a divorce. Have you tried to work things out, or did you just give up? I would at least try to make things work.
2006-07-15 21:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if her kids are over 18 how was she trying to get them back? but anyway, no just leave, life is too short and you only get one stab at it. you did the wrong thing with the right intentions, now undo it and have yourself a real life.
2006-07-15 21:32:37 · answer #7 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about your happiness first and what you want out of your life. If you want out then get divorced.
2006-07-15 21:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by cutiepie81289 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have told you to just get out of it but as you're actually MARRIED to the woman...
Counselling?
2006-07-15 21:19:33 · answer #9 · answered by persnickety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of there, the chick is manipulative, and it is not healthy. All her kids are of age, so there is no need for you to father them.
2006-07-15 21:17:40 · answer #10 · answered by jaded.beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋