I'm 45 years old and i've been married for about 24 years.I've been seperated for about 10 or more years.I've had several girlfriend during my separation and every time i mention to my wife about us getting a divorce,she says the only way she'll sign the papers is if i pay for some of her wants with a large sum of money.One time she wanted me to pay for a tummy tuck for $5000.I don't have that kind of money,so i usually just stop thinking about the divorce.But every time i get into another relationship with a woman that i like i have to deal with the fact that i have to tell them that i am still married.This causes me a lot of stress and causes me to deal with trifling types of women who don't care who they are with.I would like to get a divorce as soon as possible,because i recently just start talking to a nice young lady that don't seem like she's going to put up with this kind of drama.What should i tell my wife about these wants,knowing I don't have the money?
2006-07-15 13:48:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
google divorce-ease it's very cheap and you don't need her signature i used them they are great
2006-07-15 14:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by teresa d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just file for the divorce, don't discuss it, don't pay the blackmail, just do it, if you have been seperated that long she doesn't need to sign the papers the divorce will be granted anyway. Its about time you quit letting her walk all over you and manipulate you this way and got your life back once and for all. The courts will notify her, you need to move on and quit playing these games. You teach people how to treat you and you have taught her that she can do this to you again and again. Just stop, there is nothing she can do about it.
2006-07-15 21:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separated for 10 years? What are you thinking! Why haven't you got a divorce long ago? And you are still letting her rip you around? I am surprised that you are allowing her to manipulate you this way, you should have really moved on before this time. She has no control, or influence over you, she shouldn't have anyway, why do you still allow it even after 10 years of separation from her? I don't blame any woman for not wanting to date you. You still are tied to your wife, and that's what she is, your wife.
If you expect to get anyone decent you better get divorced quick, and don't talk with the x about what she wants. It isn't about what she wants any more, and it hasn't been for years. Get with it. Talk to your lawyer and let him do ALL of the communication with her so you don't get weak in the knees and cave in to her. Get going!
2006-07-15 21:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by trainer53 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go and file for the divorce she don't have any say as far as her signature. If she don't show up for the hearing you will be granted the divorce anyway. She cannot demand these things in court, they will laugh her right out the door. If you have the right lawyer you will get the divorce. Especially with how long you have already been seperated from her.
2006-07-15 20:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by cmsmith114 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife can't have what you already don't have -- money. So go ahead and get the divorce. By playing to your wife's games/whims, you'll be a prisoner to her for life. Your wife sounds like a manipulative B***H. So, talk to a lawyer about what your options are. Take charge of your own life and get it back from the witch you married.
2006-07-15 20:57:28 · answer #5 · answered by S&S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can ask (or in your case, Blackmail) you for these frivolous things all she want, it's totally up to a divorce judge. If i were you, I'd go ahead and file for my divorce without even mentioning it to her, she will find out in time. You also need to cut all ties to her, unless of course there are kids involved, and then meet them only in a public place, pay your child support on time and always with a check or money order for a paper trail, and get on with your life.
2006-07-15 20:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She cannot deny you a divorce. Nearly every state has a no-fault divorce law. If you want it, you can have it. If she refuses to sign, the judge will just issue an order granting the divorce without her signature.
Get an attorney now. Dump the ----- and move on.
2006-07-15 21:10:22 · answer #7 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋