If he sees a pic he doesn't like he gets mad. He normally looks at them after I go out with friends. Should I feel like he doesn't trust me? Shoud he be going into my phone without asking, I mean I have nothing to hide I just feel intruded upon. We've been together for almost 9 years.
2006-07-15 11:25:31 · 18 answers · asked by lillisa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I go out with my female friends we dance and drink a little. We go out once or twice a month. Most pic are just acting stupid. My sister sent me a pic of a penis and he got upset about that. I thought the pic was funny. He thought I was there when the pic go taken and was ill.
2006-07-15 11:36:48 · update #1
Did he start doing this out of the blue? Maybe he suspects that you're cheating on him and is being way too paranoid. Tell him that you love him, you're his wife, you've invested 9 years with him, you're not interested in being with anyone else, and you're definitely not going to go anywhere UNLESS he keeps this annoying behavior up.
Maybe you should look through his things and see how he likes it.
2006-07-15 11:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep he is your husband he should have a right to go through anything thats yours as well as you go through anything thats his.. and im sorry i have a hard time thinking if you saw the same types of things on his phone that u wouldnt get alittle jealous as well say if u came acrossed a girl's breast not knowing where it came from.. ??? I know id have a fit.. so stop looking at it as he's being stupid.. because id be almost willing to bet if the shoe were on the other foot u'd have a problem with jealousy .. its always easy for the person that is going out and having a good time ect to act as if its not a big deal and cant understand why their partner doesnt understand because well u were there u knew why so in so did this or that , u know nothing bad happened.. but HE IS CLUELESS he wasnt there, and the pictures he's seeing he's coming up to his own conclusions or assumptions.. maybe u need to be forward with the pictures and show him as soon as possible explaining to him what was going on at that moment.. share the expirence with him so he doesnt feel excluded.. like u have something to hide.. and so he can understand and not come up with his own thoughts ...
2006-07-15 19:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All right, and what kind of pictures does he not like? Because see, if you are married then you don't have any business going out without him to begin with, and if you happen to store pics from male friends, then your husband is suspicious.
As a matter of respect I would say no, your husband ought to ask you first, you have every right to get upset about that. However, you need to ask yourself how you would feel if the situation was revesed---and the both of you need to sit down and talk about this, that's one thing for sure....
2006-07-15 18:31:52 · answer #3 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you own the phone, then he should not be going through it because it violates your privacy, although this does not stop people. Sometimes they go through each others e-mails, phones, etc.
I suggest you tell him that you are not comfortable with him going through your cell phone, and tell him that he should ask permission before doing so.
He may be insecure about your marriage. I have also heard of instances where the person that is snooping around in other peoples things is also the one cheating, but in this case, I would think he is just insecure. You should talk to him, and express to him that you are not comfortable with him going through your phone without first getting permission from you.
2006-07-15 18:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by tiravellian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is tell him you dont like that you tell your husband you dont have nothing to hide if he wants to go through your pics all he need to do is ask if you had somethin gto hide it wouldnt be there for him to find tell him that as well and if he is feeling so insecure maybe you should see what he has in his phone pics
2006-07-15 18:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by nicegirl6880 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey
I am married also and NEVER take pics of what I have done at a club, with my girl friend...have you ever seen that commercial with those ladies that were in Vegas and the one girl has that cell phone and is going thru it looking at all the stuff they got into, she then jumps in the pool and her phone is mysteriously thrown in too? What I'm trying to say is don't take pics you don't want him to see, and certainly don't have dick picks in the phone! Imagine if you seen some girls vagina in his! you would go O-F-F! BE RESPECTFUL GIRLIE! Keep it to yourself!
Stay happy
2006-07-15 19:09:31 · answer #6 · answered by rayjenne24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesn't trust you. He shouldn't be going through your private stuff, no, but you shouldn't have anything that you're hiding from him either. Perhaps you two need to talk about it.
2006-07-15 18:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he isnt secure in your relationship, and even though you are married you still have basic rights, he should not feel the need to look through your stuff, its one thing if he says, hey, can i look through your phone, and you say go ahead, i got nothing to hide.its been 9 years, i think you earned that
2006-07-15 18:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go through his wallet and take out what you think he doesn't need to have in there. Tell him he thinks it's ok for him to go through your personal things without your permission so he shouldn't have a problem with you going through his personal things.
2006-07-15 18:51:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your husband really shouldn't be going through your private stuff maybe you should sit down and talk to him about and tell him how you feel.
2006-07-15 18:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by KC L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋