Am I wrong for not wanting to?

Question

I am a woman who recently experimented 3 times with 2 different women. I didn't tell my husband but he found out and was upset. But he says it is because I hid it from him and didn't tell him. He says he would like to watch. Should I? Also, this experiment was pretty much one sided, as I don't really like the thought of having to reciprocate and "give" that back to another woman, not even with my hand. Does this make me selfish? I don't really care for it but did admit to the husband that sometimes seeing 2 women turns me on. I'm dazed and confused....

Answer 1

There is nothing wrong with feeling sexual attractions towards other women. It's all perfectly natural. If your husband wants to watch i'd advise that you two have a serious discussion about it first. You can never tell where your comfort level will lie and it's good to set boundries and rules before you take part in threesomes and other stuff like that. My husband and I have figure out our own ways of satisfying each others needs. Good luck

Answer 2

If you 'experimented' 3 times, something must have made you want to do it again. Once is 'experimenting', 3 times is something else. You are in a tight spot now as regards your husband, so go ahead and give him a show to remember!
Otherwise this thing is not going to go away, you 'cheated' first, remember? He wants his pound of 'flesh'! It's a bit late to be 'dazed and confused', sweetie.
Smoke a nice joint beforehand, and let it all hang out! You owe it to him! Threesome, foursome, what the hell, you're both adults.
Footnote:
I see you got some advice from some real 'Mother Grundys'. Do what you have to do, you started this 'mess', and only you can end it. You've done it three times before, now you will have an audience, so what?

Answer 3

I think this situation would be worth a good answer if you were just dating, but since you're married I'm not sure that bringing someone else into the picture is such a good idea for your marriage.

Are you having any doubts about your marriage & is that why you experimented with other women?

No, you're not wrong for not wanting to let him watch, but you are wrong for having sexual relations with someone other than your husband and someone of the same sex. That's a mortal sin.

I don't mean to offend or upset you, but you asked.

Answer 4

I really don't think that you are selfish. It is just about every man's dream to watch 2 or more women to do it to each other, and I do think that it is also ok to get turned on by 2 women for you---what's not ok is if you feel like you have to do this to please your husband. He probably feels that you deprived him of an opportunity, and you might feel that you have to please him, but no, you do not have to please him. What you should do is tell him exactly how you feel about this whole thing and ask him not to expect from you what you are unable to do. Good luck

Answer 5

I think that just because you like to see it doesn't mean your bi or gay. I mean you see on the nature channel animals getting it on and you watch. It's human nature.I think if you really want to know if you are then you should try to you know to them. That way you can stop being confused. I'm straight but I really think that what I said is correct.

Answer 6

You and hubby rent lesbian videos and let the real lesbians be.It will turn you guys on,oh and I think you are using these women for sex,sound familiar?
It is better to give than to receive?

Answer 7

I think it will make things worse... It may turn him on and then he may want to have sex with the other woman while she is doing you. Would you be able to handle that?

Answer 8

do what your heart feel, but talk to a close friend, because you husband is giving you a bad influnce on your decision. so think for yourself

Answer 9

I think you should stop now before it gets out of control.

Answer 10

if you want to experiment its normal,but so is the male fantasy of 2 women.dont leave him out.