Marriage & Divorce - 26 June 2006

Since he loves other women more than me, I am willing to set him free to let him do what he loves to do... be with other women instead of the wife and his flesh and blood kids. One of his women even has a son and he has been financially supporting them as well even though he kept complaining he doesnt have enough money to support me and my kids!! I just dont get it!!

2006-06-26 05:50:38 · 21 answers · asked by DiL 3

Are you more reluctant about getting married again? Has one failed marriage put you off doing it again?

2006-06-26 05:48:35 · 26 answers · asked by LONDONER © 6

We started out perfectly from the second we met. We always had fun together no matter what happened. After 6 months, external factors (job, family, friends etc) gave us both so much stress. I was so stressed out that sometimes i lay in bed all day. We started fighting in nov - december and it got worse in Jan. I was a whole different person and I've never been that angry in my entire life. We both said insane things to each other. Thinking back it's almost as if I was possed by the devil haha... We broke up. Now its 5-6 months later. 2 (feb-march) months after the break up, id call to see if she was ok. She'd get mad and acted completely cold. I saw her in the 3rd month (april), and she was crying. she kissed me, hugged me... In may I saw her again. She acted cold and later appologised saying "it was a defense thing." Thats the short of it. email me for details, but any ideas on how to revive this? I feel like she's trying hard to convince herself that she doesn't love me..

2006-06-26 05:45:34 · 25 answers · asked by Darkwater 1

hi im 20 and im with a lady that is a bit older than me, were not married but its going to happen soon, and we want children but she thinks im to young, and she wont believe me when i say that i want kids more than anything, how can i show her or tell her that i want to settle down and start a family, im an old fashioned kinda guy fron England, any help would be good cheers

2006-06-26 05:44:27 · 4 answers · asked by allybally 3

"I am having an affair with my ex husband, but he is married. At first he was going to leave his wife which is why I hooked back up with him, but when he tried he found it too hard to leave his son. He and I have been friends since our divorce and since we hooked back up a bout a year and a half ago we have become best of friends. I don't want to lose him at all, but especially not his friendship. How do I tell him he needs to chose his wife and let me go or chose to be with me and let his wife go without sounding like I am giving him an altimatium; I just think it is unfair to me - I am having a really hard time being apart from him and seeing him with her?

2006-06-26 05:40:24 · 13 answers · asked by lbow9465 1

I see way too many lonely married women and men looking for what their not getting at home. Lonely & married women and men chime in and tell us your story. I'm a married man and i'm not getting what I want/need at home. This seems to be all too common these days. I think it has alway been this way and people are just now finding it socaly acceptable to get what they want at several different places. We are complex people with compex needs. Can we really fill all those needs with one person? Should we rethink marrage and its roll in the future. When something has a failure rate of 50-60%, should it be adjusted?

2006-06-26 05:37:03 · 7 answers · asked by slim146000 1

(If this question does not apply to you, please don't answer.)
What did you do to become ok with it, yadda yadda yadda.

2006-06-26 05:21:48 · 8 answers · asked by eddysmomma 4

Do you feel guilty after having an affair or a one night stand? IF the answer is yes, what do you do to ease the guilt?

2006-06-26 05:17:59 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you could have an affair with absolutely no risk of being caugth, would you do it?

2006-06-26 05:12:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

How do you trust someone who repetitively lies to you, has repetitively cheated on you, and yet declares his undying love for you and is ready to make it work, but tells you that it is easier said than done.

2006-06-26 05:10:20 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

..He cheated 2 months after our first baby was born, he had an affair with a homewrecker female..n-e how... he ofcorse came back crying and beging for forgiveness, I took him back..But my heart is still hurting and I hate him more than i ever loved him..I want to try for my sons sake... But there is not one day that goes by with out me thinking back on how much damage he did to me..
Honestly i know he doesnt even try to gain me back.. I HONESTLY FEEL I DONT LOVE HIM AT ALL ..not n-e more.. could it b possible that i do love him but can see it cus im so blinded by my anger.. or is it possible to hate.. as much as i one day loved him..? Do feelings change this drasticly..? We are now engaged, But I dont want to marry him n-e more.. I waited 4 years for him to marry me.. but now.. It means NOTHING to me... who can help me forgive? how can i forgive? should i even try??

2006-06-26 05:09:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

be honest! esp indian and pakistani guys!

2006-06-26 05:04:48 · 4 answers · asked by tobeornottobe 4

We see our therapist seperately every-other-week alternating with each other plus our therapists. His therapist generally runs the show... We are simply there for general marital problems (no cheating, etc.). My main concern is that I am noticing my husband tells his therapist things that aren't true. He says I say things I didn't and that I react a certain way that I didn't. When we're all together he will argue with me, and I refuse to argue in front of people and don't want to make a scene. I feel like I need to be defending myself, especially when he says something that's not true and then cries about it! His therapist acts like I'm being cold or something, and argues with me. What should I do??

2006-06-26 05:01:47 · 15 answers · asked by J.Ahad 2

What does your wife have to do for you to make you happy? Do you ask her to? Does she just know? Or do you talk about what your needs and desires are?

2006-06-26 04:59:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been seeing a married man for quite awhile. He is educated, professional, attractive, married many years with grown children. He appears to be a good husband and has a very good relationshlip with his children and their families. He is always doing family things and holidays and stuff. He does stuff for his wife around the house and is a welll balanced sane person. His wife doesn't like to have sex much and he has a high sex drive and he is the best lover I have found. I don't consider myself a homewrecker and I have never done this kind of thing before. I have dated single men and haven't found them to have the same good qualities as he does. Some of them have been real jerks. I myelf would rather be married to a man like him than have a faithful jerk who probably only stays faithful because he has nothing to offer a woman (I'm not talking about money, I'm talking about passion and romance and trying new things).

2006-06-26 04:53:28 · 18 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5

He has the kids four days a month. He is constantly asking for more time with the kids, but on the days he has them he's leaving them with his wife most of the time. Like this weekend, he's out doing his own thing while his wife is entertaining my kids, and he's not even there, all day! Yet he wants more time, time he takes away from me. I value my time with the kids.

2006-06-26 04:53:11 · 13 answers · asked by ? 3

My husband is a mommies boy and it drives me crazy. Im from oregon and hes from Cali but his parents are moving to Tenessee, His mom drives me nutz! She has total control over him pretty much to a point where its frusterating. She told him that shell give us a house on their property in TN, once the babys born so we can live near her. like a five minute walk. she said shell be over everyday. I can stand her that much. Ho do I stress to him that its not what I want. I like her, but I dont think I could put up with her everyday! Shes a drama Queen!

2006-06-26 04:48:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

what do u do when you had to choose between to guys and the one you picked and married was the wrong one? ive been married to him for 3 1/2 months and everything has changed from 2 years ago but when i talk to the other guy who is the father of my daughter everything seems right. what do i do?

2006-06-26 04:38:53 · 18 answers · asked by frog lover 2

I suffered from domestic voilence when i was with my ex then he left me without any money or documents in india and had our kids i have been fighting to get them but no luck its been 5 yrs , two years ago i got married to someone out of race and have a baby but people now say that i left my kids becouse i wanted to be with my now husband which is total lie.

2006-06-26 04:34:57 · 14 answers · asked by shaina77mcelroy 2

was this an advantage or disadvantage to you both? explian please.

2006-06-26 04:17:55 · 9 answers · asked by helix 3

i had trouble getting over my x, when i got together with my actual bf. everything was ok, until i met this guy, that makes me feel so different, like if i could be myself with. i know that my bf is about to propose, but last week we had a big fight that made me think i couldnt get married with him. so i went out with this new guy, n im over thinking everything.....i just met him but i like him, n my bf i know him already but i dont think im too in love with him to get married with him...what can i doooooo????? i really need advice..so thanks!

2006-06-26 04:13:56 · 24 answers · asked by marble 1

every time my man has a few drinks he starts yapping about this old neighbor cute gal. My question is should I marry this guy?

2006-06-26 04:08:13 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been married for a year and I love kids but I am not sure when we would be ready to talk about it... He is a pilot in the Army and I know he will be gone a lot....

2006-06-26 03:58:53 · 16 answers · asked by davenlinshart 2

My husband of 3 yrs lost his brother and father in a car accident a year ago and he's never been the same.He hasn't smiled in what seems like forever,he barely talks to me or anyone really and just drinks or sleep his sorrow away.I've tried to help in any way I could but he won't let anyone in and I don't know how much more I can take.He refuses counceling and won't talk about what he's thinking or feeling and I feel like I'm losing my best friend.I'd do anything to make it better but it's like he dead inside and has no reason to live and there's nothing I can do to fix it.What do I do?I can't take it anymore.Do I walk away?

2006-06-26 03:58:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok heres the deal i am married 32 yrs old with 4 kids only 3 at home my marriage is falling apart i have had hell for three years and now i dont have the same love for her that i once had i have told her and everyone else but they just seem to think that i am going thru depression i am always mad and very irratated which is not me at all this whole deal is even affecting my work can anyone out there please help me yes there has been suicidal thoughts and attempts in the past but i dont think that that is a threat right now i just want to feel normal again

2006-06-26 03:51:02 · 11 answers · asked by Jason R 1

it isn't going to be easy as we own a house together and I won't be able to re pay the mortgage on my own, he is mentally abusive to me and to my four children from a previous marriage, he has no time for our own son of 2 either. I am at the end of my tether.

2006-06-26 03:38:12 · 33 answers · asked by Guernsey girl 1

It's been 4 yrs. since I've had sex. Going through a long divorce. I have been out of the dating loop so long, I'm terrified. How do I erase all the bad memories and maybe someday find love.

2006-06-26 03:33:18 · 15 answers · asked by momprotect 2

My husband and I split up for about a month. We have 4 month old twin daughters together. He has 10 year old twin boys, and I treat them like they are mine. And this weekend I had my step daughter from my previous marriage with us as well. On Friday and Saturday we had a great "family" time - all seven of us. We do not live together because we are trying to work it all out, but he spent the weekend at my house. On Sunday he gets up and says he has to go to his Mother's house to sign some papers and he and the boys will be having lunch there. OK - no big deal - relationships are a little bitter right now between all of us and I try not to make anyone uncomfortable. But then one of the boys blurts out they are going swimming at Nana's. This is when I got very angry. I never show any difference between my girls and his boys - and to me - he split the family to accomodate his Mother. After I ran all weekend taking care of five children - am I wrong to be angry?

2006-06-26 03:28:06 · 12 answers · asked by a1025goodgirl 1

We are oceans apart and waiting to be together. Never met in person but deeply in love. We have known each other for the past two years but confessed our love for each other for about one year now. There is alot of other problems to settle before i leave my country to be with him forever.

2006-06-26 03:25:30 · 14 answers · asked by lovesick 1

my sister (toni has an avatar) has been going through a hard divorce beetween our parents

2006-06-26 03:25:12 · 8 answers · asked by J-love 1