what do u do when you had to choose between to guys and the one you picked and married was the wrong one? ive been married to him for 3 1/2 months and everything has changed from 2 years ago but when i talk to the other guy who is the father of my daughter everything seems right. what do i do?
2006-06-26 04:38:53 · 18 answers · asked by frog lover 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im adding this to let you know both wanted me and a life with me, i had to make that chosse, if i chose thet father of my daughter my family wouldn't talk to me anymore.
2006-06-26 04:45:56 · update #1
follow your heart. ask for a divorce if that is waht you want and take time to get to know your babys daddy. then decide if you want him or someone else. make yourself happy and always think about your daughter or any child.
2006-06-26 04:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've only been married for under 4 months. Marriage isn't all fantasy land. It's not perfect. You and your spouse have to work hard at it. Think of it as a beautiful garden. The garden can't tend itself. You have to make sure there's fertilizer, plant food, water, sun (not too much or too little), climate, soil temperature, pruning, weeding, tiling the soil, mulching, etc. You need to talk to him and make time for one another. Try to understand each others' feelings and frustrations. It takes time. Of course, marriage is different than dating. The real them comes out but that doesn't mean that the nice things should go too. Below is a site that may help you and your spouse out. Best wishes and take care.
2006-06-26 11:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by mothergoose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong decision. The problem can't be solved without cost. Divorce is your option. But only if you are so sure that the other guy will get-together with you again. As he is a father of your child says nothing about what he will do with you. He might be right just because you are boring. Check your feeling first.
2006-06-26 11:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by devid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 & 1/2 months is not long enough to give a marriage a chance. Either you've known since the get-go, or you're really looking for a way out. I get the feeling that you would have felt like you chose wrong either way.
2006-06-26 14:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by shelleygail76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did it ever occur that your child's daddy is nice because you are out of his hair. What the hell are you doing 3months into a marriage wondering if he's not the right guy. Are all your decisions as flawed as your marriage decision is? Do all the men of this world a favor. Divorce your husband , become a hermit and stay away from others. What did your husband do to deserve such a shallow, cheap, wandering individual as you seem to be. Get out now, stay away from men. They do not need the complications you bring to relationships.
2006-06-26 11:52:35 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u get married things changed and u have to changed with it don't nothing stay the same but u have to really think about what u want to do before u do it its a reason why u did not stay with your baby father and it a reason why u choose this other man so go back to the reason and see if u can work it out before u just up and leave your husband if u think about it why would u want to go back to someone who has not change at all that mean he his not grown none and u don't want that
2006-06-26 11:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by poohbearbear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all it's two guys not to. and what makes you think that you picked the wrong guy? the father of your daughter didn't want to marry you. seems to me you were and probaly is still a piece of butt for him. WAKE UP and get your self respect back as well as morals, integrity and ethics.
2006-06-26 11:42:42 · answer #7 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prepare yourself for a screwed up life and go on the Jerry Springer show.
2006-06-26 11:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 1/2 months....get out now if that aint where you wanna be. but dont hurt the guy.
2006-06-26 11:40:50 · answer #9 · answered by chevy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you made your bed by taking a vow before God. Now it's up to you to make the best of it.
2006-06-26 11:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋