I see way too many lonely married women and men looking for what their not getting at home. Lonely & married women and men chime in and tell us your story. I'm a married man and i'm not getting what I want/need at home. This seems to be all too common these days. I think it has alway been this way and people are just now finding it socaly acceptable to get what they want at several different places. We are complex people with compex needs. Can we really fill all those needs with one person? Should we rethink marrage and its roll in the future. When something has a failure rate of 50-60%, should it be adjusted?
2006-06-26 05:37:03 · 7 answers · asked by slim146000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage takes work. You have to decide to work on this relationship and actually communicate your needs as well as find out the needs of your mate. Don't assume you know what the needs are. Actually go somewhere and talk. Talk about desires, hopes and dreams again. You can do it as you did it in the beginning. I think people just give up on a marriage because they don't want to try anymore.
2006-06-26 05:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a romantic, so I believe that there is one person that would be THE ONE for me.
However, I just married the wrong one.
I can definitely say that marriage does not hold the same values it once did, which is sad. I would love for one person to be the one and only and all for me.
I would also like to be that for someone.
However, I do know of people who have relationships out side the marriage to fill a void for what they are missing in their marriage. To me, if your not happy, you need to get out, but I also know, from experience, that it is difficult, with money and kids involved, so that is why more people are finding what they are lacking with someone else.
sometimes, if the person is lucky, the "someone else" turns out to be the one who has exactly what you need.
2006-06-26 05:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi slim, yep i'm one of those women for sure. Married and lonely. I feel like my husband and i are roommates. well maybe more like enemies. it makes me so sad, this is never how i imagined it would be. we can't even communicate about the smallest things. i just feel like he's clueless about everything except sports. im on the verge of leaving him again. if i only had the means to do so. i love him and care about him, but there is no passion, love, affection, or even friendship. i want to be married ( i hate divorce) but i also feel i cant live feeling like this anymore. i'd be wasting years of my life that are so important. i also worry about the kids living in such a disfunctional home seeing their parents fight most of the time and never seeing us hug or kiss, it hurts so much to know the pain that we have caused to our innocent babies. so anyway you are right, it seems to be that the majority of people married are hurting, lonely, depressed and wanting more of what they don't get at home.
2006-06-26 06:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by toni h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know how y'all feel believe me , I'm actually in my second marriage and I thought it was "THE ONE" for sure you kno. He is older BUT perfect , or so I thought, he's a wonderful Father , that Ill give him, he's a wonderful provider, cant take that away the problem is just this and maybe Im being selfish I dnt know , any input wld also be appreciated, The problem lays in his work I met him at a time when i was at my lowest and believe me he was a life savor so to speak. BUT his job and YES i know he needs to work but he goes out of town for months at a time ( he's a journeyman) Now to answer your question Yes he worked like that when we met BUT before I got into a relationship I was told he was going to stay Local, Now the babies are crying missin their daddy and I have to admit so am I, its really LONELY.
2006-06-26 06:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by Angel B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because people are just screwed up in general. I do however think that one person can satisfy the needs of their partner but you can't settle for less or you will be in that kind of situation when you get married.
2006-06-26 05:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking us questions you need to ask yourself. I wonder if you look to us for confirmation of these questions you need to ask yourself in order to maybe justify what you might be contemplating or are already doing. If you understand that we are complex people with complex needs you need to ask that question of yourself in regards to your married partner and also ask yourself if you have worked on fulfilling those complex needs of your complex partner. Sit down and answer all the questions you are asking us. You have the answers to your questions we can only confirm or disagree with them.
2006-06-26 05:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by andrew v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this seems to me like you are just trying to use this site to find a woman to have an affair with
2006-06-26 05:39:31 · answer #7 · answered by whoisgod71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋