We have been married for a year and I love kids but I am not sure when we would be ready to talk about it... He is a pilot in the Army and I know he will be gone a lot....
2006-06-26 03:58:53 · 16 answers · asked by davenlinshart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am sorry to not clarify.... he does want to have kids (4 actually, we talked about this before we got married) So I know he does want children I am just not sure when we should actually start... I am 23
2006-06-26 04:31:12 · update #1
There is not a good time, every moment will be good
2006-06-26 03:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by ice cream with chocolate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel ready to talk about it then its the best time to do it. If you are not sure about how your husband thinks, take the round about way and ask him how he sees his family in about 5 years or something like that. I am getting married this July and I have told my boyfriend a couple years ago I want children very soon. We sat down and talked about it, when would be the best time, what will have to change first and so on. it helps to talk so both of you know where each of you stands with this topic.
good luck
2006-06-26 04:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by lonestar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have kids right away, wait a little and get your relationship and your finances in shape before you talk about staring a family.
Right now you really want to travel and do all the things that you want to do before you get "housebounded" taking care of an infant.
I say 2-3 years into a marriage is a good time frame. If you are not 35 yet then you have plenty of time to plan ahead.
2006-06-26 04:09:34 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that should have been talked before you got married.....because that's the problem now,....what if he doesn't like having kids, what if he want to wait 5, 10 years from now....but you don't......then what....? Are you going to divorce just because that....no. But you can bring things easy to him, like bring a friend that has a baby, and asking him like would it be nice to have our own kids,.......or when going shopping stop by the children clothes and grab a pair of little socks and say to him like how would this little sock will look in our little boy when we have one......and then you can suggest that if he want to work hard to get into that.....remember that if you want a baby, is not going to be easy for you, because he is going to be most of the time out, since he is a pilot and is always out......i am telling you this because it can bring problems later in life, if you don't stick to your responsabilities as a mother of the baby.....don't tell him that you are struggling with the baby, and he is not....because he is going to let you know that you knew that he was going to be out most of the time......just becareful with the baby.....a baby is a bless from God......so take good care of him or her when it arrives.....
2006-06-26 04:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by israelmoya20 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, couples should talk about having children, raising children and religion before they get married. I believe that when you are about to get married, based on what you know about the person/spouse, you can only expect them to change so much for you. It is not reasonable to ask someone to change completely for you because then you are not marrying them but someone you created. You should sit and talk to your husband about children. Find out how he feels. How much time will the both of you be able to devote to this child? How much are you, both, willing to sacrifice for the child?...your answer should be everything. Once you become a parent, you are one for life. Chose wisely for your situation. I, myself, have 3 children. Life is very different but special. Best wishes and take care.
2006-06-26 04:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by mothergoose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it now! Why wait? I've almost been married a year too but I'm still not ready for kids. I'm 28 and my husband is 36. I think if I said I wanted them, we would start now...but he's fine either way.
2006-06-26 04:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you got married.
2006-06-26 04:00:10 · answer #7 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both are in love, then you can talk about it any time you wish, and he'll listen and talk to you from his point of view, and generally some kind of optimistic medium is pursued.
2006-06-26 04:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by The Witten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any time is good. Bring it up, you'll never be happy if you don't ask. You should have discussed this before marriage, though.
2006-06-26 04:07:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him about that. When you feel ready, you are ready. Good luck.
2006-06-26 04:02:04 · answer #10 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk about it when you have enough money. Trust me, children will eat you poor
2006-06-26 04:01:31 · answer #11 · answered by nice_dog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋