How do you trust someone who repetitively lies to you, has repetitively cheated on you, and yet declares his undying love for you and is ready to make it work, but tells you that it is easier said than done.
2006-06-26 05:10:20 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't trust that person! If their behavior is repetitive then they don't mean what they say. Actions speak louder than words. You deserve better. Move on with your life. The best way to get over one is to find another. Best of luck to you. God bless.
2006-06-26 05:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar Dumplin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, you sound like me in a lot of ways. After a lot of thought about this and talking to my friends and of course my mother is "How Do You Feel?" Do you love him enough to want to see it work? If you answer Yes to that then you have the biggest part of your question answered. The thing here is what do you really believe, that you can't trust him or that he does indeed love you, this is something only YOU can decide, not everyone is perfect and not everyone believes the same things. My husband and I grew up very differently - I came from a very stick Catholic, go to church every Sunday and my husband came from a family where his parents were "Swingers" so that behavior was acceptable. We are working on our issues on being open and honest and are seeing where we are. The one thing that does keep us together in this difficult time is that I know he loves me deeply and I him, so I right now I am going to continue to love him the best way I know how. Do I trust him now ??? Not completely, but maybe someday soon I will. Good luck and just follow your heart.
2006-06-26 12:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you may mean well and evidently truly love this person, but things won't change in this life time. I've been where you are headed and now that it's finally ended a year ago, my stress level is almost zero. He's with one of those he cheated with and I'm working toward getting my life where I want to be. He's still trying to come back, but it won't work on my part. It's going to take you to decide what you want in your life before giving up years, (31) that you will never be able to turn back to reclaim your loss. So, you're in the state of making your life long choices, no one else can do this for you. Good Luck!
2006-06-26 12:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you're going through this! From my own experience I can tell you that you CAN'T trust him. How long have you taken this emotional abuse? If you've tried counseling and he's continued to undermine your relationship, you've done all you can. Cut your losses and take time to heal for a while. In that way, someone wonderful and trustworthy can come into your life. Do you know where all the great guys are? They are waiting for you to drop the loser!
2006-06-26 12:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to prove it. Get them to share everything with you over a specific amount of time. Have the open communication with you....or either the other choice would be to end it, you should feel trust and honesty from the beginning
2006-06-26 12:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by Babs B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't trust him. Move on. He will only continue to hurt you and make you miserable.
2006-06-26 12:21:36 · answer #6 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never trust them. Assume they are cheating.
2006-06-26 12:21:58 · answer #7 · answered by ndmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have seen it for yourself, someone need to earn it by showing you who live up for truth...people that lie do not have a long life.....
2006-06-26 12:19:28 · answer #8 · answered by firewall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have patience and faith, keep trying. persoanlly give it up. he isnt worth ur trust
2006-06-26 12:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by tobeornottobe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they have to earn your trust back that is how
2006-06-26 13:11:11 · answer #10 · answered by amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋