I have been seeing a married man for quite awhile. He is educated, professional, attractive, married many years with grown children. He appears to be a good husband and has a very good relationshlip with his children and their families. He is always doing family things and holidays and stuff. He does stuff for his wife around the house and is a welll balanced sane person. His wife doesn't like to have sex much and he has a high sex drive and he is the best lover I have found. I don't consider myself a homewrecker and I have never done this kind of thing before. I have dated single men and haven't found them to have the same good qualities as he does. Some of them have been real jerks. I myelf would rather be married to a man like him than have a faithful jerk who probably only stays faithful because he has nothing to offer a woman (I'm not talking about money, I'm talking about passion and romance and trying new things).
2006-06-26 04:53:28 · 18 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know I can never do things with him like he does with his family but then again none of the single guys I have dated have included me in their activities either. I might be left out of his life but then I have always been left out of any guys life that I have date when it came to doing special lthings or going on trips or whatever
2006-06-26 05:06:18 · update #1
As far as the Std thing goes, one doesn't get it from cheating on their spouse , it comes from doing with with an infected person. You could just as easily get something from sleeping with a single person. Single people are not necessarily monogamous either. We took precautions when we first got together but now that we have been together for quite a while we do it the natural way.
2006-06-26 05:16:49 · update #2
He can be a greast husband. It does not stop him from being a liar, cheat and scumbag. That's right, you are seeing a scumbag. He is using YOU. You will never have him except for sex. Do you know where that puts you? Why don't you try new things like having him spend Christmas and New Years with you on a cruise? Oh that's right he's being a good husband. Quit being the sucker. Send him back to his wife. Go find a guy who has human flaws but still has some sense of integrity and ethics. They may not be such passionate traits but work better in the long term.
2006-06-26 05:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say this, if he is cheating there is more to it than that his wife is not very sexual with him. Yes i do agree that men experiecne and orgasm way differntly this us women. Does this mean that is is ok for a man to go out and break every wedding vow that he took under oath, just becusae he has a high sex drive????? with that being said, yes he might be a good father and a great husband, but with that comes honesty and repect, fedilty all these things make a good wife or husband. Now he if hets caught with you he would have broken all the imortant things that matter to his wife, and obvisoulsy you dont get too the whole situation becuase your on the outside, what he choosing to do with you is wrong and if and when the wife evers finds out he will be doomed, then what, he will find somone else to screw, besides you, if he has you and his wife to screw at different times of the week it is pretty obvisous that he needs more than one women all the time right
2006-06-26 05:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by prettygirl new orleans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good husband ALWAYS stays with his wife and would never cheat.
Based on what you explained, you are there for no other reason than to fulfil a need. If his wife found out and wanted to keep him, it wouldn't take much for him to end things with you to save his marriage. In fact, when his wife finds out and divorces him, he won't head your way (at least not in the way of a relationship) but find someone closer to his wife.
Understand something YOU ARE THE MISTRESS. Therefore, YOU ARE TREATED LIKE A MISTRESS. If you want to be known more than a mistress find a single guy (he's probably already around) that will treat you like you want to be treated.
2006-06-26 05:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by King H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a home wrecker. Whatever happens with their sex life is between them. Maybe he should try counseling and figuring out what is wrong before going and getting a mistress. This is coming from a woman who had a husband who cheated on her. You have no right to praise him or how good he is to her. He's cheating on her and you say that you would love a man like that. How about finding a man of your own and if it happens to you then let us know how it feels. I hope she finds out about the two of you.
2006-06-26 05:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by rosebud1320 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a good husband on the surface...he's not a good husband if he's not being faithful to his wife. He said marriage vows making that promise and he's not standing by that. Of course his wife doesn't like sex much...or at least that's what he's telling you to get what he wants. Personally, I won't tolerate a cheating husband...his butt would be out fast, no matter how "good" he appeared......I respect myself more than that.
2006-06-26 05:31:28 · answer #5 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating might be ok if these two things would or could be true.....1. It would be an open marriage where he could sleep around and the wife would know, and could also sleep around.
OR, and this one is a stretch!!!! 2. He wouldn't bring any diseases home!!!!!! How would you like to here this...Honey I'm so sorry, I've been cheating and I have aids...so now you do too!!! So see, cheating...NO GOOD!!!!!
2006-06-26 05:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by StephNLee2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE A HOMEWRECKER!!
You know he has a wife...
You know he has a family... that will always come b-4 you...
You may want to believe what ever he tells you about his wife.. but one thing is for sure...
A CHEATER IS ALSO A LIER.....
You know i feel sorry for you.... Puting your self in this situation.. for SEX...
You have no idea how selfish you are.... To do this to her....
If he is so unhappy why doesnt he leave her.....
If you are so much better why are you the 3rd wheel....
I HAVE BEEN IN HER SHOES... AND I CAN TELL YOU MY HEART IS STILL HURTING... BUT I DO KNOW THEY JUST LIKE YOU TWO ARE BOTH AT FOULT...
I STILL CAN UNDERSTAND WHY IS THERE NO COMUNICATION...... WHY CAN HE BE MAN ENOUGH TO TELL HER WHAT HE WANTS...WHY IS THER WOMAN LIKE YOU ..... THAT GO ARROUND BEING OK WITH MAN LIKE HIM... MESSING UP OTHERS LIFES....
GOOD LUCK AND I HOPE ONE DAY YOU DONT REGRET ALL OF THE HARM YOU ARE CAUSING ... I HOPE GOD GIVES YOU A BREAK AND DOESNT EVER MAKE YOU SUFFER THE WAY I SUFFERD ... DONT THINK SHE WILL NEVER FIND OUT...THE TRUTH IS YOU ARE A HOMEWRECKER... YOU ARE AS GUILTY AS HE IS.. AND YOU WILL BE AT FOULT WHEN SHE FINDS OUT...
2006-06-26 05:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to be with someone who will probably cheat on you, given his history? You deserve to be with someone who will only be with you and no one else. I know it will be hard to break up with someone after being with them for so long
. Despite what you may tell him, if you stay with him, he will think he can get away with cheating on you. Do yourself a favor and break up with him. Take some time to get over this relationship and in time you will realize just how much better you are without him.
It is better to be single and giving yourself the chance to find someone who will love only you, then to be cheated on time and time again by someone who doesn’t even love you. Don’t give this married guy the satisfaction of knowing he can sweet talk you into staying with him. Stand up to him and show him that you know your worth more then the way he has treated you.
Take care and I wish you the best
2006-06-26 05:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by sexysilky2121 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dewd. once a cheater, ALWAYS A CHEATER. how can a man still be a good husband once he did? he may be a good and talented person but his guts to cheat on his wife can change his and her life into a disaster.
**I'm telling this as a child of one of the husbands who cheats. My dad ruined my entire life into nothing.**
2006-06-26 05:01:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE A HOME-WRECKER!!
You know he has a wife...
You know he has a family... that will always come b-4 you...
You may want to believe what ever he tells you about his wife.. but one thing is for sure...
A CHEATER IS ALSO A LIER.....
You know i feel sorry for you.... Pu-ting your self in this situation.. for SEX...
You have no idea how selfish you are.... To do this to her....
If he is so unhappy why doesn't he leave her.....
If you are so much better why are you the 3rd wheel....
I HAVE BEEN IN HER SHOES... AND I CAN TELL YOU MY HEART IS STILL HURTING... BUT I DO KNOW THEY JUST LIKE YOU TWO ARE BOTH AT FAULT...
2006-06-26 05:36:15 · answer #10 · answered by ojitos_098 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋