i had trouble getting over my x, when i got together with my actual bf. everything was ok, until i met this guy, that makes me feel so different, like if i could be myself with. i know that my bf is about to propose, but last week we had a big fight that made me think i couldnt get married with him. so i went out with this new guy, n im over thinking everything.....i just met him but i like him, n my bf i know him already but i dont think im too in love with him to get married with him...what can i doooooo????? i really need advice..so thanks!
2006-06-26 04:13:56 · 24 answers · asked by marble 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that you should over think this! You shouldn't get married to someone that you are not in love with. Liking someone and loving someone is completely different. Once you marry them that should be it. You shouldn't go into marriage counting on the divorce card as a back door. You really have to stick together through good and bad, sickness and health, richer or poorer and it should be forever 'til death do you part. People that go into marriage half-hearted are the ones raising the divorce rate. If you feel this way, you should talk to him about it. If you know that he's going to propose and you go and date someone else...that's a sure way of knowing you are not ready to settle down with him. You should be truthful to him and yourself. At the same time, you should marry someone that you can be yourself with. Best wishes.
2006-06-26 04:29:56 · answer #1 · answered by mothergoose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, there is a saying 'Don't leave the one who loves You for the one you like, because the One you like will leave you for the One They love!' Do you get it. Think hard at what you're doing. Are you willing to risk it all for someone you just met? All relationships go through hard times (fussing and arguing). These arguments are testing the strength of the relationship. If you feel like you will never go back to your current bf and there will be no regrets then go ahead with the new guy.
2006-06-26 11:29:35 · answer #2 · answered by Chyna D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time b/c u barely met thatt new guy so get to know him even better meanwhile tell ur bf what's going on (tell him that u dont know whether u really want to spend the rest of ur life with him and that u r going to need more time to figure out what it is that u want out of life) and get to know the new guy a lot more b/c alot of guys act one way when u just meet them but later they change so it's just a matter of time.
Good Luck
2006-06-26 11:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You r in two minds gal!! u r just not thinkin clearly...all i cn say is do not commit until u r fully satisfied and contented...dere's no point in just going after a guy cos he's better than d one whom u've bin with?? cmon..if that was d story no one wud b in relationships...cos there is a better option always..its not abt loving a perfect person..its abt loving an imperfect person perfectly...no one can help u wid it...its u who has to decide...
are u really in luv wid ur actual bf..??? does he really love u...forget the new one and think that if a new person wudnt hav come in ur life..wont u hav said yes to da actual one??? den take the new guy into picture and...think...is it going to last forever...
all i think is that u need to give time to both...u need more time to analyse whts correct and wht not...bt get this into ur mind gal that aftr u make a decision no one cn change d way ur life will proceed..atleast u r sure abt ur actual one dat he's gonna propose...who knws if dis new one is just playin games..??? so turn to ur intuition...n brain...n do take a decision aftr serious thinkin....hope everythin turns out well...take care n all d best !!
2006-06-26 11:22:46 · answer #4 · answered by mysterious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not ready to marry, but in order to avoid what I think you fell into as a result of a rebound again, I think you should back out of the bf scene and find out whats best for you before you jump from one guy to the next because you think he is better for you than the last..starting to sound like a pattern your creating.
2006-06-26 11:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is ANY doubt in your mind you do not need to get married! I would talk to him before he proposes to you because you would literally break his heart if you waited until you proposed to him. Remember the grass is always greener on the other side and it may be greener but it might not taste to good either. So before you up and leave I would talk to him. If you can't be yourself around you b/f then you should not be getting married. Remember when you get married you should be bestfriends with him and should have no maybes in you head or heart!
2006-06-26 11:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by davenlinshart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend proposes just tell him that you don't think you're ready for that because it sounds like you aren't. Don't marry someone unless you are 99.9% sure that you are doing the right thing. You don't want to have to go through a divorce later or have regrets!
2006-06-26 11:20:11 · answer #7 · answered by dolphin2253 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say this new guy came in to your life for a reason. The reason is you dont want to marry your bf. He has made you question it so that tells you, you should not get married.
2006-06-26 11:17:28 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey here is the deal. Relationships will have up and downs. when you get married or hopefully if you get married you will have to go through. plus just imagine what you would be putting him through. But follow your heart not your mind . look deep in side pray for guidence or pray for help and ask God if he is the right one , if he is stay if he is not let him down easily. but just becuase somebody makes you feel different does not mean you can just go run off with them. FOLLOW YOUR HEART!
much love.
2006-06-26 12:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your voice. check this out, back in June 1994, i met a nice guy at the bus stop on my way home from work. i was engaged to be married in nov 1994. something about this guy i like so i went on and exchanged numbers. we secretly kept in contact for years and whenever we lost contact we managed to find each other. now my husband and i are separated and as of june 2006 i am now reno's girl! this is the guy i met in 1994 at the bus stop :) so you see how funny life is ;)
2006-06-26 11:21:32 · answer #10 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋