Marriage & Divorce - 20 June 2006

My husband shared with me that he has had thoughts about his ex-girlfriend a couple times a month every since they broke up. This was over 8 years ago. We got together shortly afterward and married right out of high school. He recently saw her and stopped to chat but said he felt a feeling in his gut like he was doing something wrong. What do you all think his problem is? Why would he still be thinking about this girl after this long. He was a freshman in high school when they dated, for crying out loud! He said they never had sex but came close to it. She broke up with him and they never really talked again. Could he have some unresolved issues from being dumped and not knowing why? Is he longing for the "old days"? He says the feelings he has are not sexual but that he simply reminisces about their relationship.

2006-06-20 08:35:45 · 12 answers · asked by toosexy 2

I do not love him anymore, have had counselling and Dr put me on antidepressants but they made me feel muzzy so stopped taking them. When he is in the home I cant laugh, I only want to cry but try not to cos of the children. We have not slept in the same bed for 3 years, cos I usd to cry myself to sleep cos he wouldnt cuddle me. I have lost all respect for him, he is always moaning about lack of money but has never studied or tried to get a better paid job. He used to visit his Mum & Dad straight from work every night even when we were newly married, and he wont understand that that made me feel second rate. He has a growth in his abdomen, I took him to the Docs some years ago when it was a lot smaller and she said she would refer him to the hospital but he wouldn't go cos he is scared what else they would find! I told him that he was being irresponsible.
Anyone know how on earth I can get away or better still get him away?

2006-06-20 08:34:30 · 24 answers · asked by joop 2

Have you all heard about this? Husbands are allowed, actually encouraged, to spank their wives and make them stand in the corner for doing something wrong! Further, they give their wives "maintainance spankings" (which is in my oppinion just an excuse to beat their women when they feel like it, without needing a valid reason). This is not a light tap on the rump, either. These are real spankings, sometimes with belts or paddles, that may last for 20 minutes or more. Why don't these women see that this is abuse? I believe what it amounts to is a freakie religeous cult. What do you all think? I think these men should be arrested, and then beat themselves. This is not the dark ages, after all.

2006-06-20 08:29:12 · 9 answers · asked by Okkieneko 4

I recently got married to the greatest man in the world. He is everything I have ever wanted and more. I was married before to a man who cheated every chance he got and that has left some scars. I know just because someone gets married doesn't mean they no longer see. My problem is I always catch him staring at other women. Not just a glance or even a double take, really really stares- up and down! I feel like this is really disrespectful to me. I realize sometimes that it may just be me and my insecurities but I really feel like he does it excessively. I don't even like going places with him sometimes because I always end up feeling like crap by the time we get home. He says he doesnt' do this and even if he does he is coming home with me every night and that is all that matters. I don't believe he would cheat on me. How do I deal with this? Any advice on how to get over it? For the men, what exactly are you thinking when you look at other women? Just looking? Sex?

2006-06-20 08:22:40 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

Sometimes shes really just annoying, and it would only HELP if I hit her, right?

2006-06-20 08:21:50 · 62 answers · asked by suparnova11 2

my husband has been cheating on me for a third of our married life and said that there was not only the sex but also feelings. he admitted to it all and says he wants to move on and is extreamly sorry for it all. i keep on picturing them going at it ( i know the 'other women') and i am drowning in it. is it possible to get over being cheated on and if yes, how? and what should i be asking my husband to do for me, to help me get over it?

2006-06-20 08:19:14 · 12 answers · asked by me 2

I have found several letters from men telling what they would like to do. He can be very secretive at times. What should I do? I still love him more than he can imagine.

2006-06-20 08:16:44 · 12 answers · asked by Angel S 1

I'm male, young 60 (still ride a motorbike, like music etc) Wife 56 never intersted in me,sex or any sort of relationship but is into her horses, gradndchildren & dog. Feel i need to get out and start again. Do you think this is sufficient grounds for a divorce?

2006-06-20 08:14:37 · 31 answers · asked by froggiegit 1

ive been in and out of courts for 5 years now and each time he turns up with no solicitor and nothing gets done .Hes well aware of this and now im in court for divorce in november(im in ireland) and i cant get a straight answer from my solicitor , she says she cant guarantee anything .i need to know if i can get a decree of divorce without him having legal represntation.

2006-06-20 08:12:03 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I feel like it has alot to do with independant women who frankly dont need a man to survive. To many young men now are so spoiled by their Mommies that they have no sense of being a man. What do you think?

2006-06-20 08:10:59 · 63 answers · asked by pkthames 2

I am living with a guy who constantly talk about my earnings.

2006-06-20 08:06:01 · 15 answers · asked by Beautiful 1

My husband of 3 years was recently sent to jail for something that happened before we married. I did not find out until after the fact. He had been out on bond pending an appeals trial. He lost, now has to serve his time. (3 years) We are expecting another child in a matter of weeks and his leaving has left me in an emotional and financial strain, not to mention what our children are going through. All my family is a thousand miles away and I wonder if I should return home or stay here until he is released. Any advice would help.

2006-06-20 08:05:40 · 35 answers · asked by R B 1

When I met my husband I was only a child, he is 15 years older than me.
We've been married 6 years now and have 2 children. I have known him for a long time but right now he is like a stranger to me. We don't communicate anymore, don't have things in common (besides the kids). He doesn't understand me at all and I feel very unhappy. No matter what I do is wrong. And what he does feels wrong to me. I have lost all my friends because of him, 'cause nobody is good enough for him. Just don't know what to do. I' m thinking of a separation, but I don't think I'm strong enough. Any advice? Thanks

2006-06-20 08:05:07 · 10 answers · asked by desperate housewife 1

I'm 28 and have been married almost a year to a wonderful guy. I just wonder if any of you ever think about your ex's - and when I say this - I mean, wonder how they are, hear a song on the radio and think of them, go to a restaurant and remember being there with them, or just in general remember special times you shared? And I have to add that in thinking about them, you have no intention of getting together with them - just every now and then they pop into your mind for no real reason. It's almost telepathic...you wonder if at that moment they are thinking of you? or maybe you even shared a past life with them and that is why they continue to remain in your thoughts every now and then. I am really interested in serious answers to this...give as much detail as you can!!!

2006-06-20 07:59:16 · 16 answers · asked by Rachel 7

We have been married for 7 yrs he has cheated on me, lied to me, and stole money from me. We have two kids so I obviously have a deep connection. I do not know how to emotionally get over him with out letting it ruin my life or any future relationship I may have.

2006-06-20 07:57:02 · 18 answers · asked by DPage 1

2006-06-20 07:51:43 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

Especially women in the late twenties:imagine you love that man and you cannot imagine being without him. You live together for about a year.My first three months if he would have proposed to me I would be on top of the world.Even though we have great relationships, I am anxious and kind of scared to get married.My parents were divorced. I have hard time imagining being with one person for the rest of my life.I kind of contradict myself, but ladies i hope you understand. Is it normal to react to this decision like this???

2006-06-20 07:42:41 · 14 answers · asked by Bonanza 2

2006-06-20 07:33:27 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-06-20 07:31:04 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just got married, I'm pregnant, we have 5 kids, and my sister wants to come live with us, what should I do?
I'm 4 months pregnant with twins, I'm already an emotional roller coster and my husband and I have five kids between the two of us. My 27 yr old sister lives with my mom, but likes my place better and has been here for the last 2wks. She is exactly the type of woman my husband usually goes for, and I'm feeling a little insecure. He has mistakenly called me her name twice already, once why telling me he loves me. At the beach this past weekend, I wasn't feeling up to walking through all the sand to get to the ocean late one night, so my husband and my sister go without me, granted my 11yr old daughter went with them. My husband is a good Chritian man who has reassured me that he would never cheat on me, and he thinks that my thoughts about this are petty. He wants her to stay with us because he feels that I could use the companionship while I'm not working. The thing is, I have let her live with me in the past, and my ex ended up having sexual feelings for her. Please, what should I do?

2006-06-20 07:30:12 · 21 answers · asked by candy0813 3

2006-06-20 07:29:59 · 11 answers · asked by icuong 2

2006-06-20 07:28:57 · 39 answers · asked by HOTBABE 1

i ve been married for 14 years and ive faced a lot of problems in my marriage, from beating to abusing to my husband having an affair which lasted almost a year, now my husband has changed at least 80%, but dont know why i sitll feel he doesnt luv me, the whole day we dont see each other coz of bussiness, in the night we sit together and watch tv, but hardly communicate, he doent call me ever when he goes to his office, life is so depressing, it seems i am only a caretaker of his home and kids, he doesnt understand after so much i need a lot of love,even in sex he doesnt try to approach me, mostly i am the one who does it, as i want my marriage going, plz help me out, dont know where i am going and wher i ll end. Is this just my thinking which is wrong, or do i really need help?

2006-06-20 07:13:45 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

It's not I i tried to do it, or noticed I did it and left it on there because I didn't care about it. When I saw it, I cleaned it up. There is a spot the size of a nickle that the nailpolish ate through the stain, but thats it. He's not really talking to me, and last night when we went to bed I said "I love you, thanks for helping me clean today" then he said, "I love you too, thanks for ruining my table",

I think he is over reacting, is he?

2006-06-20 07:10:24 · 27 answers · asked by Stephanie 2

2006-06-20 07:10:10 · 82 answers · asked by dchella 2

is there a time when its ok to take a lover whilst still married to a guy?

2006-06-20 07:00:50 · 47 answers · asked by hedgewitch 1

I just got married, I'm pregnant, we have 5 kids, and my sister wants to come live with us, what should I do?
I'm 4 months pregnant with twins, I'm already an emotional roller coster and my husband and I have five kids between the two of us. My 27 yr old sister lives with my mom, but likes my place better and has been here for the last 2wks. She is exactly the type of woman my husband usually goes for, and I'm feeling a little insecure. He has mistakenly called me her name twice already, once why telling me he loves me. At the beach this past weekend, I wasn't feeling up to walking through all the sand to get to the ocean late one night, so my husband and my sister go without me, granted my 11yr old daughter went with them. My husband is a good Chritian man who has reassured me that he would never cheat on me, and he thinks that my thoughts about this are petty. He wants her to stay with us because he feels that I could use the companionship while I'm not working. The thing is, I have let her live with me in the past, and my ex ended up having sexual feelings for her. Please, what should I do?

2006-06-20 07:00:31 · 18 answers · asked by candy0813 3

Married 9 years. I was desperatly unhappy. My wife no longer seemed to care about me. I did all the cooking, some of the cleaning and the dishes half the time. No matter how much I did or how hard I tried she was just too busy and didn't have time for me. I finally told her I wanted a wife and partner. Someone who would put effort into the relationship and make the marriage a priority. All I wanted was for my marriage to work and now it's been destroyed. I'm so depressed, the only thing that makes me happy is spending time with my kids. Man this hurts, it's been 8 months and I still can't move on. I think I'm going to be alone for a very long time.

2006-06-20 06:48:38 · 37 answers · asked by Coz 3

I hear emotional, but when you first meet someone, isn't it physical attraction? or is it both? I am going to the gym to impress my wife, is it that important to her or any woman?

2006-06-20 06:47:56 · 23 answers · asked by Andy S 3

What can a guy do to keep a wife emotionally happy

2006-06-20 06:47:10 · 11 answers · asked by R 1