is it normal for a husband to be jealous of his wife achievement in her careeer?

Question

I am living with a guy who constantly talk about my earnings.

Answer 1

He's not jealous....he's insecure about his own worth, particularly as a man in our society. And, yes it's quite normal for men to feel this way, because it's only been a few years since it's even been possible, but it's not at all acceptable. Men still have the sense that they should be the bread winners in order to be 'real men'. It's taught to them their entire lives by their fathers and grandfathers, the media, and society. Your guy needs lots of reassurance about how wonderful his own efforts are, but if he's more than just a little bit annoying about it, ie: if he's obsessed with it, the two of you need to work it out either together, or with a counselor, until you resolve the problem, and before it causes serious damage to your relationship. He needs to understand that it's making you truly unhappy to constantly have it 'thrown' at you. Good luck.

Answer 2

You need to have a heart-to-heart talk with him about this issue. It can really get to be a problem, it did in my marriage. It seems that no matter how "modernized" a man may be, society still Indicates the role of primary bread winner to the husband. And, that societal pressure works it way to and onto the lower-earning husband by making him feel less of a man, less worthy than you.

If he talks about your earnings in a proud way, then I would not worry about it. If he talks about your earnings as a subtle put-down then there is so much to worry about. For example, if he mentions your earnings in a way that questions why your type of job pays so much, or that you should cover a greater percentage of the household expenses (meaning he is left with little or nothing to contribute) because you make so much more money that he does -- I would worry. To me, this signals underlying anger, and anger will build into resentment. And, he may very well try to control you in other ways or try to put you down in subtle ways to feel better about himself.

Good luck.

Answer 3

you do not might want to be jealous of your bf/gf/husband/spouse's X via the indisputable fact that relationship got here about a lengthy time period in the past until eventually you've reason/s to be. Your better 1/2 has moved on and placed a clean love on your human being, why torture your self deliberating what isn't? be happy on your love, on your relationship. experience shelter contained in the records that he has you and also you've were given him.

Answer 4

Tell him that he can ahieve the same goals if he would just quit bellyaching about it and apply himself to learning a better trade. Does he think you just snagged the job right out of the air with no effort on your part?

Answer 5

Men are used to being the bread winners of the family and when his woman makes more money then him its a blow, he may need a boost of ego. Just ensure him that you love him unconditionally...

P.S. He should be happy to know that your not out for his money because you can hold your own...more power to ya...

Answer 6

Up until a couple years ago, my wife made more than me and I never gave it a second thought.
It's all community property anyway (atleast here in Ca)

Answer 7

i think so, especially since the husband feels that they're the one who's suppose to be the head of the family. meaning they think that the husband would be the one who achieves higher job-wise.

Answer 8

Yes, Many men feel intimidated when there wife, or girl friends make more than them.

Answer 9

normal yes good no. he likes being the soul sorce of support and feels he has failed as a husband and bread winner.

Answer 10

You might as well give him something to really be jealous about. Like screwing a guy you work with. Then he can really complain, haha!