Especially women in the late twenties:imagine you love that man and you cannot imagine being without him. You live together for about a year.My first three months if he would have proposed to me I would be on top of the world.Even though we have great relationships, I am anxious and kind of scared to get married.My parents were divorced. I have hard time imagining being with one person for the rest of my life.I kind of contradict myself, but ladies i hope you understand. Is it normal to react to this decision like this???
2006-06-20 07:42:41 · 14 answers · asked by Bonanza 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not sure of what you are going thru right now, but i know that i have been happily married for 11yrs. so what if you can't be with other people. just think of the wonderful memories you will make together. they call this thing cold feet, go thru with it. you won't regret it. and you will be happy. you will be more complete.
2006-06-20 07:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a serious thing, it's a lifelong committment - it's not something to take lightly. The fact that you are anxious is normal for a lot of people - it's just something you have to work through. If you know you are with the right person your anxiousness will be more on the excited side rather than the "I'm doing the wrong thing" side.
2006-06-20 14:49:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it's normal. Marriage is a HUGE step and not anything to take lightly.
If you are going good living together, ,why ruin it all and get married???
all it is is a piece of paper.. it's legal and binding.. and it creates fights right away. People seem to change some when they marry.
You may get along better know that your parents divorced, and you are free to come and go when you want without all the binding stuff going on.
Mind you.. living together for over 4 months is classified as being married anyway.
Just my thoughts
2006-06-20 14:53:06 · answer #3 · answered by Jas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. With me its like I want to know he wants to marry me but then when I think about the actual marriage part I get scared. Its like I push for it and pull away from it all at the same time. I know what you mean. My fear is divorce. I feel its inevitable and that is not a good way to start a marriage.
2006-06-20 14:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes goodness!!!!!! i know what u feel. my parents r divorced as well.I'm getting married on the first of July. u just have to make that final decision. I'm not scared nor am i really anxious anymore. i just feel like i have to do this b/c i truly luv him. i don't want to see myself with out him but its hard to swallow that im gonna be with him forever... i think about the future and i get excited. my parents r divorced as well. i wish u luck and a special blessing!!!!!!!!
2006-06-20 14:51:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's normal but make sure that getting married is what you really want to do. It takes alot of work to make a good marriage. Don't just do it because you feel the need to get married right now.
2006-06-20 14:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by mZgRoW*N*sExY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal to be apprehensive about big life changes!
You have to talk to him about your fears that stem from your parent's divorce. See what he has to say. Communicate with the man- the best way to ease your anxiety, and the best way to start off a marriage.
2006-06-20 14:46:15 · answer #7 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are just anxious because of your parents being divorced and knowing that being married is spending the rest of your life with that person and it does not sound like you are really ready for this big of commitment.
2006-06-20 14:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by captures_sunsets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old fashion, but the result is still up to date. Get married first, but to someone that is loyal and loving.
2006-06-20 14:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by designer401 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am anxious to get divorced, theres the flip side to your thoughts.
2006-06-20 14:46:05 · answer #10 · answered by 666K9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋