Marriage & Divorce - 20 June 2006

My ex did not pay chsup for 6 years of our son'slife. After some nasty tactics were applied he has succsessfully been paying for the last year and a half 79.50 weekly. I do not complainin about the amount or ask for more although I could. Today, he called wanting to take our son for the summer, he felt it was necessary to inform me that he would "buy" for his other children who residew/ their mothers but who were also with him for the summer, but my son should not expect anything while he's there. My son loves the time he spends w/ his father, but I hate the vists b/c they turn into ways for his father to harrass me about being made to pay chusup. I am sick of being harrassed and then spending each encounter pissed or depressed. He is pressureing me to tellthe judge that we can handle chusup payments on our own b/c it has affected his life. I have addressed his behavior numerous times only to get cussed out or hung up on. I don't care if I see my ex ,but i don't want to hurt my son.

2006-06-20 16:42:50 · 8 answers · asked by nene 3

I have been married for five years,and i think my husband is one.

2006-06-20 16:37:15 · 9 answers · asked by joanne m 1

2006-06-20 16:31:49 · 19 answers · asked by halocrashing 1

She has text him the past two saturdays as far as I know. He says he loves me and loves his family but now I just don't believe him. He knows I check his phone. He says you shouldn't check my phone I say you shouldn't be talking to any girls. Need suggestions.

2006-06-20 16:30:58 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-06-20 16:26:35 · 15 answers · asked by inyourface! 1

hello i am a mother ofa 10 week and 3 day old son and i am abused by my husband it all started before we got married he get drunk and would tell me he use to beat his first and 2nd wife but i still married thanking it be diffrert for me but i was wrong, first it was yelling, then he would tell me he would hit me he would say stuff like i was lucky he not hit me because he could really hurt me then the grabbing started he would grab me by the arm so hard it would leaves marks he would pin me to the wall so i could not move and yellthen one day he got so drung and grabed my arm telling me he was going hit me and i told him i was not scared of him so he told me i batter be hecause he could kill me then he pushed me so hard a almost fall i finel thongh he calm down so i went to bed he would come in and yell call me names then he set on the bad and puch me so hard i fell of the bed, then i got pranget we got in to it he was so drunk he grab my arms and puch in to the door and for the first time i was scared i though he was going hit me and all i could thank of was not to let him so i slaped him because i though he would hit my tummy and make me lose my baby then the same nigh he trow rock at me and he would hold his fist up and tell me he wish i would lose the baby but he never did touch me because he had is drug buddy over he told my husband if he wanted any drug he would not touch me so he stoped he finel calm down, then when i was 4 months prangent we got in to it he wanted money for the drugs and i wouldnot give it to him so he hit me 2 times on the arm telling me next time it be my face the he grabed a baseball bat and told if i not give him the money he hit me with it so i gave him the money then he lift but he come back with the stuff and telling me h was sorry he hit me he was crying he said it never happen again and i told him i for give him i belive he would not do it again but i was wrong because when i was 6 months prangent we had no money and no food because he took all the money for the drugs and you can't get food without money. finely we got a call telling us we could move in with my family so we could get my husband clean the day befor the move he was getting high on that stuff his lighter was out so he was useing a candle and i not want him doing them drugs so i blow out the candle and he slaped me in the face and all i did was go to bed telling my self it all stop when we get to texas but i was wrong he started telling me who i can and cn't talk to where i can and can't go he had to know where i was at ever min even when i went to the bathroom he would give me money and i have to tell him how much i spent, where and what i got finely on march 31 2006 i had my son he was so sweet but that only was for 2 weeks then the yelling started back he would yell at me at welmart where people could hear he would call me names he would tell me woman know nothing and men knew it all then on june 3 2006 we went to eat he got drunk he went 6 monthsno dranking so when he got drunk he got mean and started yelling at me we was on the side of the road walking he would tell me i was a bad mother the he grabed me so hard i though he pull my clothes off he let go of me we got behind this church and for some reason i can't remember why set down on the ground by then the yelling got worse my son started crying soi was feeding him but he was still in his stroller my husband we tell me he would not hit me he say he could go to jail if he did then he hit me so hard on the arm it turn purple it as the first time ever he lift a mark and again he told me he hit my face next time and i told himi was not scared so he started comeing to me with his fist up telling me i batter be scared. then he put his hands in my face i was so scared he would hit me again i could not look at him he then knid of man if you don't look it makes him worse finel he calm down, the 5 days ago i not fold up the baby diaper up so he slaped me . i always though it was from dranking and the drugs that maid him mean they was a part of it but then one day we got in to over the drugs it would be part of it, then i found out he don't have to be drunk to treat me bad because for a long time i did not see that he was treating me bad now i just hopping he will change because i don't want to leave him i love him but i want him to treat me right he a good father and sometimes he a good man just wish it was all the time

2006-06-20 16:07:21 · 21 answers · asked by amanda_ploof 1

I posted a question a few minutes ago and have already gotten quite a few answers... and they all pretty much say the same thing. I cant grab a camcorder or do my own P.I. work because in this state its considered stalking and/or harrassment. Believe me--- ive already looked into it and asked some legal people about it.... I guess i shoulda put this part in before I submitted the 1st one.... sorry...

2006-06-20 16:06:49 · 8 answers · asked by heavensent41770 4

My husband looks at online porn..I don't have a problem that I have talked to him ..well actually we got into a fight about it last year when I was pregnant and I have concluded that he is going to do it anyway. The problem I have is that he tries to hide it from me. As in getting up for work earlier, or if I come into the room he closes the page..or when he works nights he will wait until I leave in the day and look at it. Our sex life isn't all that great. I just don't know what to do or say to make him understand how I feel about it.

2006-06-20 16:06:22 · 17 answers · asked by lilbit6996 2

If yes, why? It's gotta be due to the woman refusing to have as much sex as before marriage. Why does marriage make women want to have less sex?

2006-06-20 15:56:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-06-20 15:55:45 · 13 answers · asked by bk_bruner 1

He called me and confessed his actions the day it happened and I do believe he is sorry...but I'm not sure sorry is enough. I know there was nothing wrong in our marriage to provoke anything like this but... I'm afraid his inability to control himself when he is drinking shows a serious level of instability. He has "on his own" acknowledged that he becomes very dumb when he drinks and has sworn that until he feels that he is truely able to be... well a man he will not be drinking outside of my presence. This happened six months ago and I still find myself crying uncontrollably at times... I do believe in second chances...but I can't seem to get past all of this. Will the pain ever stop? What will help? I'm very desperate for answers anything will help.

2006-06-20 15:36:58 · 14 answers · asked by Linda K 1

I LOVE MY HUSBAND TO DEATH BUT HE NEEDS TO GET OUT AND MORE THAN WORK, EAT, SLEEP AND WATHC T.V.

2006-06-20 15:29:16 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

My friend says a woman drives the man to cheat. I don't think so.

2006-06-20 15:27:07 · 31 answers · asked by lifeislove 3

OK we've been married 21 years and I've wanted out for at least the last 10, probably more. He knows this, and he knows it's because I found him at his girlfriends at 3:00 in the morning, although he says they were just friends. That was about10 years or more ago. I have gotten over it in most ways but haven't been in love with him since. How do I tell him that it is over and I'm leaving? What do I say? I don't want to be mean, I just can't stay anymore. I've tried my best and now I'm through. But I can't seem to find the right way to say it to him, without being mean. Any helpful ideas? I'm serious, without being mean and hurtful. Is there a way?

2006-06-20 15:25:07 · 19 answers · asked by josie 2

She drinks as a way to 'deal', but always overdoes it. She is an angry drunk, and has gotten physical in the past. Once she even lost control of her bowels while sleeping in our bed. When we went to bed that night, we had both had 2 cups of wine, but after I fell asleep, she kept drinking. She has promissed 3 times she would stop withing the last 4 years. She has done OK for a while before, stopping for up to a year. Each time she broke her promise, we have argued. This last time we fought she pulled me down and I had my hand on her throat so angry that I wanted to squeeze (but I didn't). We have been married 5 years, but now I feel I can't trust her (with this issue) and I don't believe it won't happen again. I don't even think I CAN rebuild trust in her. I feel so angry that I have asked her for a divorce. She wants us to keep trying, at least stay together for 3 months and go to counceling, but I feel like I have given her enough chances. Am I giving up too quickly?

2006-06-20 15:21:54 · 39 answers · asked by Tiggerrick 1

2006-06-20 15:13:56 · 19 answers · asked by Simone D 2

just wondering they all seem to stare if a chic walks by.

2006-06-20 15:06:58 · 15 answers · asked by ford_lovergirl_69 2

I have contact everyday with my wife, though we are separated. We are separated because I caught her having an affair, and had her leave immediately. We went to counseling for awhile, but we do not go anymore. When we are together, it usually is great. But she keeps saying that she likes living alone, and she is happy with how things are, which is we see each other once or twice a week. Meanwhile, I am sick and tired of trying too hard, I am sick and tired of waking up alone, but I love her tremendously. Any suggestions?

2006-06-20 15:02:50 · 10 answers · asked by johnlawdog232003 2

I have been with the father of my kids for about 5 years now. And he treats me like sh*t. He is always accusing me of cheating and calling my names like B*tch and H*es. We have two children together and he is a really good father and pays all the bills. But he is a bad boyfriend. Everytime he gets mad he always call me dirty names and hit me. He always saying that I have sex with other people. But I don't. I don't have any family, no one I can run away to. I don't have a job, So if I was to leave him I wouldn't be able to take care of my kids by myself. I feel like I am trapped in the relationship. Is there anyone out there that has been through this before? Please I need some advice.

2006-06-20 14:58:51 · 23 answers · asked by Ms. C 1

We are paying child support on two children that we cannot see because the mother is constantly moving and not notifying us of the new address or phone number. We hire private detectives to find her, she lets us talk to the kids two or three times and then dissapears again. We have reason to believe that she and her live in boyfriend have warrants out but cannot get any actuall information. It is very frustrating to us that if a non-custodial parent is not paying child support their life is made a living hell (which is fair) but if that same non-custodial parent IS paying child support and fulfilling their end of the obligation the powers that be feel no need to for the custodial parent to live up to their end of the deal. My husband and I want desperately to have a relationship with his two sons but do not have the funds to keep searching and fighting a system that refuses to help us in any way!

2006-06-20 14:53:31 · 10 answers · asked by angelrose665 1

Was married for 12yrs, tried to seek attention from my hb, but he was always too busy with the television, @ work, or sleep. I thought I have found happiness with a guy that could provide me with attention, love, etc, turned out he was a control jealous freak. Now I am divorced, lonely, empty, feeling negative about everything. What to do? There's nothing to look fwd to anymore. Pls help

2006-06-20 14:35:15 · 17 answers · asked by cooki28 1

2006-06-20 14:33:11 · 2 answers · asked by Kevin B 1

sex is not good as before, it's boring. because he thinks about him self all the time.

2006-06-20 14:32:44 · 21 answers · asked by sweet 2

2006-06-20 14:22:20 · 7 answers · asked by pitbull52 1

2006-06-20 14:16:07 · 12 answers · asked by pitbull52 1

thanks everyone for the support.

and no windy is just my name funny person--lol and i like betty boop. smartie-- :)

2006-06-20 14:07:54 · 4 answers · asked by windystorm4luv 1

it was an internet person i met and thought we were soulmates,,,,one year into it found out he'd been lying all along--threw him to the curb. My self, i'm very hurt and trying to move on. NOT EASY> I haven't given up on love yet, Should I??

2006-06-20 13:58:54 · 47 answers · asked by windystorm4luv 1

2006-06-20 13:54:14 · 15 answers · asked by David 2

... or other investigators/law enforcers? I have found NO, but maybe someone can help me not generalize about them.

2006-06-20 13:53:47 · 13 answers · asked by Wondering 4

2006-06-20 13:52:39 · 14 answers · asked by stop g 1