how do you move on from a bad realtionship that's left your spirit broken, not to mention your heart???

Question

it was an internet person i met and thought we were soulmates,,,,one year into it found out he'd been lying all along--threw him to the curb. My self, i'm very hurt and trying to move on. NOT EASY> I haven't given up on love yet, Should I??

I actually got to know this fool. he lived near me and we spent a great summer among other times together. but life does go on and i will too!!! Thanks again !!!

Answer 1

Don't be silly...you are not about to give up on love, or you wouldn't be asking the question. Take a lesson...believe only what you see, and then, discard about 3/4's of it...especially on line. On Line denizens live in their own ideal world where they paint the person they would love to be...but what we would like to be and what we are in reality, is usually two very different things. It is very easy to spill yourself onto a written page, opening up imagination etc., and it is very easy to "fall in love" on the Internet if you are lonely. But ... We really do not fall in love of any kind...except that we fall in love with ourselves, for what is written is a reflection of what we want to read, and what we want to read into it. The best thing about all of this is that it is easy to recover quickly. You will find that within a week, this will be history and you will laugh at yourself and the whole scene. Hang in there, chin up, and with a smile on your face for your own foibles. We all have done it and lived to love again. Good luck

Answer 2

No way! Don't give up on love. When you least expect it, you'll meet someone. It may or may not be love at first sight. I was in a relationship for 3 years and let's just say it was on again/off again. My brother dragged me to a party and I met my now husband. We started off as friends because I'd just been single for a month. We went to the movies, dinners and even played pinball and pool. We just simply had fun together and enjoyed each others' company. We also had lots of similar thoughts and tastes regarding many issues. I do think opposites attract, but only for awhile, as I'd done in my previous relationship. Date lots, get it out of your system. Maybe you want to have lots of sex or maybe not. Sometimes that complicates things and clouds your vision about what you're really feeling because it's an emotional tie versus being realistic. If you're eventual goal is to marry and have children that might help you decide on weather or not you should or shouldn't get involved sexually. Remember he's going to eventually take you home to mom. Always respect yourself first. You've probably heard it before, but better you find out now than later, like I did and didn't waste 3 years.

Answer 3

No, dont give up on love, but only love real people. The internet is probably a good way to meet someone, however you are at their mercy when it comes time when they tell you about themselves. All you have to go on is what they tell you and some people will lie. Never met anyone from the internet but have been lied to numerous times. Some people will say just about anything to get attention. Just be aware of that.. and love with your experiences you share with someone else instead of what they write. Actions do speak louder than words. Meet these people if you must but don't let your guard down and fall for something untrue. Give it some time and sooner or later the truth or lie will come out.. just be patient.

Answer 4

http://www.groups.yahoo.com/group/Looking4thatspecialsomeone
This is a group for straight males and females who are seeking companionship, love, and possibly a permanent relationship. If you are into anything other than straight relationships, this is not the place for you. Note: Due to the fact that we may have members in the group that don't understand the preceding, all messages will be closely monitored.

The reason I am starting this new group for other's to possibly meet
new people.

This group is meant for you if people:

1)IF you are facing problems in relationship
2)If you are seeking your soul mate
3)If you think you can advice others
4)If you are seeking tips about pleasing your bf/gf

This group will be moderated and I assure you that it will
be one of the best ever groups where everyone can interact with each
other without any kind of hindrance..

PLEASE NOTE THAT THIS GROUP WILL NOT HAVE ANY ADULT CONTENT BUT TO
SHARE FEELING KNOWN AS LOVE & TO SEEK ADVICE IN THAT MATTER.

SO you can have genuine people here looking for making friendship
with you, and who knows, you may find your soulmate here.

Suggestions are most welcome.

We also understand that some members would like to have their partner back. This is a forum for some members who want to save their relationships and stop their breakup, separation, or divorce. Breaking up doesn't always have to mean it's over for good. We invite you to join us and exchange support, ideas, and encouragemnt with others who know how it feels to be in love.

Now in closing this is a great group for serious people looking for love and long term relationships,so get a pic and upload and start posting messages. Tell us a little something about you, and what you are looking for in a life partner. This group is now being created for all of you, I really hope you enjoy this group.

Answer 5

it is the worst degree of any smash up, yet have faith me it gets greater trouble-free and you will regain your self belief, the proper situation to do purely now could be have fun with the liberty that this has given you, circulate out at the same time with your friends, take up a clean interest or maybe initiate a night classification, something to get you out of the living house and stop questioning approximately this. Doing those issues will additionally help you work together with human beings greater and strengthen your self belief and self well worth. it is going to take time, yet on no account rush right into a relationship on account which you are concerned being on my own, once you're satisfied spending time with your self then you definately're a greater useful, confident and autonomous guy or woman. you will hit upon a guy who will rock your international ultimately. purely have fun with the single existence for a quick time ;) solid success and all the proper

Answer 6

i lived with a man and thought we had a pretty good relationship. then i got pregnant. when i miscarried, i had to have a hysterectomy. then i find out that he is having an affair with my very best friend (we were like sisters). not only did i have the shock of finding out that i was cheated on, it was with the one person that i trusted all our lives.

i was a basket case.

i met a man and started seeing him and then i met his cousin. the cousin and i were friends for over a year before we started seeing each other romantically.. we have lived together for 8 years now. he is the best thing that ever happened to me and my kids.

i asked him once why he didnt ask me out a lot sooner. he said because i wasnt ready. when i figured out that he was the real deal, then we became a couple.

i found the one thing that i never thought i would find, a caring, considerate, patient man

Answer 7

Life is all about ups and downs. As long as you have someone to talk to about the way you feel you'll be o.k. Remember life is an experience...wat doesn't kill you will only make you stronger. When the time is right, your prince charming will come riding in on his white horse and scoop you away. Just go out wit ur girls and have a good time. Don't dwell on the past....

Answer 8

Time is the only thing that will help you get over a broken heart. Spend some time alone and think of the mistakes you've made in the past so you can avoid the same situation again...Good Luck!

Answer 9

We have all been there one time or more....each relationship is a learning experience, once you get past the pain and you will, just give yourself time and get to know yourself and love yourself. There's no time limit on getting over someone, but the best thing you can do is be over them b4 u go on to the next one....and try not to make the same mistakes the next time, if you don't you'll keep repeating them over and over again until you learn the lesson, good luck and listen to your inner voice we all have one.

Answer 10

I find it quite ironic that i came across this question . I myself struggled with a similer situation . I remember asking myself is it worth it .. is love worth it ..Because this really hurts .. Many of my friends told me i should move on go on other dates so .. it wasnt much longer i found myself on dates .. i regret that bc trying to move on to fast doesnt mend your heart @ all .. it only leaves you confused even more .. Im going to tell you something that i wish someone would have told me .. It will take a long time & im not gonna lie to you .. even months later there may be a day you think about him outta the blue even maybe a yr later .. it takes time to get over him .. but you will remember .. the pain will get better but you have to try and do your best dont groan about it .. its ok to hurt but when your ready to move on allow yourself to .. and remember moveing on doesnt nessasary mean you forget him either .. oh sweetheart this is such a big situation to be dealin with i do wish you the very best .. i really do ..