We are paying child support on two children that we cannot see because the mother is constantly moving and not notifying us of the new address or phone number. We hire private detectives to find her, she lets us talk to the kids two or three times and then dissapears again. We have reason to believe that she and her live in boyfriend have warrants out but cannot get any actuall information. It is very frustrating to us that if a non-custodial parent is not paying child support their life is made a living hell (which is fair) but if that same non-custodial parent IS paying child support and fulfilling their end of the obligation the powers that be feel no need to for the custodial parent to live up to their end of the deal. My husband and I want desperately to have a relationship with his two sons but do not have the funds to keep searching and fighting a system that refuses to help us in any way!
2006-06-20 14:53:31 · 10 answers · asked by angelrose665 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You really need to go to a lawyer and figure out what options you have. Because of the instability in the children's lives you may have a chance to get joint or full (if that's what you're looking for) custody. The courts are actually very strict on non-custodial parent's rights, so check into it at your local courthouse and see where you need to go from there.
2006-06-20 14:59:02 · answer #1 · answered by BabyFirefly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's really sad. I think the answer might be to file for custody - either full or joint. It will involve the courts who actually will be forced to make a decent decision about the welfare of the children. They certainly don't need to be moving all the time and they do need to spend time with their father.
It may be the only decision for you to make for fairness and a relationship with the children.
My son never gets to see his daugher. The mother takes him to court for regular increases and he pays.......makes arrangements to pick the girl up and on that day, the mother will have her call and say she's sorry but had forgotten other plans she had made previously. Over and over again. Now, he has stopped paying so we'll see what happens. It's only about the money and nothing about the true welfare of the child.
Good luck.
2006-06-20 15:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by purplewings123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel..and to be honest with you..If your willing to spend thousands upon thousand of dollars to get your husbands rights to his children then I would say go for it...But 9 times out of 10 she'll just pack up and move again. The laws are very unfair to the non-custodial parents. It's cruel and very viscious.
It's amazing how the custodial parents get 95% of the rights of the children. It's a scam if you ask me. My opinion would be that if a custodial parent chooses to shut the non custodial parent out of these kids life then obviously they don't need child support.
what makes these custodial parents think that they are the superior of the two parents?
good luck and best wishes for you and your husband...
remember kids have to grow up one day...the shoes will be on the other foot then...lets see how the custodial parents like it then.
2006-06-27 08:04:43 · answer #3 · answered by jttatum2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact a lawyer and take her back to court!!! If she moves out of the state that's illegal without the non-custodial parents permission in some states. You might even be able to get custody of the kids because of the way she's acting. Good Luck & God Bless
2006-06-20 15:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by unicornfarie1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but it may change some in the amount... My sister has shared custody and her ex still has to pay child support the only way it will stop if is it is court ordered to be stopped... You could take it back to court and have it motioned to be stopped since your husband is now taking care of the child physically.
2016-03-26 23:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only safe and legal way is through the court system but you say they are constantly moving. you should contact a family law attorney for a consult. see if you can find one who offers free consults. they sound like they are in contempt of court. but answer me this: if they are constantly moving, how are they getting the money? where is it being sent? if you stop the payments, you are just as bad as they are and are in contempt of court yourself and that looks bad on you and your husband's child support debt increases and they start attaching his income tax and all that. most people don't realize that payment of child support is not contigent on visitation and visitation is not contingent on payment of child support so withholding payment is only hurting you and your husband in the long run. you should do it the right way...the legal way...the time consuming way. i am fighting a 16 year child support battle just to receive $325 a month and of that, i receive maybe $100, but the bright side of it is that the idiot i am fighting will be paying child support until my son is at least in his mid 20s. my son is 16 and his dad is over 20k behind in support. GREAT
2006-06-20 14:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by tikki85@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stop paying support, that makes you look like the bad guy. The court won't care why you stopped.
I would get an attorney and start looking into getting custody of the kids.
2006-06-20 15:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by long_ebony_locs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing get a lawyer and get her for contempt of court it does work
2006-06-20 18:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by rnadm53 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer!!! Good luck.
2006-06-20 14:57:07 · answer #9 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion...cut off the funds. They want paid, they'll contact you.
2006-06-20 14:56:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋