If yes, why? It's gotta be due to the woman refusing to have as much sex as before marriage. Why does marriage make women want to have less sex?
2006-06-20 15:56:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
David, you won't believe it. People get married for different reasons, some would be judged wrong, some right but they are reasons. But as far as sex goes, if that's a remote reason for the marriage, dude forget it. It IS going to decrease, not if, or when, but it will decrease. Now if you guys have other things balanced in the relationship (romance, respect, care, affection etc), then, that might counter the drop in sex
2006-06-20 16:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by Amazon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame it all on the woman! MY LORD... why do men always assume we don't want sex?
After you get married, you are living together, and have other concerns, especially adjusting to living together and merging your finances! You have mortgage payments, figuring out who does what chores, rearranging your schedules to work better and still finding time to hang out with your friends, while having time together. Your priorities change. t doens't mean sex HAS to be less, but I have a very happy marriage, and we have a good time when we want to, but it's no longer the thrill of the chase. He's there every night and every morning adn will be for the rest of my life... if we are too tired, not feeling well, need to get up early, possibly a little angry at each other - whatever, we know we can always have sex tomorrow because we will always be there for each other. YOu don't believe it now, but marriage does change your relationship - but the payoffs are very worth it.
And I suggest you not consider a relationship of any kind with that attitude towards women.
2006-06-20 23:23:15 · answer #2 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it does, before you live together, staying the night is an expection of sex, once you live together / married your are there every night. and you think to yorself, you know i'm kinda tired tonight, there is always tomorrow, next thing you know you have children,and no alone time, until college, then it becomes work. Do your best to keep an open line of communication with your partner, so that it does not become a topic you can't talk about and you'll be fine, if your partner is giving a good reason for not wanting sex respect that, the'll come around/
2006-06-21 00:39:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is said that on your honeymoon, put a penny, quarter, whatever in a jar for every time you make love, and then when the "honeymoon" period is over, each time you make love, take a penny(or whatever) out, you'll spend the rest of your life together before you are able to take all of the pennies out!!! LOL I don't think it's fair of you to say that it must be women though. I think it has to do with, each couple, their sexual appetite, and then there's the settled in time, and then the kids come, and then exhaustion hits...............it isn't so easy to be making love(didn't say impossible, just not easy)when you have a one year old, who doesn't want to sleep, and is screaming to get out of their crib, etc. You know what I mean? It doesn't make for a real deep romantic feelings. Or your kids could be asleep and you think it's the best time and then, the next thing you know, somebody is up with a fever, throwing up............so I say, it's those darling angels!!! LOL
2006-06-20 23:59:30 · answer #4 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not at first. However, if either of you are very career oriented or children come into the pic, then yes it will decrease. Even if none of that happens , there will be times when you just don't want to have sex. (after a couple years) but thats not bad, it is just a phase and it will pass. right now me and my hubby aren't doing it much, but a few weeks ago we did it all the time. i am ok with it, it will pick up again later, if it doesn't that is when you should worry.
2006-06-20 23:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by qtee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it definitely all depends on you and your situation. Personally, I have been having sex much more since I have been married. However, I do have children yet and I am sure that plays a huge role into whether you're interested in sex or not. With children and a full time job I'm sure by the time night comes both mom and dad are exhausted.
2006-06-20 23:11:24 · answer #6 · answered by Brookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found that the sex never decreased until we had kids. I work full time, take care of a house, cook dinner for my family, clean up, help kids with homework, by the time I am done I am exhausted. I know I have to get up early to make breakfast and pack lunches, it is hard to feel all sexy and up to it when you are exhausted. It is one of those things that gets pushed to the weekend. It isn't that I am refusing to have sex, it is just that I am too tired. Some woman say that it is because the men aren't as romantic after they get married, I say forget romance, help me around the house...that is sexy. Also it makes me less tired and more open to the idea. Good luck, and help her around the house.
2006-06-20 23:07:00 · answer #7 · answered by mad_hat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends, if you really love the person then it shouldn't be all just about sex. Sometimes you get comfortable with married life that because you've been with this person for a while and you're going to be with this person for the rest of your life there's no need to be having sex ALL the time there are other things to worry about, especially if you have kids ect.
2006-06-20 23:32:13 · answer #8 · answered by ipreetynice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honeymoon thrill wears off
return to work and the grind
children/pregnancy
stress
age
number of issues or combos can decrease the quality. It's not so bad if you transverse to quantity instead.
Jeff Foxworthy said it best:
"When you're young choosing between sleep and sex, you choose sex every time. When you're older with kids witht he same choice, you choose sleep and hope to have a dream about sex."
Fits well for me right now.
Time to go to sleep.
2006-06-21 01:07:21 · answer #9 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the old saying go's before I got married I used to get it all the time now I only get it twice a day.
2006-06-20 23:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by tw2251stst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋