Why are there so many divorces now day?

Question

I feel like it has alot to do with independant women who frankly dont need a man to survive. To many young men now are so spoiled by their Mommies that they have no sense of being a man. What do you think?

Answer 1

I blame the Christian right.

Answer 2

Frankly I don't think it is a man or woman issue at all.

Lets be honest, marriage is about having a best friend that you are intimate with.

A majority of marriages end in divorce because the spark leaves the marriage a few years in. Think about it... the women no longer shave their legs every day, or the men aren't holding doors open anymore... the fact is, in marriage you finally see the good the bad and the ugly of another person.

It stops being about Love and Passion and becomes about who will take out the garbage or did you pay the electric bill etc... and then you just end up taking eachother for granted.

Marriage, as I said, is more about finding the best friend of your life, your most intimate friend.

But Passion, desire and lust fade over time... and everyone has a yearning for those things, and divorce to find it again... only truth is, when you do find it.... you always end up back at square one anyway... :)

I am not down on marriage at all... or love... so dont take that wrong.,

Tawny

Answer 3

I think it has more to do with society accepting divorces as a way of living now. When I was little, a divorced woman was looked upon as trashy or no good. Now it is accepted. So people do not work hard to keep it together. Plus when I was little it cost a large sum of money for a divorce and you had to legally be seperated for 18 months before a judge would even see you for a divorce. Now its like 500 dollars and no waiting time. So people go into the marriage with the attitude that if it doesn't work out we will just get a divorce. Plus people raise their children with a whole different attitude about marriage and committment. When my sons signed up for a baseball team or told someone they would do something we made them stick to it no matter what better thing came along. Now a days many parents say you don't want to go don't go they can't make you do anything. They don't teach committment so there is none. Then when they get married they have no clue as to what a committment really is.

Answer 4

I think people do not take marriage serious and hold it as sacred as people once did. It seems as though in the past when people married they stayed married for better or worse. The court systems have made it so easy to divorce now a days that couples just give up so easily and don't even try to stay together and work through their issues. I also think that alot of divorces happen when kids grow up and move away from home and these couples that have been together for most of their lives realize that they have nothing in common except their children and they don't take the time to get to re-know each other and enjoy the time they have without kids around. I agree with what you said, also. Woman are more independent now a days than they once were and it makes it easier for them to just say "to heck with it" and divorce since they are self sufficient. Couples just give up so easy and so many people marry for the wrong reasons to begin with. It is sad.

Answer 5

Life has chanced alot in the years women use to be dependant on men and to this day they still feel like they rule the rooster, instead of copromissiog couple just give up where I've been with my man for 21years not all happy but where would I be If I gave up those many years ago. Maybe not still getting into arguments. Wrong no matter where you are theres always someone better, stronger, nicer, uglyer, etc... These days its what you are willing to put into the relationship

Answer 6

I think the reason for the high divorce rate, is because people marry people, just to get married! Oh my sister got married first, I have to hurry or she'll have children before I do... I don't know what that's about.

People approach marriage like a fad now, something to be done, and not something to be thought about. It's hardly about love, or connection, it's about money, or something like just wanting to get hitched in Vegas to their best friend.

Plus people don't think of the long run, they say they love someone and think this is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, and that's not the case. Most of the time they're young, and naive, not to say all people who marry young don't stay together that's not true, but the majority end up divorced.

Answer 7

That may be true in some instances.However I feel divorce has become to easy to obtain.Couples may enter a marriage because they know they can fall back on a divorce if necessary.They advertise quick and cheap divorces etc.. etc..Couples are less inclined to make the marriage work-or walk out on a marriage all in the name of divorce. Just think about how many people would have reconsidered becoming Married if Divorce were not an option.

Answer 8

It could be due to spoiled men and independent women - but I don't think thats really the issue. People in society are all for instant gratification - people want what they want and they want it now. In marriage it takes work, marriage isn't easy - many people aren't willing to put in the necessary work to keep a lifelong marriage going. Instead, they just get divorced and move on to another relationship that they think will be better or more gratifying (and less work to boot).

Answer 9

I think that has a lot to do with it. that and dr. spock taught us to raise selfish children. We live in a self gratification kinda society, if it isnt instant, or we cant see the immediate reward we dont work at something.

Its sad, but its a cycle that starts with the parents and just keeps on going. Between half assed parenting and kids growing up without fathers or in split homes, they repeat the same mistakes. That and our sense of morals has changed, it used to be that you did things because it was a godly christian way to do them, or because thats what your mother always told you was the right thing, now you just do whatever feels right and makes you happy.

I also think people wait too long to get married, and start dating too young. You sample that much of the spread for that long of a time and you're bound to have a gluttons appetite. That and the longer you live on your own with your own thoughts and goals, the harder it is to care about the needs and desires of another person. It all comes down to selfish self centeredness.

Answer 10

I will have to agree with you about the boys being spoiled by their moms. Also I think that boys are not being raised to respect women any more and they look at women as sex objects. Women are getting tired of this and are giving the men the same in return. There is also a lack of character in people who aren't willing to see the marriages through. It is a selfish thing.

Answer 11

Because divorce is easier than commitment.
Society has accepted divorces. It no longer has a stigma.
Because people don't want to accept that their actions have consequences.
Passing the blame.
Feminism.
Liberalism - the attack on morals (whether religious or not)
Gay Rights
Jerry Springer & Maury type shows.
Desparate Housewives and similar shows.
The Bachelor & similar shows.
Hollywood's attack on marriages. Shows like Will & Grace. What ever happened to The Cosby Show & Family Ties?