I'm 28 and have been married almost a year to a wonderful guy. I just wonder if any of you ever think about your ex's - and when I say this - I mean, wonder how they are, hear a song on the radio and think of them, go to a restaurant and remember being there with them, or just in general remember special times you shared? And I have to add that in thinking about them, you have no intention of getting together with them - just every now and then they pop into your mind for no real reason. It's almost telepathic...you wonder if at that moment they are thinking of you? or maybe you even shared a past life with them and that is why they continue to remain in your thoughts every now and then. I am really interested in serious answers to this...give as much detail as you can!!!
2006-06-20 07:59:16 · 16 answers · asked by Rachel 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
28 as well. This happens ALL THE TIME and I think it is completely normal. Especially if you had a wonderful relationship with that person. I understand and you explained it perfectly. I always wonder if she is thinking of me or trying to contact me somehow for some reason, too. Sometimes I hear a song, or am in a place that we experienced together and it is like looking back at myself and her in a different time zone (even though we are not really there) and wondering what would have been having had other end results. Sorry, none of this probably makes any sense whatsoever, but it happens to me a lot.
Good luck. Let me know if you ever want to discuss further.
Tony : )
2006-06-20 08:06:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Interesting question! I had a high school sweetheart who told everyone that I was going to get her an engagement ring for her 18th birthday. I never said I was, she just assumed this. I tried to tell her but she wouldn't listen. I gave her a nice gift on her birthday but no ring! Within 2 months we broke up. We both married others and for a long time I had thoughts of her in most of the ways you mentioned. I would have a dream about her and she would be in my thoughts constantly for a couple of days!
About 9 years later, just by pure chance, we ran into each other at a park on a Sunday morning. She had her 6 year old Daughter with her and I my 6 year old Son. We laughed and talked for about 30 minutes. She had changed so much! I knew now that I had probably changed as much as she had. We said good-bye, didn't exchange phone numbers and since that day, I haven't had a dream about her! I still have the occasional thought of her but nothing like it was before I ran into her.
From what I know, she was enjoying her life and now I am enjoying mine. It worked out for the best for both of us.
Thank you for allowing me to share this.
2006-06-20 16:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have thoughts of one particular ex. He was my first everything. I even sometimes have dreams about him. I have no intentions in getting back together or contacting him, especially since I'm married and having a baby now, but I just can't help thinking how he is doing. My sister saw him at the grocery store. Since we last saw each other, he has divorced his first wife with two children and is currently with another girl who is pregnant with his thrid child. As a matter a fact. We are due around the same time. My sister told me that he asked for me. I guess you can say that made me feel good. I mean for him to have thought to ask about me. Who would have thought. I think its a perfectly normal thing and we all do from time to time.
2006-06-20 15:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a past before they were married and there will be certain things that trigger past memories/relationships. There is nothing wrong with that, memories are memories - just don't let them take control. You do have control over your memories and whether you entertain them as daydreams or not.
The longer you are with your husband and the more memories you make together, the less you will have these flashbacks. You are still newlyweds so give it a couple years and you will see how going to all those places with your hubby will have you thinking of him and not your ex's.
2006-06-20 15:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens to me from time to time. I will hear a song on the radio and I will think of her, or a movie that I am watching on TV. It happens it is natural. I have thought of her more recently because her dad is a crossing guard now and his post is by my moms house so I see him there once in a while. I have seen or talked to her in a few years, but there is still something there for her that will never go away. I am sure that your feeling the same way.
Hope this helps
2006-06-20 15:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by Shocker3:16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think that's perfectly normal. If it starts to happen all the time then you may have an issue. Once you are with a person on a initimate level (not necessarily sexual) you do develop a connection. I strongly recommend never, EVER, acting on any desire to see that person. Because, we all know what can happen, not that it will, but it could. But we think about family members out of nowhere, and friends we haven't seen in a while, so why wouldn't we think of exes the same way.
2006-06-20 15:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by bluejtrain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been married for about 5 years an i think about my ex like that sometimes. that person was once was a big part of my life an i have mem wit dat person. onns dat noone can ever change or take from me. im sure my husband may feel day same way but i would rather not kno jus as im sure he would rather not kno. as long as u dont act on those feelings u should be fine! we all have dat someone from before that we cared alot about but then we meet the man of r dreams an marry him! but that guy from before 4 what ever reason didnt make da cut an dats why he is a mem.
2006-06-20 15:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married twice and i have times when i remember the 1st wife and the things we did,good and bad.The things I remember help me to be a better person and love my wife more and more every day.Takeing time to sit and talk to her,"not at her".Knowing that she loves me more than the other wife.Showing her each and every day that I love her.Its nice of you to think about the other person and hoping they are well.For what ever reson it did not work out between you,never hate a person.Just make sure that you never stop loveing the person you are with now!
2006-06-20 15:15:30 · answer #8 · answered by Tony R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal - there are a few songs that bring back memories for me. If I go to an amusement park, sometimes I remember that someone because I had a special moment with her there.
2006-06-20 15:16:09 · answer #9 · answered by Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's funny how you can not think about a past love for years and then a song comes on the radio, and it all comes back.
Just enjoy the good memories from your past relationships, but keep them in the past.
You moved on for a reason and found your wonderful husband.
2006-06-20 15:08:04 · answer #10 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋