I hear emotional, but when you first meet someone, isn't it physical attraction? or is it both? I am going to the gym to impress my wife, is it that important to her or any woman?
2006-06-20 06:47:56 · 23 answers · asked by Andy S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
both! go to the gym and be emotionally available
2006-06-20 06:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by Baconbits 3 · 9⤊ 1⤋
Emotional attraction has a stronger pull than physical attraction for women (my opinion). Why? Because we are all about emotions, whether we're happy or sad. Plus our senses are more alive when we're emotionally stimulated. Thats how we connect with another person. Physical attraction has some pull yes obviously. I mean heck I like to look at guys that fill out a nice pair of jeans, but after that whats my second thought, I wonder about what kind of person he is. It doesn't say anywhere that a guy has to be either alone, he can be both. You go to the gym to impress your wife, no problem with that but be there for her emotionally as well. There is nothing more fulfilling to a woman than knowing that everyday her man is trying to make her as happy as she is trying as well.
2006-06-20 07:01:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the most part (for me anyway) it is physical initially. Soon followed by the emotions. If a guy is totally hot, but you talk to him for 5 minutes and he is a complete jerk....nothing he could say or do would attract me. On the flip side, if I meet someone who is not what I am normally attracted to, yet get to know him better and find that he is a teneder compassionate person he becomes more attractive to me.....even physically. All in all I would definately say emotional......because women are just that way. Like others have said...looking good for your wife is great because it means you care about yourself but ultimately the way you treat and react to her with respect, honesty, care,consideration,cherishing,honoring will go so much farther in the long run.
2006-06-20 07:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by momkmmt4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its both in a way. You are more apt to walk up to someone appealing and attractive vs. someone thats not.
BUT, sometimes the appealing and attractive people are idiots, morons or just down right rude.
So, then there is a 'sacrifice' if you will; date someone you think if pretty/attractive, maybe not a 10, but def. get the emotional needs in there.
You can date someone thats a 5 or 6 and as long as they have an emotional stand, they're the winner
2006-06-20 06:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by da_nikkster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are male prostitutes and porn stars too. By your logic that would mean all men are more attracted to money and social influence than they are to love, physical attraction, personality, or emotional attraction. A very small number of men are rapists. Your logic would imply all men care more about sex than they do about hurting others. And we know this is simply not true. People are different and have different morals and are attracted to different things, face it. For example we know that there are both pro-life and pro-choice women. These women are not born fundamentally different, but they clearly have different views and priorities. Why is it so hard for you to accept that not all women are the same? All of your questions seem to simply be you coming to random generalizations about women. You fully support men who go to prostitutes but condemn the prostitutes themselves? But then you also have a go at women for not liking men going to prostitutes?
2016-03-15 12:16:23 · answer #5 · answered by Michele 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional needs first and then physical attraction comes next. We think differenly then men. She wants you to be there for her emotionally and listen to her. Put her needs above your own and love and cherish your wife for who she is. The guy can look great but if he is not open to her emotional side and like to spend time with her looks are not everything to a woman especially not to me. The best looking guy can be the biggest jerk and be mean and not spend time with you but a guy who might not be the greatest looking on the outside but have a great heart and be there for me emotionally and at all times and be loving and caring and that goes far beyond looks or outward appearance.
2006-06-20 09:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is BOTH. Women are more multi-tasking than guys. they receive on both the emotional channel and the visual channel and many other channels at the SAME TIME.
What is important to women varies from woman to woman, that is some of the excitement about getting to know someone. Finding out what combination of things ring her chimes.
If I were you, I'd sit with her and talk about it. Take your shirt off and flex your pect and ask, Hey what do you think about this? Then watch a good tear jerkin movie and shed a tear and ask her, "wasn't that sad or wasn't that great that she ended up with him after all they went through?" and see what she says.
I think she will just be thrilled that you are talking to her and asking what she thinks about everything!
2006-06-20 06:48:50 · answer #7 · answered by Ken C. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
physical is what drawls us to the men in the first place
if there is no emotional attraction we quickly move on to the next physical attraction, though
i hope your wife will be impressed with the healthy approach you are taking for your health and not for your manly pecs
after the wedding is over and home is settled we love our husband's for their brains and not their body's (even though a hubby with a hot body makes good lunch conversation with the gals at work!)
2006-06-20 17:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by Cap'n Donna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional attachment is why humans mate the way they do at all. Al women need the emotional security. Going to the gym may make her look more at you, but she will love you more if you find time to spend alone with her listenening to whatever she wants to talk about. Best wishes
2006-06-20 06:50:58 · answer #9 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say physical attraction or good looks if ya will.. I say taking care of your body is a big turn on to me. Shows me you want to be around for awhile lol
2006-06-20 06:50:00 · answer #10 · answered by trudie_barraza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say emotional keeps them.
If you look around, there are many overweight men with women. I am overweight and have had that experience.
If you can emotionally get a women, she will love you forever. But you have to get to her heart.
Presents, I love you, Thanks, Holding doors, Doing choirs, Spending time, Being patient. All of those are keys to a great realtionship with her.
2006-06-20 07:05:40 · answer #11 · answered by javarick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋