is there a time when its ok to take a lover whilst still married to a guy?
2006-06-20 07:00:50 · 47 answers · asked by hedgewitch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, but it happens, love/marriage gets old, just keep in mind it might happen to everyone.
2006-06-20 07:03:15 · answer #1 · answered by :) 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
The right answer is no. Although the right answer is not always the easiest. Before you cross a barrier that can never be returned to ask yourself a few questions.
1. Why are you looking to take on this new lover?
2. What does the new lover offer that your current lover does not?
3. Can you live with the fact that you will be a cheater?
4. Do you love your significant other?
5. Would you want them to do it to you?
If you can answer all of these honestly and it does not bother you then go for it. On the other hand if a sweat breaks out on your brow and you get really uncomfortable, then maybe some other options would be worth looking into. Such as counseling, making time with your significant other. Hope you make the right decision. Either way you have to live with the consequences.
2006-06-20 07:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless you are legally seperated.
I'm not saying this from a religious or legal standpoint, you dishonor yourself, your marriage and your husband if you cheat.
If you are in a bad marriage, get a divorce. Otherwise, honor your commitment.
If you are seriously considering this because of problems at home, talk to your husband, just tell him how you feel. How he responds will help you decide what to do.
If you are considering this because of an infatuation, take a deep breath and step back. I you really love this new person and they really love you, you can both wait till the divorce is final or you at least have a seperation.
2006-06-20 07:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by Big Ed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, no no and no. I had an affair and it's the only regret i have ever had. I was 22 got married young and felt alone. i just got remarried at 30 and i am crazy about my husband and vice versa, i can't even imagine cheating on him i just really did my homework this time round...If your unhappy LEAVE. If that's not an option and children are involved try and stay until they're 18. If your husband is unhappy as well maybe discuss it and stay and have a mutual misunderstanding. i hope this helps a bit.
2006-06-20 07:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never. If you want someone else, do yourself, your husband, and your future lover a favor and get a divorce first. Nothing good can ever come from an affair, and relationships breed out of affairs have a 99% failure rate due to the trust factor.
2006-06-20 07:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It`s never right,
but
you will know in your heart of heart`s when it`s the right time to be with a lover,it just happens, someone comes into your life one day and your world as you know it changes,
may be a one off, may be txt for 6mth then a one nite stand and that could lead to more.
it`s the spice of life, just take precautions and be carefull
2006-06-21 10:19:03 · answer #6 · answered by mysps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, are you an idiot? Of course it's NEVER right! It's adultery, it's a sin, and it's just plain disrespectful. The people who think it's okay are just as bad as the cheating spouse. ANYONE who sleeps with a married person (if they know the person is married) obviously does not respect marriage or the other person's commitment and therefore, how can you trust them to respect their marriage. Please, don't be so stupid.
2006-06-20 07:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with taking separate partners. I think in the long run it would end in a divorce. If you still want to add a new partner, try fantasies with your spouse, watch adult videos, if that does not work introduce a sex partner (male or female) for a three-way but never at home. Home is for you and your spouse only.
2006-06-20 07:09:59 · answer #8 · answered by The Professor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really.......unless it's me. I'm very discreet.
No, end the married then take a lover. Then you've not been unfaithful and it leaves the door open if you want to try and get back with your hubby...
...or just sleep with me, either way is good x
2006-06-20 07:11:11 · answer #9 · answered by tom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a problem dating married men. Hey, if the are dating or seeing me, than they are not satisfied at home. I don't see anything wrong with it. That's the same with women, if they are married and still want to see me, than that's awesome. I don't have any problem with seeing married men or women. It's their choice that they have been out looking for something more, and I am it.
2006-06-20 07:03:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it okay to take a lover while married? Sure.
Is it okay to lie to someone you have sworn yourself to, in front of the law and your god of choice? No.
If you do the former without breaking the later... go for it, open marriages can work, though they normally don't for lack of realitic expectations and planning.
2006-06-20 07:09:49 · answer #11 · answered by Kiari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋