When I met my husband I was only a child, he is 15 years older than me.
We've been married 6 years now and have 2 children. I have known him for a long time but right now he is like a stranger to me. We don't communicate anymore, don't have things in common (besides the kids). He doesn't understand me at all and I feel very unhappy. No matter what I do is wrong. And what he does feels wrong to me. I have lost all my friends because of him, 'cause nobody is good enough for him. Just don't know what to do. I' m thinking of a separation, but I don't think I'm strong enough. Any advice? Thanks
2006-06-20 08:05:07 · 10 answers · asked by desperate housewife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you should get rid of him and get a guy younger than you or same age.
2006-06-20 08:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question of problems and getting over them...yes, sure many. You say that no one is good enough for him...I think that is odd.
You should really confront him about these things when the kids are not around. Be sure that you have it all straight then approach each thing head on. As a last resort separate. It would take a lot of strength to do so.
I myself have contemplated that in the past. Instead I decided to focus more on my life joining clubs...making friends etc. The rest fell together after that. Things got better for me. I sure hope the do for you.
2006-06-20 15:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by Shebaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him how you feel? Every marriage goes through this especially when you marry young. I met my husband when I was 20 and we have been together almost 8 years. I had to finally tell him how I felt and it really helped, he also had concerns but did not know how to tell me. communication really makes a difference.
If talking to him does not work then you have to make the best decision for you, not the kids, not your family. You have to make yourself happy if he can't. Don't ever feel like you are not strong enough, you should never stay in a situation if you are not happy especially with kids, they can tell when mom is not happy. Only you can make the right decision for you, but you should try to talk to him and let him know how you feel.
Good Luck
2006-06-20 15:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by Micka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separation might not be such a bad idea. When I separated from my husband, I didn't think that I was strong enough either. But where there's a will, there's a way. If you decide to separate, you will make it. Both of you need time to find yourselves again. I was separated from my husband for a year and now we're together again. Things have never been better! Good luck!
2006-06-20 15:10:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation as you ... and its hard you almost feel trapped its a scurry feeling .. I mean ive based my life around him for 10 years and I was 15 when we got together and we have a child .. nothing i ever do is good enough ... and I am very isolated from everyone ..lost all friends and family .. I think about seperation all the time .I aint happy not like this either but I dont have anywhere else to go i never went bak to school and he never let me work ive always been a stay at home mom ..now i am very unhappy very insecure .. i cant be myself around him .I dont even know who I am anymore ..I have tried hard to keep my family together but he is so distant from me .. and he is just a down right *** .. always complaining ..nothing i do will ever be good enough .. he wants everything handed to him like he is some kinda child and he treats me like a P.O.S. Im tired of it to but feel trapped .. I would like to say yes alotta ppl can work thru there problams I mean I have in our past when he has cheated but I guess you both gotta have the want ? I guess the only thing I can say is follow your heart and find a way to do what makes you happy ?? Im confused about my feelings towards my husband its like a big part of me wants to stay with him but another part of me wants to disapear forever but I gotta think bout my child her needs come b4 mine ! good luck to you ...if you need a friend to lean on feel free to contact me I could definatly use one ..
2006-06-20 15:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy and see no way to fix the problem, I would suggest speaking to a marriage counselor first.
With the age difference you probably never had much in common to begin with and if you are not communicating now, it is not likely to get any better without professional help.
2006-06-20 15:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by Ani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the two of you have just grown apart. Marriage problems can be fixed, but both sides need to be willing to work on it. If its one sided you may as well give up now.
2006-06-20 15:10:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to reconnect. Try counseling. You need to communicate and develop relationships outside your marriage in order to not feel trapped. Good luck!
2006-06-27 15:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by jodi M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is 9 years older and our problems just got bigger so I left because we also have two kids and there was no more happy home for them so I left
2006-06-20 15:09:15 · answer #9 · answered by ~Ms Eli~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on ime...!
2006-06-20 15:08:18 · answer #10 · answered by timestamps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋