Family - July 2007

I was visiting my daughter and my 4 year old grandson. My daughter gave my grandson a snack and I reached over, took it away from him and took a bite out of it. I didn't give it back to him and told my daughter this food is good. My grandson looked like he was ready to cry and my daughter came all unglued. She snatched the food from me and told me do not ever take food from her kid again and she was so angry that there for a minute I thought she was going to hit me. I told her I was just joking around and she told me she's not joking, get the hell out of her house. I left and she won't see or talk to me now. Why must things be like this with her????

2007-07-03 01:29:13 · 22 answers · asked by jim 1

My mother, my aunt and I were out at dinner on Saturday and they were talking about how they were each one of nine and felt that certain siblings were treated better than the others. For instance my mother and oldest aunt (now deceased) were told that they had to leave school at 15 and go out and get a job to support their two younger brothers who were staying on at school to get an education. They were told that after all they didn't need an education and would be getting married and having children. However the list went on.

Not wanting to rock the boat I kept my mouth shut about the fact that I feel my mother favours my brother (1st born) better than my sister or I. She has helped us all out tremendously and I'm very greatful for her support. But I feel that she is always jumping to his defense and never to mine.

Do any of you feel you weren't treated equally as your siblings.

Or are there any parents who know and can admit, in hindsight, why they treated their kids differently.

2007-07-03 01:16:48 · 19 answers · asked by gill79 4

I married 7 years ago...and very much in love. Still am. Two years after we married, his mom moved in with us. We had just bought a home and she couldn't pay rent to live on her own. She is 80.. His sister...and mom don't get along. His sister is a control freik, with every family member she has. From her husband down to her sons, to us and her mom...and anyone else she can get her fangs into.
Recently.she has been to our house..cleaned her moms room...complained how dirty it is.. She took our ashtrays and washed them all....and put them away. Said we shouldn't be smoking in the house. Well, we agree and respect mom, so we do not smoke with her in the room. She removed our throw rugs and put them in the basement, so mom don't fall. Hubby wants to tell her to take mom if we're not doing a good enough job. but he promised his dad before he died. My off days she comes and hangs out like she owns this house..Making me feel very unconfortable. Is it me? Am I wrong?

2007-07-03 01:08:36 · 15 answers · asked by Your Asking Me? 4

I have an aunt. She's about 85. She's never been married and doesn't have any children. We used to live together 'til last year when a slot was opened for her in a home for the aged where she's currently staying at as of the moment. My other relatives and friends are criticizing me bec I had placed her there. You see I live in a country wherein putting people in homes is not very common and it's considered even cruel. I've had this on me for the longest time and honestly I'm ready to explode any minute now. I'm just so sick and tired of all this talking behind my back. People think ill of me bec of what I had done.

2007-07-02 23:01:53 · 4 answers · asked by Rose 1

2007-07-02 18:28:44 · 5 answers · asked by GORDON S 1

she seem to be kind of a cool kid and has been living with me since the age of eight. she has been sturggling with school and was not able to graduate since two years ago. she's still a virgin, has never dated a boy and does not even have a best friend! her dad and i have tried everything to expose her to life but things are still not working. i cannot think of any other program to put her into. some times we think that she has learning disability but has not taken her to the hospital for that yet. i am 100% furstrated and don't know what more to do. please help with any idea of adult program.....or anything!!!!

2007-07-02 18:20:46 · 4 answers · asked by sophia 1

A Mother is suppose to be the one person you can always turn to and the one person who always is in your corner and has your back. So then, how do you forgive yourself when you ruin that relationship? I know I can never regain the love. I don't think I should be judged for protecting myself and walking away from such a devastating situtation. Does this mean that nothing I did before or since was good or right? Does this mean that I cannot validate myself in their eyes? And does this mean that I am a failure because they've walked away from me? I did alot of good, but I'm being tossed aside with the garbage. I don't think it's right. And why do I feel the need to be proven a success only if I have the approval of people who don't value me as a person?
Serious only, please.........................

2007-07-02 17:56:19 · 10 answers · asked by MAGGIE MAE 4

2007-07-02 17:22:39 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

i feel my soul is leaving me ......

2007-07-02 17:04:32 · 34 answers · asked by gengen 3

My boyfriend's family is having a get together for the Forth of July and here was the plan - I was supposed to go up to his grandmothers tomorrow then come home at night because I have work the next morning for a little while.. and then go back up for the rest of the 4th.. My dilemma is my mom just told me that my sister is spending the whole day and night at my house tomorrow with my neice.. and they are both moving to North Carolina in two weeks. (im in NY) I told my boyfriend I have to bail because I want to spend time with them.. he got upset because he already told his family I was going.. I then said well i'll go up after work on wednesday and just skip out on Tuesday.. he still was upset and I feel guilty.. should I??

2007-07-02 16:47:21 · 4 answers · asked by Live HAppy <3 3

im 17, and ive chased my stepfather with knives, given him black eyes, I throw things at my parents,broken my moms finger before, constantly call them names, and beat up my little brother, and i argue with EVERYTHING that everyone says!! what kind of help should i get, or give me some good advice please....Im so tired of being like this.

2007-07-02 15:41:11 · 31 answers · asked by ThatoneGirl90 1

In a life or death situation, in what order would you save the following: your parents, your children, your spouse, your siblings?

2007-07-02 14:22:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am eighteen and two days ago i got my navel pierced. I looked up a respected place and payed for it and everything, but i haven't told my mother yet. i don't really know how she would react. she could think it is totally fine and not care, but she could flip. i did cut my hair radically short and she loved it. i want to tell her but i don't know if i should really. she might think i am a skank...

2007-07-02 13:49:38 · 23 answers · asked by sandy c 2

my brother and his wife have been married for about 4 years and my niece and nephew are from another relationship which she has passed away. The kids have been back and forth between my house and my parents house and their house because my brother and his wife fight in front of them all the time and never use the money they get for the kids on the kids but everyone has always got my brother out of trouble by paying his rent or PGE or whatever else they didn't pay. But this has been going on since 2003 and I can't watch my niece and nephew go through this any longer. My brother receives SSI for my nephew and foodstamps for all of his kids and IHSS for my nephew. What can I do to get custody of them?????

2007-07-02 13:37:11 · 6 answers · asked by mik67 1

he doensn't seem to care anymore

2007-07-02 13:27:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

He shot a younger woman he had been having an affair with after she allegedly was blackmailing him. Luckily, she did not die.

I am a happily married physician with 3 teenagers, yet I am still having a hard time with all the conflicted feelings I have about him.

I abhor the life he led. He was an unfaithful, racist, liar; who is not really remorseful-he was alternately ruthlessly hard and kind to me as I grew up.

I write him an occasional letter and send him money monthly. I ask him only to call my cell phone about once a month. In the last seven years, I have visited about 8 times in prison.

I have family members who still make him out to be some wronged, misunderstood, giant of a person. These people often make me feel guilty for not offering him more support & comfort.

It often keeps me up at night thinking of him in a tiny cell while I have a vey comfortable life.

He'l be free in about 3 years and I am ambivalent about how I will be to him.

Thoughts?

2007-07-02 13:01:19 · 13 answers · asked by Raintrain 2

My grandma is in a nursing home in Ohio and I live in Minnesota. I get down to visit her every other month or so and would like to know good gifts to give her either in the mail or in person.

So far I have given her recent pics of my brother and I, and I go out to eat with her when I am there, and we have also gone shopping and got her some new clothes and other things she needed.

Any other ideas? Thank you so much everyone!!

2007-07-02 12:56:56 · 16 answers · asked by heathh84 2

My mom is alwys bossing me around! She alwys thinks that her way is the best.Wht ever she does is correct and wht I do is wrong! When she comes home there is no hi/hello to me but a heated rgument w/ me! She alwys finds something bad abt me and magnifies it like its the worst thing in the world. I mean I once got a b+ 4 the 4th quarter(my final grade-A) but she started acting like this one b+ was gonna hurt my life!Then when ever I'm trying to say sumthing that her fault, she starts saying "SHUT UP" so i don't have to magnify her faults. She freakin' controls my life! I mean I have to do sum summer course cause its her choice, i have to take sumthing other than choir cause its her choice, i took the SAT in 8th grade right after comin from an exhaustin thing and i got bad scores but she blames me cause she thinks i didnt study! She wants me to change my career(doctor) cause she thinks i'm not capable of it. She says that since I don't do SAT bks I'll be a guy fit 4 n0thin w/out a job

2007-07-02 11:40:15 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My brother is 12. He gets sooo mad over the littlest things. He'll run off into his room screaming and cussing and will slam his door shut. He can't take a joke and he gets so defensive over everything. He's freaking me out. What should I do to help him?

2007-07-02 11:18:39 · 5 answers · asked by ryansamuel 4

What should I do? My dad is mad at me 'cus i put on black nail polish. he said it's for "goths" what should i tell him??

2007-07-02 11:09:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-02 11:05:26 · 21 answers · asked by Chris . 1

I know its awful and very shallow to say that but some members of my family are just embarassing (not even in a funny way). I love them but they're very odd, I'm not in the usual 'family unit' and many of them have mental illnesses or personality disorders. I'm also quite ashamed of where I live because its a big dump. Anyway my new 'boyfriend' (sort of) has started talking about meeting my family because I've met some of his, who are very respectable (and a bit flash). What can I do? I could never bring him home, he's just too perfect.

2007-07-02 09:51:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son is bypolar and his wife gives him his medication, the problem is that she will hide his pills and he panics thinking he doesn't have pills for the next day. When is feel down, because he can't see his daughter from a previous relation, she keeps talking about her. Now she telling people(and me) that he's crazy, that he's a bad husband. She is very jealous, if my daughter and my son get along, she get very moody and make sure that can't get along.She said that if she had to choose between her dogs (six of them ) and her husband, the dogs would stay because they have been there longer then him.

2007-07-02 09:47:13 · 8 answers · asked by Dove 1

I LOVE MY ONLY DAUGHTER WITH ALL MY HEART. SHE IS ALWAYS IN NEED OF MONEY,, HELPWITH GENERAL LIFE, THEN WHEN I DO GO TO HER AIDE AND SHE GETS WHAT SHE WAS AFTER SHE ENDS UP TREATING ME LIKE AN OLD DISH RAG AND WONT CALL ME EVEN IF IM REAL ILL TO SEE IF SHE CAN DO ANYTHING TO HELP OR EVEN ASK HOW IM DOING . IN THELAST 3 MONTHS IVE LOANED HER OR SO THOUGHT IT WAS A LOAN OF AROUND $4000.00 IM AFRAID TO STOP TAKING HER CLLS FOR FEAR SHE WILL DENIE ME VISITS WITH MY 2 GRAND-DAUGHTERS. SHES GOIING THRU A DIVORCE AND TREATS THE GIRLS SO BAD THAT THEY WANT TO COME LIVE WITH ME WHICH IVE DONE BEFORE WHEN SHE RAN INTO PROBLEMS AND COULDNT KEEP THEM AT THE TIME ID APPRECIATE ANY ONES ADVICE ON THIS I FAM LITTERLY GETTING SICK FROM WORRING ABOUT HER DAUGHTERS AND HER TOO BUT MORE FOR THE CHILDREN,

2007-07-02 09:46:09 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok to long a story short:
my mom gets a boyfriend when i was around 9 or 10. i met him and he was cool. nice and fun. i accepted him, but then he stopped be all fun from a month or something. i didnt like him anymore. i felt that he only was fun and nice so he can show my mom that he's good for her.
now from here, is that a right be angry?

he was then calling me spoiled; example:
i didnt want to eat at this restuarant we were all eating from in disney land, so my mom took me to another food place.

now months later or a year or something, my mom and her boyfriend got engaged. we get a house, we move.

and then he starts making all these rules and start acting like my father; example: i cant use the tv in the living room because he thinks i mess it up, he time limits my tv/light because of bills, he tried to force me to go to parent teacher conference, he yells if i take his stuff and dont return it, he forces me to go places. ect.

theres so many examples to give. cont-

2007-07-02 08:54:35 · 23 answers · asked by $isi 2

I am on the computer and he is like what r u doing?? and i said im answering questions on yahoo answers, and he said whos questions and i said ppl that ask them you just answer them and you can ask questions also he said i told you you are not aloud to talk to ppl you dont know,get off of there!I have a myspace but it is private and only my friends can see it but i havent told him because he'll make me delete it anyways i am so angry at him right now i love him so much and i respect and am grateful that he cares for me but .......................

2007-07-02 08:51:18 · 8 answers · asked by SupYo 1

she says i have enough but i only have 6 holliter shirts
3 abercrombie
10aeropostale
and 5 american eagle


so not fair

2007-07-02 08:50:58 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

Lately, my 14 year old brother has been getting closer to his girlfriend, Taryn. She's a nice girl and I like her, so do my parents. I am sixteen years old and pregnant with twins, and my parents know about it. The other day, my dad found condoms that my boyfriend gave him that were opened. I lied for my brother, to get him out of trouble, and said they were mine. Me and my brothers are really close, and I love them all. Do I encourage him and his girlfriend have sex and risk her becoming pregnant like me, or tell my parents, and risk them being split up?

2007-07-02 08:10:25 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

Sounds crazy but I just started YA and I feel a little addicted!! I get on here everyday, now I'm all into this points thing and want to see how many I can get and how fast! How do you feel about it?

2007-07-02 07:34:09 · 11 answers · asked by 0 3

The sixteen year old's parents moved to New York along with his 14 year old brother but allowed their child to remain behind in Colorado living with his grandmother for 3 months of his Junior year in High School. They told him he had a choice to finish his senior year in Colorado or to go to New York for the last year. Now his parents are revoking that choice partially on the basis that he can no longer live with his grandmother. As an alternative he would be welcomed to live with his girlfriend who is 1 year and 9 months older than him in her house while she attends college and he attends his former high school until the end of his senior year. The sixteen year old son has over a 4.0 GPA, is president-elect of the National Honor Society, returning varsity member of the tennis team, and poised captain of the school mock trial team. Is it unreasonable for him to be allowed to live with his girlfriend?

2007-07-02 07:30:23 · 7 answers · asked by invisibleman 2