My mom is alwys bossing me around! She alwys thinks that her way is the best.Wht ever she does is correct and wht I do is wrong! When she comes home there is no hi/hello to me but a heated rgument w/ me! She alwys finds something bad abt me and magnifies it like its the worst thing in the world. I mean I once got a b+ 4 the 4th quarter(my final grade-A) but she started acting like this one b+ was gonna hurt my life!Then when ever I'm trying to say sumthing that her fault, she starts saying "SHUT UP" so i don't have to magnify her faults. She freakin' controls my life! I mean I have to do sum summer course cause its her choice, i have to take sumthing other than choir cause its her choice, i took the SAT in 8th grade right after comin from an exhaustin thing and i got bad scores but she blames me cause she thinks i didnt study! She wants me to change my career(doctor) cause she thinks i'm not capable of it. She says that since I don't do SAT bks I'll be a guy fit 4 n0thin w/out a job
2007-07-02 11:40:15 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm an 8th grader rite now! So SAT books shudn't matter now shud they? I mean I can't shop where I want, she says that I'm fat, she thinks i don't study enough(i'm in summer break who shud study?) its hard enough to take a summer course but extra studying????
She says I'm the a bad daughter who is selfish, stupid, dumb........
Also she forces me to eat........I mean I'm in 8th grade.......arent i old enough to decide weather i'm hungry or not..... I just want her to know that I can make good choices........and i shud have a relaxing life without study ALL THE TIME!
Just to say.......I'm a straight A student..... except for that one b+
2007-07-02 11:46:20 · update #1
I tell my mom to not boss me around and let me do what i want...... but all she says is ur too small.........u shud let me decide everything! She thinks I make really bad choices...........
2007-07-02 11:48:04 · update #2
o man im sorry. this is a really difficult situation especially since she is your mom and you always need to respect your parents no matter how frustrating, over protective, and controlling they may be. My advice would be to sit your mom down and say hey mom, i would really like to talk to you about something, and if you could give me just 5 minutes of me talking without any interruptions i would really appreciate that, then you can give me all the feedback you want. hopefully she will get something out of this and see somewhat of where you might be coming from. the trick to this is you have to be very calm and respectful when you're talking to her. Don't yell or put all of the blame on her because then she's just going to reverse all of that back on you. Apologizing is also another way to solve problems like this. i know, you're probably thinking why in the world would i apologize when i have done nothing, but sometimes that's just what you've got to do. It shows that you're the bigger person in the situation. and even if she doesnt act like or say that she appreciates you apologizing and being respectful, thats only because she has too much pride to do it and deep down she will know she was wrong and you were right. She isnt going to change over night, it takes times, but all you can do is love her and pray for her. i hope this helps! : ) I'll be praying for you
2007-07-02 11:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by champ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everything you're saying is accurate, it appears she's freaking out. She loves you very much, and wants the best for you. For right now, there's not much you can do about it. When you're a little older, you'll have the chance to branch out a bit, and you can even leave home if you like.
Her saying you'd be good for nothing is hugely out of proportion (again, if you're giving me the right grades).
I'd look for some other stressors in her life. Maybe something else--work, broken car, is stressing her out, she doesn't have anybody to talk to about it, and so she come home and lets it go all over you. Not your fault--the fault of whatever is bothering her.
Do some detective work and find out what that might be and maybe even you could help her eliminate some of the stress. Would she do yoga with you? Or run a couple of miles? Physical exercise is very relaxing.
2007-07-02 11:50:35 · answer #2 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what she wants you to until your 18, the rest of your life is up to you..Your career, college and what you do is your choice - not hers.
2007-07-02 11:47:15 · answer #3 · answered by jessie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try what i did. TELL HER TO BACK OFF. if she tells you to shut up, don't. over-yell her. tell her no matter what. make her cry and realize that she's been a female dog to you. let her know that your life is your own. punishment can't silence what your truly feel.
2007-07-02 11:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by Ayatsuri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know wat ur moms problem is but maybe u should try talking to her about wat u want to do maybe u could even get ur dad to talk to her. or something like that may be u could write down ur intrest and stuff or something and give it to ur mom. who knows but at this piont think about something that will get through ur moms head.
2007-07-02 11:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋