I have an aunt. She's about 85. She's never been married and doesn't have any children. We used to live together 'til last year when a slot was opened for her in a home for the aged where she's currently staying at as of the moment. My other relatives and friends are criticizing me bec I had placed her there. You see I live in a country wherein putting people in homes is not very common and it's considered even cruel. I've had this on me for the longest time and honestly I'm ready to explode any minute now. I'm just so sick and tired of all this talking behind my back. People think ill of me bec of what I had done.
2007-07-02 23:01:53 · 4 answers · asked by Rose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell your relatives to take your mother into their own homes and they take care of her!! You did your share! It used to be custom in this country, as well, that couples had a lot of children to then, take care of the parents. Years ago there weren't the good, nice nursing homes that there are now! It takes many years for customs to change. Just know that you did the right thing for her and yourself. Go visit, but be prepared for her to be angry with you, too. None of it is easy. Usually, it's the women in the family who have to make the decision, and they "get it", too. At 78 yrs of age, I, personally, do NOT want to be a burden upon my daughter and family!! And, I DO consider it a burden in this day and age when most parents are working and raising a family themselves!
2007-07-03 02:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by Martell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could have looked after her yourself at your home. Im sure shes been looked after great their, but its like you dont love her anymore, you've had the chance so you've just tossed her aside. Im not trying to make you feel bad, im trying to make you see how it is from your reatives point of view.
You could get her out maybe, look after her for a bit and maybe get a helper person to come and visit everyday to check shes ok. Or you could ask a family member that if they want her out of the home so badly, they could look after her.
Or, if none of those seem good, talk to some of your realitives, tell them why you put her in a home. Because you have a life, and you can't spend it worrying over her, and that she can meet other people her age and do lots of good things that she wouldn't be able to do if she was living with you. Show them how its better for her, and then if they still don't believe you, tell them that one of them can get her out and look after her if they feel that strongly about it.
2007-07-03 06:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by misskelzx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes it better for the older person to be in a home, they have company, make friends and get the care they need and cant get all the time at home because other people have lifes also
2007-07-03 06:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by bluelitttt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is...
they dont feel loved
2007-07-03 06:05:37 · answer #4 · answered by cant_think_of_a_better_name 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋