Lately, my 14 year old brother has been getting closer to his girlfriend, Taryn. She's a nice girl and I like her, so do my parents. I am sixteen years old and pregnant with twins, and my parents know about it. The other day, my dad found condoms that my boyfriend gave him that were opened. I lied for my brother, to get him out of trouble, and said they were mine. Me and my brothers are really close, and I love them all. Do I encourage him and his girlfriend have sex and risk her becoming pregnant like me, or tell my parents, and risk them being split up?
2007-07-02 08:10:25 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just to add. We live in an area where about 200 people out of the 2000 in our high school, are virgins. So he could be sucked into the trend just like me. Where we live, kids know basically everything about sex by the time they're in first grade. This is not a lifetime channel movie town. This is the real deal, sex is not a big deal here, it's more like a way of life, it's really sad.
2007-07-02 08:26:47 · update #1
I wouldn't encourage telling on your brothers because that tends to make things worse and also it could ruin the relationship that you share with them.
Talk to your brothers about sex and try to reason with them. Sex creates life and because of that it shouldn't be used to just have fun. They may resist that argument, but the thing is that seed of thought will be planted in them once you say it...don't nag them. If they trust you, you might be able to save them from being fathers too early. There are no guarantees. Just pray, ok.
Take care of your little ones, it'll be tough, but hang in there, they'll love you for it and you them.
2007-07-09 11:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by Winx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents need to know what's going on, your brother is WAY too young to be a Daddy. You're too young to be a mom, but that is something that you have to deal with.
Is that what you want for your brother? I'm sure it was really tough to tell your parents that you're pregnant. You have a lot of decisions to make, and not a lot of time to decide. Will you be raising the babies, give them up for adoption?
It is your choice and whatever you decide you have to live with it. There is no easy choice or "right" choice.
Also, don't listen to the negative people who will tell you how bad or horrible you are. There will be some who will use this question to verbally beat you up. I wish you the best for you and your babies. I hope you can talk to your brother and let him know you're concerned about his lifestyle. You don't want him to make your mistake. Good luck!!
2007-07-10 04:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by Jnine 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound like a nice girl and don't want to be mean, but sometimes being an adult means doing what is right even if it seems mean. You're already pregnant at 16 and that speaks volumes, you should sit your brother and his girlfriend down and have a long talk with them. Tell them that you don't want them to end up in the same situation as you. If I were you, I would also tell them that if they do not cool it then you will not take the heat for him in the future. Girl you have too much to worry about with twins on the way...you don't need to be covering for your kid brothers. Its time to grow up honey.
2007-07-02 08:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by SoAZ Gal 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself what's more important...Stopping your little 14-year-old brother from making a very serious mistake with his and his g/f's life or letting him go ahead and make that mistake. He's only 14, it's not the end of the world if he can't have sex with her. He's not old enough for that responsibility and you know it. Do you want that little girl to be in the same situation as you?...
I don't think you should cover-up for your brother. You are only enabling him to do what he shouldn't be doing, you are in fact condoning it. Tell him to stop, if he doesn't then let mom or dad know what is going on. Even if he gets mad at you now, one day he'll thank you for stopping him from making a big mistake...Think about tomorrow... -Good Luck!
2007-07-10 02:31:56 · answer #4 · answered by Domino 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
. You are in for a sad way of life and it will be even worse for the children you bring into the world. Do not lie to your parents about your brother, you are already causing them enough problems by being pregnant (twins or not) . I am sure you do not want your brother to be as miserable as you will be when the babies arrive and you are trapped for the rest of your life. Or rather, force your PARENTS to be burdened with even more babies having babies. Try to be different yourself even if your whole town loves to have sex problems. It is EASY to HAVE a baby, NOT having a baby is the hard part of this story.
2007-07-09 21:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mimi your 14 year old brother is going to experiment with or without your approval. You can try and talk with both him and his girlfriend and warn them of the dangers (but they will probably be like most others and think it can't happen to them). Sounds like your brother is at least being safe by using condemns. Besides I imagine that your parents are probably aware of how your younger brother is feeling and that his hormones are changing (cause we were all kids once upon a time) and hopefully your father has given him the talk on the birds and bees. Best of luck to all involved and be safe delivery of them twins when the time comes.
2007-07-02 08:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mimi? It's Tara. You told me about Taryn and Tommy trying to have sex. Listen, that day when your dad found the condoms, and we were downstairs. You covered for him, and took the heat. I would have totally covered if you hadn't done it first. I was about to burst out, and just say it, but that wouldn't have made much sense. Me having condoms in your brother's room. I understand that almost everyone has had sex by the tenth grade in our area, right down to Ginna Huntington, the goodiest two shoes ever, but that doesn't mean that he has to be just like everyone else. Especially since you're pregnant, let me talk to Tommy and Taryn, maybe it'll help.
2007-07-02 16:49:37 · answer #7 · answered by piggyears 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know what sex has done for you...and now you have to live forever with children at such a young age...how do you feel about that?? How about sitting your brother down and talking to him and even his girlfriend....tell them your concerns...encourage them about the possibilities in their future and how hard any of them would be if they had a baby now....bottom line is this....I'm a mother of 4 and I know you can't make someone not have sex but you can encourage them to make good choices for their future...Talk to them about their hopes, dreams, things they want to do after school is over....get them thinking about positive things like that and just show them these things will be harder if a baby comes into the picture....
I give you alot of credit for having these babies and taking responsiblity for your actions...it is going to be hard but I know you can do it.....So many girls get pregnant and opt for the "easy" way out, although I don't think it's as easy as everyone says it is....I'll be praying for your whole family....God is all any of us needs!!!!
2007-07-09 10:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by Julie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 is way too young to have sex yeah i think u can have sex went your 16 +, but not at the age of 14
i can see that your kinda in the middle of this i think u should talk to him and his girlfriend at the same time and make them aware about having sex and what will may happen
and i would tell your parents if u feel that your brother didn't listed what u have told them
email me back and let me know what happens
good luck
2007-07-02 08:22:14 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess your dad isn't too smart or knows you are lying for your brother. Your pregnant and now you're using condoms.!?!!!?
You have to tell your parents. Otherwise your brother will end up in the same situation. How can you now save your brother from a train wreck when you see it comeing down the tracks?
2007-07-02 09:59:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋