Family - July 2007

My dad is forcing me to take piano lessons and I hate it. He is a very uncomprimising person. I got my mom to try to talk to him about pulling me out of it but he just yells. He's very hard to talk to, and it's difficult to get my point across. I have absolutely NO interest in piano, therefore I won't do well at it. Please, advice is GREATLY appreciated.

2007-07-06 08:36:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm asking this because some of my friends and even some adults say I'm childish, weak and may have seriuos problems in my adulthood. They say this because I'm more attached to my parents than most teens. I have a normal life, hang out with friends, paly sports, I'm a good student. But I like my parents, they treat me with love and I lime this. Last saturday I went to the movies with them and it was cool. Another example: Last week I ended up giving in to peer pressure and had som beer at a friend's home. I felt so bad that I told my mom and apologized, I trust and love her. I thought she might get hurt, upset, but she understood, just made me promise to be stong next time, I cried like a lil, girl, she hugged me and I got so happy she forgave me. And now you'll laugh: I was so upset that when I told mom we were in public, in a shopping center, but I couldn't wait. So, everybody saw that scene

2007-07-06 08:23:37 · 28 answers · asked by Sandra 1

There has been a custody battle over my 9 year old sister for the past year now. My father, whom I live with and so does my 16 year old brother, has been trying to get full custody because of the awesome location of where we live. Chicago, is where my mother currently lives and my sister is in the Chicago Public School system. We live in the Lincoln-Way district of 210. There is a huge difference in the quality of the curriculum and the way of living, so much safer than the city. Let me give you a bit of a background on my mother.
In the year 1999 my parents split, because my mom was having an affair on my father, while she had 3 kids at home. She has always been the "stay at home mom" but never gave us kids the respect we deserved, she was not an alcoholic or a drug abuser but, it was more mental abuse with how she made us think about ourselves. My brother and I got to choose where to live, but my sister is REALLY afraid of my mom and doesn't want to speak up and say what she wants...

2007-07-06 08:22:51 · 2 answers · asked by ughhh 3

work you brains .Not easy when such still prevail.

2007-07-06 08:22:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-06 07:44:41 · 2 answers · asked by cynthiahiggins1 1

I've known my bf for 3 years, and we want to get married. My family refused, saying that we aren't mature (I'm 24), and they don't know my bf. But after that talk, they didn't reach out to him, and still ignored him (as always been for the past 3 years!). I want them to be on good terms to each other, but my family's ignorance (and some comments) have made some permanent injuries to my bf, and me myself don't want to live in that kind of moral standard. I tried talking to them, but they've got ways of talking that makes me feel guilty (like "You think about it yourself" sounding like I made a wrong decision). I don't want to hurt my family, but I am hurt when they are ignoring the fact that me and my bf wants, and will be getting married. I think if they think like that, I'll never be "mature" (therefore never can get married). What can I do?

2007-07-06 07:40:05 · 6 answers · asked by 39108 2

at times he is very active and playfull and loves to play but latley he gets very quiet and goes in his room and holds his penis and gets quite and sad looking some times he cries any one know what could be wrong with my son maybe a medical condition ifear for my son and i am only 18 so i have no experience can any one help and i also have a infant and he cries when he urinates i need help i fear for my sons

2007-07-06 07:34:54 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-06 07:24:27 · 6 answers · asked by heythatsmebre 1

I'm 15, this upsets me. My parents trust me and I trust them, but I have several friends who are good kidsdand don't have their parents trust. Some don't mind, but some get really sad and depressed with this. I've never got in any bad trouble, and it's been more than 3 years I haven't got any punishment at all. My worst punishment was ro be grounded for 2 days, I had to stay home but was allowed to watch TV, etc. But, if I mess up - and I'm human and a teen - will I lose all my parents trust? I know most teens mess up at certain point, this seems to be the rule. Most parents messed up too when they were teens. So, does this mean almost no parents trust their kids? Some people say once trust is gone it's hard to get back? Does this mean if a kid messes up - and this will happen to almost 100% of them - then they'll never get back their parents trust? This is cruel, no one deserves this. Don't parents believe kids can change and become trustworth again? Why torture them emotionally?

2007-07-06 07:20:00 · 10 answers · asked by Amanda 1

Ok well who doesnt have this issue? lol. I was inspired to ask this after answering someone elses question.

Here's the deal, I am 21. I'm now engaged moved out on my own in college and working full time. I have always been this serious, had to because I have younger sisters and had to play mommy. The problem is that my mom cannot appreciate the support i've given her. She continues to do the same dumb shi she has done in the past, which includes involving me and turning to me as if i am the mother and she is the daughter. She just kicked my younger sister out over some damn soap and this entire fiasco has resulted in me getting a C- on my midterm.

I guess I'm just looking for copeing advice... I really dont know how to get her to see that I need to be able to focus, and that she needs to step up and be mom and not turn to me to be mom. Its been going on since I was about 9 and I cannot take it. Its why I moved out too. if u need more info just say and i'll try. thanks

2007-07-06 07:18:58 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband and i moved down to fl from mi about a year and a half ago to be closer to my family, they live less than a mile away, we have a two year old son who my parents absolutely adore, well ever since weve moved down here we spend practically every waking moment with my family, i love them and i know they love spending time with my son but i also feel like my husband, my son and i need to have our own family time, but if we dont go over to my parents they get really mad and ask why were trying to keep their grandson from them, we are thinking of moving about an hour away for a better job for myself, when i mentioned it to my mom she said , no i dont think so, im like ummm im an adult and i can do what i want and she told me wed discuss it later, i just dont know what to do, i love my family, i love being close with them but they are driving me crazy, and my husband is getting really fed up with the whole situation, how can i let them know we need our own life without hurting them?

2007-07-06 07:03:26 · 10 answers · asked by Jessica M 1

2007-07-06 06:48:59 · 30 answers · asked by needhelp 1

i had a crush on my math teacher for a 1 year. He treated me as if i was his daugther.what shall i do?

2007-07-06 05:54:04 · 4 answers · asked by eva2lution 2

Im 13, mom makes wear bras w/ much support and coverage, she says I need them. But I don't enjoy them, especially now in the summer. But mom is stubborn. I fought a lot w/ mom over this, got grounded a few times for being disrespectful. Sunday I really lost my temper, got a pair of scissors and in front my mom cut up the bras she gave me. I know this was wrong, apologized but my mom got REALLY mad at me. Punishment: She took me to a lingerie store and got me those bras called long line that covers all of your torso and back have 10 hooks in the back, all of them made of very thich material. I'll have to wear them till Oct 1st, EVERYDAY,They are kinda uncomfortable, much worse than my other bras. I gotta wear all the time, except in bed. Dont you agree this punishment is too harsh and unfair? What do I do now? They make me sweat, I HATE them! Those hooks make me MAD! but I dont know if mom will back off. And if she doesn't back off? How can I live with them, the sweat, and those hooks??

2007-07-06 05:06:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-06 04:43:04 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I haven't seen my parents since my wedding, 3 years ago, and just because they insisted. This comes from my teen years. I made mistakes, went trough a somewhat troubled phase and they were too harsh. I messed up but was a good girl.I got a severe punishment, and despite my sincere apologies and promises to chanhe they didn't forgive. I suffered terribly, cause I lost their trust, begged them to trust me again but they said tears and promises weren't enough, I'd have to earn it back. This let me devastated, could never understand how they could be so cruel. It took time to regan their trust and when I did I was so resentful that couldn't see tham as aparents anymore. I got over, found people who trusted and helped me through those terrible days. I even made my parents proud, but we never made up, though they tried. Now, I'm 25, graduated in Biology, married and will be a mom in 1 month. My parents want to come but I dont want to, they will bring sad memories, will reopen wounds.

2007-07-06 04:40:58 · 13 answers · asked by Rose 1

My little boy is three months old and I will be going back to work this next week. I feel absolutely terrible, I'm a teacher and feel that I'm cheating my son, spending more time with other children than I do with him.

I already feel bad about the fact that I was unable to nurse him and now this...I want him to be smart, well adjusted and above all, happy, and I hope that I'm doing the right thing.

Has anyone else been through this? Did you have any guilt? If so, how did you deal with it?

2007-07-06 04:13:06 · 4 answers · asked by chicka_buggie84 3

We have always been a very close family, even with the inlaws.
However, my sister and brother in law have always been very anal about their stuff-Cars, homes, clothes etc. Currently, I am building a house, and need a place to stay for 2 weeks, and my brother in law has treated me so bad now, I don't feel comfortable staying there. He basically doesn't want me stay. It is very hurtful to me because they have stayed with me for 6 months when their house was build, and with my parents for 5 months when they were awaiting their first house. He told my sister that I don't live the lifestyle they live, and may leave cups around his house. (Please). My house is neat and clean, but I am just not as particular as them. Also they have taken care of our 84 old mother while I had my house on the market. They both agree to this, but I know they are not use to having anyone in their 6,000 sq ft house but them. I don't know how to interact with him anymore. After this, my tolerance is gone.

2007-07-06 03:58:03 · 8 answers · asked by jr 3

whom are living plush with their mothers. I have never missed a payment and dont intend to. However, I am currently married again and she has 2 boys of her own and doesn't recieve much support from her ex. We are living from pay check to paycheck (Barely). Is this fair to me and my family to have to live like this, especially being in the military. Which disqualifies me for most financial assistance by the way.

Please respond.

2007-07-06 03:57:14 · 17 answers · asked by Johnny L 1

I have two stepchildren who I consider my own. I married their father last year and we have established a very good relationship over the past year. The lost their mother o ovarian cancer when they were young and they were so grateful to finally have a mom in their lives. My 12 year old has a problem with treating the family nicely when her father has disciplined her. She usually calls me Mom (her birth mother passed away 7 years ago) but when she gets mad at me, she calls me by my first name. I am getting to the point where I hate being around her and I feel guilty about it. How can I dettach myself from her when she is this way and still love her at the same time?

2007-07-06 03:40:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend purchased a beach house about a month and a half ago. I only get to see him on weekends and he assured me that his parents would not be staying with us every weekend. Well, guess what? They've been there every weekend because "they're helping with the house". By the way, the house was in move-in condition when purchased and the only thing that needed to be fixed was 1 toilet. I asked him if we could have this weekend to ourselves and he said that he didn't know how his parents would take it. These people do not like to relax and have fun and, so far, we've only made it to the beach once. I get to clean and watch the neighbors pass by the house with their beach gear. Plus, when we did go to the beach they couldn't believe that I spent $2.00 on a hotdog at the food shack when "there's a pack of hotdogs at home". UGH! Any advice...PS: I'm thinking about ending this relationship.

2007-07-06 03:33:21 · 10 answers · asked by whenwillthelambsstopscreaming 2

This may sound incredibly mean, I don't know. I am asking because I am going crazy with this issue. Basically my boyfriend and I are going through a long distance relationship. 2 weeks prior to him moving, his family dumped off his 12yo brother without asking. They claimed they were going to pick him up in 4 days. Turns out they changed their mind and told my boyfriend "bring him home when you come home next"
So the last 2 weeks before he moved, his brother was there 24/7. My boyfriend has 1 week to be alone in his new apartment. I come for 2 days and return home because his family is dropping off his brother AGAIN. They say it is for 1 week. Now they told him, "You can stay for another week, we'll get you later." My boyfriend and I made plans for my birthday on Friday. His family hates me so there's no talking to them. His brother said he'd stay home if it meant me missing out on birthday plans.I told him ok at first, but now I'm thinking, Should I just tell him .

2007-07-05 23:48:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

And I dont want them back. Does this make me a bad parent? To make him stand on his own? My house is not big enough for this. Now he's mad at me. They only have the light bill and rent-needless to say I have several. They dont help with bills or house work.

2007-07-05 23:02:38 · 13 answers · asked by firefly06 3

my mother drinks untill she gets nutty its already broken our family apart once i am now an adult and can come see her when i plz but everytime i come over she gets drunk and load and acts ridiculous i dont know how to comfront her she looks at me like im retarded when i do mention something someone help or at least tell me how to coop she's out in the liveing room right now shreaming at the dogs to do tricks iv heard lay down like (no lie) 500 times help help

2007-07-05 20:38:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

but im afraid we will not gonna be able to cope up with bills.we have a 2 yrs old son i want to see him growing up.we have alot of bills to, and i cant stop spending. i tried doing bussiness like selling stuff but it wont last .

2007-07-05 20:23:44 · 11 answers · asked by shebang 1

I am 5 seconds away from calling her and telling her this. I am in a store parking lot now. Lately she's been telling me I'm useless, no good, a w*ore, sl ut, I can't stand it, I'm either gonna say something or not go home tonight and sleep in my car. Should I do it?

2007-07-05 18:37:27 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

we wont have anything to talk about.
Any ideas or tips?

2007-07-05 18:23:18 · 5 answers · asked by bob 1

well one night i slepy downstairs because i was watching a movie...and then i woke up in the morning and upstairs i could here my parents bed sqeaking....it just made me mad that they would actually have sex when i'm in the house...and it made me feel uncomfortable to be around them afterwards
and this has happend a couple times before too
and my room is like rihgt next to theres so it's even worse there
and one time i almost walked in on htem doing it
i really want to tell them that it's bothering that they do it when i'm home

i'm 14 so...it just makes me feel weird
if i was older i prolly wouldn't minde much but yea
i need advice

2007-07-05 18:04:17 · 15 answers · asked by chipperdin_89 1

im punk and im into the tripp pants and skulls and punk rock music. my parent is throwing me out because of me painting my nails black. what should i do? im doing nothing wrong at all. im behaving and not fighting or agruing. im doing everything right. help me!!!

2007-07-05 16:02:00 · 24 answers · asked by billy m 1

I need help planning her party - she is the type of person who thinks she knows everything - very particular - nothing is ever good enough . Any suggestions on ideas.

2007-07-05 15:58:03 · 17 answers · asked by Suzi 5