My boyfriend purchased a beach house about a month and a half ago. I only get to see him on weekends and he assured me that his parents would not be staying with us every weekend. Well, guess what? They've been there every weekend because "they're helping with the house". By the way, the house was in move-in condition when purchased and the only thing that needed to be fixed was 1 toilet. I asked him if we could have this weekend to ourselves and he said that he didn't know how his parents would take it. These people do not like to relax and have fun and, so far, we've only made it to the beach once. I get to clean and watch the neighbors pass by the house with their beach gear. Plus, when we did go to the beach they couldn't believe that I spent $2.00 on a hotdog at the food shack when "there's a pack of hotdogs at home". UGH! Any advice...PS: I'm thinking about ending this relationship.
2007-07-06 03:33:21 · 10 answers · asked by whenwillthelambsstopscreaming 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Boyfriend needs to have a talk with his parents and set them straight. The sooner the better.
2007-07-06 03:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the boyfriend is the problem, not the in-laws....
he is allowing them to visit every weekend, and i see this makes you feel restricted in the activities you'd like to participate in.
you have a few choices here -- go to the boyfriend's on weekends, enjoy yourself at the beach (alone if you have to), and do things YOU enjoy. if your boyfriend doesn't want to go along, at least you'll have enjoyed your day.
stay home, and do things you enjoy with friends and family -- entertain yourself...
decide whether you want to continue this relationship. if not, maybe you can find someone who wants to some of thir free time spend time with YOU !
sounds like your boyfriend either doesn't know how to tell his parents to stay home, or else he is more interested in them than in you?
i sure hope things work out for you, hon. take good care of YOU.
2007-07-06 04:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're thinking of ending the relationship because of his parents, then you're not that serious about him to start with. I would simply tell the in-laws that we were all going to do our own thing and me and boyfriend are going to the beach. Then I would pack up my stuff and go......with or without boyfriend.
2007-07-06 03:40:35 · answer #3 · answered by ransomschoice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the "choose between us" will generally land you on the outside looking in. If you are fairly serious about this guy, sit him down & tell him straight the way you feel. If he backtracks to "his parents might not like it", then move on without him. You said he purchased the house, so it isn't the parents. If you want to go to the beach, go!! Leave his happy butt with mommy & daddy & you have a blast without him. You may meet someone.....?!? Good luck honey!
2007-07-06 03:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your boyfriend is having trouble establishing boundaries with his folks now that he's an adult. He doesn't want to hurt their feelings by telling them that they aren't welcome one weekend, and yet he ends up hurting your feelings. That should tell you something about where you rank, right now.
If you're ok with that, then fine. If you'd like to move up a little in the rankings, it sounds like you need to have a talk with the bf and explain that, as much as you like his parents *cough, cough*, you really would prefer to spend a weekend alone with him. If he's not willing or unable to arrange that, then you have your answer.
That crack about the hot dogs is funny! I think I would have just laughed and said, "Yes, but I'm hungry NOW!"
2007-07-06 04:02:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not "in laws"... You are a shack up. Shack ups really don't have priority over parents because you're not legal.
That being said... Why are you letting them tell you when and where you can go? If you're old enough to be shacking up with their son, you're old enough to tell them "I'm going out".
Grow a spine, and stop whining about them not letting you go anywhere.
2007-07-06 04:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you say "Mama's Boy?" Now you know why I preach so hard against shacking up. So next time no shacking or sex until your wedding night.
P.S. Just so you know, you only get inlaws when you get married, not play house and pretend to be married.
2007-07-06 07:13:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's your boyfriend, not your husband. And it's his beach house, not yours. Therefore, you have no say on who can come out to the beach house. If you don't care for their comments, stay home.
2007-07-06 03:45:46 · answer #8 · answered by Stefka 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Are you thinking of ending the relationship because of his parents? Maybe he's not the one for you. Usually if the guy is worth it you'd "deal" with his parents....it sounds like he might not be the one for you.
2007-07-06 03:39:01 · answer #9 · answered by Jellybean had her little bean 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How can they be in-laws when he's your BF ?
2007-07-06 03:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by DFS 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋