My dad is forcing me to take piano lessons and I hate it. He is a very uncomprimising person. I got my mom to try to talk to him about pulling me out of it but he just yells. He's very hard to talk to, and it's difficult to get my point across. I have absolutely NO interest in piano, therefore I won't do well at it. Please, advice is GREATLY appreciated.
2007-07-06 08:36:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am a parent and have had an experience related to yours. I myself took piano for several years as a child. I enjoyed it then and I enjoy it now, even though I don't play often. I wanted to give my daughter a similar opportunity. She was mildly interested and so the lessons started. Within a few months, she had progressed well but didn't really like it that much. As time went on, she began to balk. She is typically very obstinate so I perservered, thinking that when she improved to the point that she could play some more complex songs, she would like it more. But this was not the case. We got into a power struggle nearly every night. I began to feel that it wasn't worth it -- my intentions were good but I didn't really want to force her to do it. So I let her quit.
I really wish I could have given her the joy I experienced with piano but it just wasn't to be. But at least I did provide her with a knowledge of what music is all about. And now she has found a hobby that she just adores and she's been doing it for eight years -- horseback riding! Strangely, I have learned things from her that I never knew myself about this sport. So I have benefited.
So what is my advice? If you must take piano, realize that you are gaining knowledge in an area that is valuable -- it will make you more worldly. But if you simply cannot tolerate it, complain about it bitterly and sooner or later, your Dad may give up. An unwilling student is just not worth the expense or the effort. Another idea: suggest another hobby instead and present a good case for it. Good luck!
2007-07-06 09:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by deepwaterspirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-24 00:38:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try to make a compromise with him? My mom's rule growing up was that all three kids had to take a minimum of two years piano lessons. If we wanted to try a different instrument after that two years, she'd let us. But only when we completed our two years of piano. My brothers both hated piano. And for years I did too. But looking back on it, we all agree that we are thankful she made us do it. We can read music, understand music theory, and appreciate music so much more. Just regard it as broadening your knowledge. It's amazing how much we still use basic piano/music theory later in life. It's a good basic to have.
2007-07-06 08:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by Candace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother made me take piano lessons for 8 years and I hated every minute of it. She always said that I would appreciate it when I was older, but now that I am grown and have my own kid, the only thing I learned was that I will never force my kid to play the piano and my mother knows better than to nag me about putting my kid in piano lessons.
I tried every thing in the book to get her to allow me to quit, I even took up the cello instead. We made a deal that if I stuck with the cello for a year, she would let me out of piano lessons. But after a year, she changed her mind and would not follow the deal. I eventually came to the conclusion that nothing works, except incessant complaining over an extended period of time. Eventually, she got tired of listening to it and gave up.
If your dad is anything like my mom, don't bother trying to bargain with him, just irritate the crap out of him until you wear him down. Eventually, he will figure out life is too short for all that misery. I know this isn't advice that your guidance counselor would give, but it is advice from someone who has been there.
2007-07-06 08:52:38 · answer #4 · answered by L D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to tell you a story......the more I hated something the more I had to do it......the more I loved something......he would make any and every excuse in the book for me not to do it.....get good at it......
I was forced to take Karate.......I hated it.......I loved swimming lessons and I tried out for the swim team......once I made it He made me quit.
I don't like my dad very much, but maybe you will enjoy it later.
2007-07-06 08:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-17 19:07:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
... give it a try youll love it and after years... youll see yourself that you yourself can make music... WOW!!!
2007-07-07 03:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by musiclover2008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋