whom are living plush with their mothers. I have never missed a payment and dont intend to. However, I am currently married again and she has 2 boys of her own and doesn't recieve much support from her ex. We are living from pay check to paycheck (Barely). Is this fair to me and my family to have to live like this, especially being in the military. Which disqualifies me for most financial assistance by the way.
Please respond.
2007-07-06 03:57:14 · 17 answers · asked by Johnny L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, it's not fair. Child support laws in this country are an absolute joke. Especially when the "support" 9 times out of 10 goes to the ex wife's hair stylist, new outfits, etc. and has nothing to do with the children.
I think child support should be paid, and in turn the ex wives are given vouchers for food and clothing for the kids, with a small percentage going towards other expenses.
2007-07-06 04:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by Yogi 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Man I went through the same thing in the military, and the kid was another mans kid. Some things just aren't fair. But look at it this way, some people have it much worse. Hear about that rap artist that was ordered to pay two hundred and fifty thousand bones a month for one kid? Yeah he's got the money but money always runs out. Somehow things will get better. When your kids grow up then they'll take care of you because you struggled to take care of them.
2007-07-06 07:37:01 · answer #2 · answered by THE FISH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi....
If you think you are paying too much child support at this time, and if your wives' curcumstances are different from the time when you were divorced (such as they got a job or better job), then you might be able to have the child support reduced by petitioning the courts.... sometimes the child support agency will review the case and re-assess your payments.
it's something to look in to.
meanwhile, you are not responsible for your step children financially, although i'm sure you have an urge to take care of them, also. and that is very kind of you....
my best advice is not to have any more children of your own. you can't afford it at this time.
maybe your wife could get a part time job (if she's not working) to help out?
i wish you and your family all the best life has to offer.
2007-07-06 04:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"her" two kids should be paid for by "her" former husband. Otherwise he goes to jail. Any money he makes should go to his kid's support whether or not the woman is remarried. She should be getting that straightened out thru an attorney. It's not that you don't love those kids, I know you do, but the law is the law, and the law says that former guy should be supporting them. She can demand an increase in support payments (ask the attorney to do that by court order). The judge can demand that he work two or three jobs to pay for those kids. Depending on the age of those kids, they can do odd jobs to help support themselves and can even start their own business with their adult mother to back their business.
Perhaps that ex is hoping you will adopt those kids and take them on and pay for them so is shirking his duties.
2007-07-06 04:04:08 · answer #4 · answered by sophieb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well here in Canada, I know two people who are paying child support. One is paying $375 and the other $300. That is one kid each. $950 seems awful steep. Talk to a lawyer and see what they say.
The whole thing about persuing exs for money is if they work and give you something, it's better then having them go to jail, not having a job and giving you nothing. That is something you have to be careful about if your now current wife decides to persue her ex for monies owed.
2007-07-06 04:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by wyzard_2001 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I know in Maryland the court limit is 400 a month per child my dad had to pay 1400 or so every month to my mom
I know its cruddy but if your struggling for money because your new wifes ex doesnt pay child support take him back to court and get the alamony payments adjusted. or try and do the same in your case.
2007-07-06 04:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by Tom B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! what can all of us do with $2 hundred in step with month for 2 toddlers??? this is that this style of shame. yet once you like help with the youngsters, than this is advisable to be conscious for suggestions. there isn't any shame in doing so in case you're suffering to feed your toddlers. maximum of individuals are turning out to be to be suggestions at present by way of tousled economic equipment. circulate be conscious for a EBT nutrition card (nutrition stamps) and the different suggestions you will get till you get the youngster help difficulty straightened out.
2016-11-08 07:51:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suck it up, Pal. HER kids are not YOURS. You owe your kids what the courts say you do.
It's not your kids' fault that you hooked up with a woman with kids. They are NOT your "new family". They are STEP kids and will never be more than the children you had.
You KNEW she had kids before you married her. That's your problem not your kids.
How does being in the military disqualify you? I know military members who receive food stamps.
2007-07-06 04:18:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming that courts figured this amount for a reason. If you are strapped for money you can request a child support review through the courts system. They will evaluate it and may lower your payments.
2007-07-06 04:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by aintlifegrand 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fair? You have 2 other children that you are obligated to help support. If she's not getting enough support then she can try to get more, but that has no bearing on the support you pay for your other children. Those children didn't ask to be born either. They come first. My brother-in-law was in the air-force. He couldn't make ends meet on what military pay was either, so he worked another job after he was done with his military duties every day. You made them, you pay for them. Nobody said life was fair anyway....................
2007-07-06 04:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋