I've known my bf for 3 years, and we want to get married. My family refused, saying that we aren't mature (I'm 24), and they don't know my bf. But after that talk, they didn't reach out to him, and still ignored him (as always been for the past 3 years!). I want them to be on good terms to each other, but my family's ignorance (and some comments) have made some permanent injuries to my bf, and me myself don't want to live in that kind of moral standard. I tried talking to them, but they've got ways of talking that makes me feel guilty (like "You think about it yourself" sounding like I made a wrong decision). I don't want to hurt my family, but I am hurt when they are ignoring the fact that me and my bf wants, and will be getting married. I think if they think like that, I'll never be "mature" (therefore never can get married). What can I do?
2007-07-06 07:40:05 · 6 answers · asked by 39108 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thanks for the support!
I know I'm going to marry him nomatter what, but I don't want to break the relationship with my family (not until last resort). I am wondering if anybody else has the same experience? Did you simply left, and never talk to them again? Did the relationship recover after that? My mom made the point that if I don't do as she says (live near her, do things according to my family's expectations), the family'll fall apart...I just hope there's a mild way to solve this situation...
2007-07-06 18:48:43 · update #1
If this is the man you really love and want to marry, what business is it of your familys' to say that you're not mature enough to do so?
If talking to them hasn't helped any, just remind them that this is what you feel would make YOU happy and that, that's really what matters.
2007-07-06 08:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 24 you both should be paying your own bills. Set a date, have a wedding and get married. If your family doesn't want to participate, then that's on them. You are a grown up, so act like one.
2007-07-06 07:48:00 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know what you want, go for it. Set a date, get the invitations and tell them that you are getting married whether they think you are mature or not. This is your life, not theirs. You don't want to follow them your whole life and end up being in your 40's before they allow you to get married.
2007-07-06 07:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
24 then you are an adult and can have your way u just think about him more not with your heart with your mind and if u see that he is the right one then pray for god and take the first step and say to your parents i am an adult enough to choose my life partner and i see that he is the right man for me and i love him so much and plz agree and i would be happy if u agree too and love your daughters husband and explain to them how much u love them and that u will be in top of the world if they agree to live with your partner a happy life
2007-07-06 08:27:08 · answer #4 · answered by loula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your family that it doesent matter what they think and that you are your own person and they have their right to their own oppinion and thats up to them but your opinion is that theirs does not matter you
2007-07-06 07:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your an adult make your own decision
2007-07-06 08:11:36 · answer #6 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋