I'm 15, am I childish, is there anything wrong with me?

Question

I'm asking this because some of my friends and even some adults say I'm childish, weak and may have seriuos problems in my adulthood. They say this because I'm more attached to my parents than most teens. I have a normal life, hang out with friends, paly sports, I'm a good student. But I like my parents, they treat me with love and I lime this. Last saturday I went to the movies with them and it was cool. Another example: Last week I ended up giving in to peer pressure and had som beer at a friend's home. I felt so bad that I told my mom and apologized, I trust and love her. I thought she might get hurt, upset, but she understood, just made me promise to be stong next time, I cried like a lil, girl, she hugged me and I got so happy she forgave me. And now you'll laugh: I was so upset that when I told mom we were in public, in a shopping center, but I couldn't wait. So, everybody saw that scene

Answer 1

Um, don't listen to your friends. In your teens, a lot of people think that a good relationship with your parents is something to be ashamed of. There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. My friend's mom died of breast cancer in the middle of high school, and every day she wishes she showed her how much she appreciated and loved her. I like to go to the movies with my Dad; my little brother (he's 16) would get embarassed when his friends saw him with his Dad and he'd HIDE, but honestly just get over what other people say and you'll be fine.

And you have plenty of time to grow up. You're 15; you're allowed to be childish. And getting through high school is a way to grow stronger.

Answer 2

You're not childish at all. It's nice to be attached to your parents. A lot of teens and young adults do not really have
good relations with their parents, probably because of a
generational gap. It's funny you mention about having some beer at a friend's house because you felt it would be wrong.
I too have never done anything wrong, I'm still quite pure
and innocent, even though I'm 31 years old. I have never
gotten drunk (and believe me, I have had LOTS of chances
to get drunk in college living in a dorm). I have never taken
marijuana, and everyone I know has virtually. I have never
done a lot of things that typical 31 year olds have done by my age. But then, also, I am NOT normal. I actually have high
functioning autism, and sometimes I virtually think I may be
somewhat retarded. I have a BA degree in Geography, and I'm like a walking atlas, and know every single song from the
1950s to 1990s (virtually an autistic savant). Yet, I would
say, as other people have told me, I am socially and emotionally at the level of a 4-5 year old. And in some ways,
intellectually. I just don't have any common sense. I think
like a toddler. You think you are childish?? I would really
fit the definition much better - I watch Teletubbies all the time,
I am a BIG Teletubbies fan!! I just won an Ebay auction for a Teletubbies tent from England which is going to cost me
an arm and a leg. I collect Teletubbies memorabilia, Care
Bears stuff, etc. I have like, 11 Teletubbies backpacks. And
then, I also use pacifiers too. I am not kidding, I really do have pacifiers. People remember me 5 years later even though I don't come by because of my pacifiers. I have Mam, Nuk, and Playtex pacifiers. My psychiatrist said I should
quit using it now, but it's so easy for her to say. I really empathize and my heart really goes out to any 4-5 year old
who is having a hard time getting rid of his/her pacifier,
because I know it's hard!! I've tried to quit twice, no luck.
Although I have used it less over the years. But to throw it out, no, I won't do that.

I bet you that your friends must envy your relationship between your parents and you.

I have high functioning autism, and life has not been a
bed of roses in the slightest, it was hard to get my BA
degree, and I am unemployable. And just because I got
a BA degree doesn't mean that I'm that bright. I have a
friend in Texas who has Asperger Syndrome and he
was engaged to a girl who had made it with a scholarship
through college in West Virginia, a 4 year old liberal
arts college, and yet had an IQ of 88 (just 4 points above
being borderline retarded). I HATE it when people think
I must be a genius because I know where everywhere is
and know all the songs. I know a girl who has severe
autism who has an IQ of a 6 year old, and yet she knows
just as much as I know about music....both of us can tell
you if you gave us a name of a song...who did it, what year
it was, what record label it was on etc. But that doesn't
mean that we are smart. I knew where places were when I
was 5 years old.

So don't worry, you are fine.

Best wishes and lots of luck and God bless!!

Geowhizkid26 from California (wanting to move to Simpsonville, South Carolina, near Greenville in the Upstate)

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with acting like that. You and your parents have a good relationship and don't let any destroy that Just think your friend may only be in your life for a short time because of change of school (going into high school, of college) Yeah so of your friends will be there but a lot of your friends wont but your parents will be there forever and their opinion of your is precious so don't let any of your peer discourage you in any way because if they were your true friend the would not change one thing about you. If you were my friend the only thing that i would try and change is you being weak I would help you to be strong and in your time of weakness i would be strong for you and have your back so you don't become weak. keep the relationship with your parents because you will cherish them when they are gone and When you have kids of your own you will teach them the same family values as your parents taught you.

Answer 4

Nothing's wrong with you. Your only crime was having a close relationship and understanding with your family. Most teenagers your age feel that they're too good to hang out with mom and dad and want nothing more than to not be seen with them in public.

You're just fine and actually, you're normal. Gaining independance is a normal thing when you are a teen, so do so, but keep that strong bond you have with your parents intact; it's a good thing to have.

Answer 5

No dear, there is nothing wrong with you. You are not childish. You are growing to be a strong young lady. Your parents are helping you make the right decisions for a good life and you are definitely listening. You have a bond with your parents that will travel with you into adulthood. Because of that you are going to make strong decisions in the future. Good luck in life. I think it is so great that you have such a good relationship with your parents. I hope this helps, this is my way of answering.

Answer 6

It sounds like you have a great relationship with your parents. Instead of childish, you seem like a very strong-willed smart girl. When a lot of teens today are out of control. If only ALL teens were like you, this world may be a little better and safer. I wish that my own relationship with my parents in my teenage years were like yours. I say keep talking to and being open with your parents and stay on the track you're on. Strive to make your life great and be all you can be when you get older. My best wishes to you and your future!

Answer 7

I really don't think there is anything wrong with you, but Doctors constantly try to find new words for the word "different". In your case they would probably call you a person with Aspberger's Syndrome, a sort of middle state of being between Autism and reality. I have met many autistic people, and I must admit, they are a little weird, but they shouldn't be treated so differently from others. I don't think you have aspberger's or autism, I think you just love your parents.

Answer 8

Well I am 17 and I have a great relationship with my parents and I tell them a lot of stuff. The people that call you childish or whatever they may just not understand what its like to be loved so much and that cared about. what you have with your parent is amazing and never let that go, and if people say your weak, just forget it their stupid! lol

But seriously thats awesome that they are there for you and your so close!

Answer 9

There's nothing wrong with being honest with your parents. You're lucky to have such a good relationship with your mother. I wasn't so lucky, and I wish I had been blessed with a relationship like yours. You shouldn't be drinking at 15, so you made the right decision to tell her. You'll be fine in adulthood! You have a good foundation.

Answer 10

This is the process of growing up. You will soon rebel against your parents. You may rebel but not disrespect, listen to them but find your own ideas, most peers don't know either, so they want you to fail and do bad things. They act bad "only" in front of you. Some kids are dumber than others. Act and think independently of your friends, they know no better than you. Listen to your parents, they want you to succeed.