This may sound incredibly mean, I don't know. I am asking because I am going crazy with this issue. Basically my boyfriend and I are going through a long distance relationship. 2 weeks prior to him moving, his family dumped off his 12yo brother without asking. They claimed they were going to pick him up in 4 days. Turns out they changed their mind and told my boyfriend "bring him home when you come home next"
So the last 2 weeks before he moved, his brother was there 24/7. My boyfriend has 1 week to be alone in his new apartment. I come for 2 days and return home because his family is dropping off his brother AGAIN. They say it is for 1 week. Now they told him, "You can stay for another week, we'll get you later." My boyfriend and I made plans for my birthday on Friday. His family hates me so there's no talking to them. His brother said he'd stay home if it meant me missing out on birthday plans.I told him ok at first, but now I'm thinking, Should I just tell him .
2007-07-05 23:48:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell him to maybe staying isn't such a good idea anymore since we did have plans. The whole issue is also even if I came to spent that time with him and my bf, I'd have to leave before his family got there cause they hate me and think i'm outt athe picture. My bf is 22 and hasn't told them yet that I'm not. And having my bf tell them in time for my birthday this coming Friday is not an option. So maybe I should just let the bro know that we had plans and it's not gonna work out? It sounds mean but this will be the 4th full week he's been at my boyfriend's place because his Mom keeps telling him to stay there. I don't think it's fair to my bf either to have to take care of him.
2007-07-05 23:51:17 · update #1
Biggest problem is he's acting like he doesn't care that I can't be there. He'll tell me he does and he wants me there bad, but the moment his parents decide on something he just goes with it and plays it off like he doesn't want to be with me, but I think he just doesn't want to admit it's cause of his family cause I KNow it's an issue and I give him a hard time fori t.
2007-07-06 00:07:19 · update #2
You sound jealous dear. Try to give the kid a chance. If his parents are always ditching him then he really does need someone to look out for him and spend some time with him.
Maybe for your birthday you guys could do something to include him. If you were going to go out for dinner, maybe go earlier, to some place with a nice patio...you guys can have a drink and he can have a Shirley Temple or something cool. He'll feel included and grown up and he'll probably love you for it. Later, you can two can do something alone for a few hours. Seriously, the kid's 12, you guys don't have to spend every second with him.
Try and be his adult friend, you never know, you might enjoy it. And besides, it won't be summer forever, eventually he'll have to go back to school.
2007-07-06 00:44:34 · answer #1 · answered by Nic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What comes to my mind this kid is 12 with parents that "drop" him off and I bet he needs his older brother. With parents like that this kid may need him so don't come between them.
I would personally come up with some other plans that you can work in there. Is there a friend or someone were the 12 year could stay with for a few hours while the 2 of you have time alone? Work around him/with him. Ask for a bedtime to be set etc. He is a kid and parents get time alone - so can you. Read up, talk to some people who have kids and see what can be worked out idea wise.
Making a positive impact on his life is important and his brother sounds like he needs him. Coming between them could doom your relationship in the long run and hurt this child.
The kid is 12 - 12 is a hard age. Have some compassion here and love your man. Loving someone requires sacifice, you do stuff and put up with things that suck sometimes. Don't ask him to ditch his little brother though. Blood is always thicker.
Good luck!
2007-07-06 00:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by Ann 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he cares about you and doesn't want anything to happen to you. Why didn't you answer your phone? That's why you have a phone so you can be called when somebody to get in touch with you. You kids just don't understand what it's like to sit home and worry about a child.(or younger sibling) Just trust your brother and don't think he's being mean or a nerd. He just cares. Be thankful. Some parents don't care.
2016-05-19 21:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a lot not being said here, but for heaven sakes what do you want with a 22 year old (Boy) who's a baby sitting service on demand. Instead of you being second thought or third, stay away for a while, and not until he has been man enough to inform his parents he has a girlfriend and the brother interferes with his plans. Do the parents support him, pay the bills, or what?
Not enough maturity all around.
2007-07-09 23:49:02 · answer #4 · answered by moonnightsoar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answer. Your bf needs to speak up to his family. One thing I would be careful about doing though is making the little brother feel that it is his fault. He's just in the middle. So don't take it out on the wrong brother. He's only 12.
2007-07-06 00:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by MoonGoddess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time for your boyfriend to stand up to his parents and tell them that he still loves you, and that his brother can not be staying at his house very week. In other words, time for him to become a mature man!! Don't let them interfere with your plans for your birthday!!!
2007-07-05 23:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take care
2007-07-06 00:48:36 · answer #7 · answered by Kehgohar R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your b/f needs to set them straight and tell them point blank how it's going to be. If they fail to pick that kid up, he needs to hunt the parents down.
2007-07-06 02:37:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋