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i am eighteen and two days ago i got my navel pierced. I looked up a respected place and payed for it and everything, but i haven't told my mother yet. i don't really know how she would react. she could think it is totally fine and not care, but she could flip. i did cut my hair radically short and she loved it. i want to tell her but i don't know if i should really. she might think i am a skank...

2007-07-02 13:49:38 · 23 answers · asked by sandy c 2 in Family & Relationships Family

23 answers

I did the same thing when I was around your age. I also went thru asking myself the same questions... What I found helped me was going ahead and getting it over with... Yes she might flip but at least you got it out of the way and you won't have to do it again or think if you should tell her or not...

The only reasons I say you should tell her is: say it gets infected and you need some help (I'm not saying it will, but at least she will already know whats going on rather than it being a surprise) and two you already made the adult decision to do it, now its time to pony up and do the adult thing of telling her. It will also ease your mind. If she gets mad she will get over it ( Sooner or later)

I don't know about you, but getting things off my chest always made it easier to sleep... Just remember tomorrow is a new day, so whatever you tell her today she will (hopefully) get over tomorrow (or shortly after)

2007-07-02 13:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

If you'll, I could attempt to get her to take you 2 on a few form of lady's time out, in which you'll both go on a spree (or the truly factor, a lot greater), cross to a film, cross out for lunch, and many others. Then, whilst you're having a excellent time, I could spring it. That means, she perhaps in a type of well temper. If no longer, then someday simply carry up the predicament of naval piercings, asking her what she thinks approximately it and whatnot, after which, even though she voices her dislike for it, simply inform her you bought it performed. If she is going all beserk on you and orders you are taking it out, ask her if she could as a substitute you could have a scar there, considering the fact that you'll get one if you are taking it out. Tell her if it heals thoroughly you'll take it out after. Apologize for going at the back of her again (that is a have got to) and be certain to inform her you did not do it simply to spite her, it used to be a type of within the second, self constructive transfer. Tell her that you just quite love it and that you just could love to hold it, inform her you will not be displaying it off at all times like a few whore and that you just suppose its stylish (even though you do not). You would use the it is my frame, however such as you mentioned, it almost always may not paintings. I've certainly not been in THIS predicament, consistent with say, considering the fact that I bought my mother's permission while I bought my stomach button pierced. But I have performed stuff earlier than, and both she will get truly mad or she simply laughs. My mother type of sucks as a mother, despite the fact that. Hope this is helping! And the earlier you assert this, the greater, considering the fact that your sister WILL inform her if you do not, and with a view to make sure she will get mad at you. Also, she would have spotted simply out of your garments. You certainly not understand, correct? GOOD LUCK! :D

2016-09-05 13:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Tell her. Piercing your navel is really not that big a deal. A little gentle advice - if you are going to stress about something before you do it . . you probably shouldn't have done it.

At 18 you are old enough to drive, fight in a war, and vote. If you have made a decision to do something . . . express it to your parents before you do it, be willing to stand behind your decision even if they do not agree with it and accept any repercussions that comes from your decision. It is great to ask your parents advice and it is important to listen but the final decision is always yours.

P.S. Piercing your navel does not make you/anyone a skank.

2007-07-02 15:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

First, you tell your mom with a straight face, that you're pregnant.
Let her yell at you for a minute. Let the dissapointment sink in.
Then, give her the good news: That you're not pregnant, but you did get your navel pierced. The comparison will make the piercing seem trivial, and she'll be relieved.
=]

2007-07-02 13:55:51 · answer #4 · answered by ima.bubble 3 · 0 0

Um, I think you should get her advice first. Be like, mom- would you care if I got my navel pierced at this nice place and I paid for it? If she says no- don't tell her for a while but if she says yes tell her in like 5 days. If it gets red/swollen/infected- tell her immediately.

2007-07-02 13:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

In my opinion, I would tell her. It sounds like you and your mom have a decent relationship or at least you respect her opinion or you wouldn't be here. If you live with her, I would definitely tell her and be honest with her. I doubt she is going to flip out. I would preface it with "Mom, I want to tell you something I did and respect your opinion and want to let you know why I did it so you don't find out from someone else"... and then tell her. Trust me, she will be thinking it is something wayyyy worse and won't wig out. Your honesty with her will go so much further than her finding out (and she will) and feeling hurt that you couldn't confide in her to begin with... just my opinion as a mom to a 17 and 19 year old girls!

2007-07-02 14:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by Dragonfly 3 · 0 0

It is hard to hear after the fact if you are a parent. I would ask her how she feels about it first. Especially if you are under 18. I know you already did it, but ask her anyways. Then you can tell her the truth if she doesn't freak out. If she freaks out you can always take the piercing out or try to sway her opinion....

2007-07-02 13:53:49 · answer #7 · answered by KK 2 · 0 0

you can tell your mom you got you naval pierce after all you are 18yrs old. Its not like she is going to kick you out the house. But cutting your hair is different from getting a piercing.

2007-07-02 14:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by elle 4 · 0 0

Absolutely tell your mom. Even if she doesn't approve, she will appreciate your honesty. Trust is such an easy thing to lose and a tough thing to earn. If you've always been up front with her she shouldn't flip out. Good luck.

2007-07-02 13:55:47 · answer #9 · answered by KK 2 · 0 0

XD It's your mother, she won't think of you in such a way. You need to tell her. Well... you don't... but she'll find out eventually, parents always do. Just show her where you got it, explain why, and all that such. The naval is one of the most dangerous places, and she may not approve, but she'll forgive, even if she doesn't. It will be worse if you don't tell her and in a few months she finds out herself. ^^" Good luck my friend!

2007-07-02 13:52:29 · answer #10 · answered by chris_redfield267 3 · 0 0

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