Family - December 2006

My kids live with me and my husband his kids live with their mother and the other is married with kids of her own. For the last year we have had major issues with his kids as when they were down for the summer his son physically assualted my 6 year old and his daughter got mad and busted our tv after weeks of hell we sent them home. We know most of it is their mother nad the way they are raised at home but still we couldn't handle it. Now the holiday is here and we have done our shopping. We took the child support I get from my kids and bought their X-mas with it and as usual put the rest in the bank. My husband and I both refuse to use my kids money to buy his kids gifts. We then went when he got paid and bought his kids a few nice gifts. His kids suddenly appeared the other night to come down for the weekend to see their grandfather that is dying and saw that my kids had more under the tree and now they are mad are we right or should use kids money to even it out?

2006-12-01 23:57:34 · 14 answers · asked by Martha S 4

I hate my sister, but for good reasons, I think.

One, she abandonded her two beautiful children to me and our mom. Which really interfers with our lives, but we are happy we got them instead of them going to foster care.
Two, she steals from everyone in the family, even our grandmother who is sick. And she'll steal while looking you right in the face.
Three, she acts as if she doesn't know the english language. She uses too much slang, and that is something I can't stand when anyone does it.
Four, she got a credit card in my mom's name and bought a lot of stuff for her friends, almost 10,000 dollars worth of stuff, and now my mom can barely pay her own bills. And not only did all these friends abandon her, but she seems to feel no guilt over putting our mother in such a bad situation.
Five, she won't get a job to support herself or her children, even though she has an amazing resume' and could get pretty much any job she wants.
More reasons, but I don't have enough room here.

2006-12-01 22:58:10 · 15 answers · asked by Oui_Fleur 3

It is a changing world. In olden days children used to worship their parents. But now the elderly parents are seen as a burden. The parents gave up all their savings to see the childern happy. But today the children are putting the old parents in old age homes. What is the solution?

2006-12-01 22:47:23 · 10 answers · asked by RD 1

I have a question to ask... I have two kids under the age of two, my daughter is almost two years old, and my son is less than 2 months old. I don't have a bond or connection with my son, I know he's there, I know he needs attention and love but I just don't feel the connection. With my daughter, we bond, we are like one, she is my one and only. Is there any explantion to this?

2006-12-01 22:32:07 · 9 answers · asked by userdefined 3

I have a sister inlaw that abuses her MS. She gets drunk at least 2 or 3 times a week / smokes 30 cigs a day she eats of alot of takeout food she is married with 3 children under the age of 9. She has admitted to having several affairs to her husband and some family members. She pulls the wool over our mother inlaws eyes, mum inlaw thinks she is trying real hard to take care of herself when in reality all she wants to do is PARTY.Mum inlaw pays for everthing & looks after her children thinking it will help her cope with her MS when my sister inlaw is sitting back and laughing all the way to the bank.Mum inlaw doesnt no anout her party ways. Should I tell my mother inlaw what she is really up to?

2006-12-01 21:55:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom is a super cow, and living with her makes me cry and get very depressed. My ex-psychiatrist told me to move out, as did my ex-psychologist, two years before the psychiatrist said it! So it's a long term thing. It's "irreconcilable differences" and it's not likely to get better enough to make it worth staying her.

That being said, I need to have some idea of a cheap way to move out. I have a whole bunch of furniture I can take, and I have friends who also desperately need to move, but how can we manage it?

Also, are there any tips on any other ways to get out etc? Or does anyone have an alternate solution other than dealing with her? We even saw a family counsellor this year who also *shock, horror* told me to move. It really won't work... I've tried everything I can think of. Please help!

2006-12-01 21:28:34 · 5 answers · asked by Callisto 3

People i really need your help on this one... My wife is from africa and Im from the states. This is the deal, myself & my wife and her sister live in the same home. Example when we are all in the same room watching a movie/news/game show, you get the point they will speak in there language. She feels, (my wife) that this is not rude what do you feel & I have told here how i feel on this matter. Please what do you think!

Thanx 4 your time

James

2006-12-01 20:27:26 · 14 answers · asked by bmw740 1

for a stunning out fit... we've looked at the usual retailers Evans(everybody goes there), M&S(too old)....
She cant afford to have something made and has a budget of around £200-300 can anyone help

2006-12-01 20:07:08 · 19 answers · asked by Andrea A 1

my mom recently got married after being divorced for 11 years. i have a new step-dad and 2 step-brothers! is this a good thing or a bad thing and how do i deal with this?

2006-12-01 19:55:22 · 19 answers · asked by ? 1

I have alway struggled with my weigth, I been made fun of (by my family) all my life. Mind you I was 200lbs and I'm 5'3. Now I'm 113lbs and know im too skinny, anyways now my niece is going through it. She 11 years old and she has alittle weight on her. my 2 sisters and her mother make fun of her. I jump to her defends all the time. It hurts her so much and me 2,so bad.I HATE IT. I tell them to stop and how it makes her feel and how i use to feel. But I'm not there all the time, sadly, to protect her.they call her names,laught in her face and puts her down.She comes crying to me because she knows i understand her pain. How can I make my sisters understand that they are going to make her sick and they are hurting her. Help please she just a little girl. It hurt me more then it hurts her to see her in pain.

2006-12-01 19:39:08 · 6 answers · asked by helpful friend 3

I'm a senior and am 17 years old. When i was a baby, i had to have surgery on my skull because of a problem i had and had a slim chance of not making it through the surgery. Because of this, my parents have always been extremely overprotective to the point of absurdity. In various examples, in the past two weeks, i have not been allowed to go play football with friends, or stay overnight at friends on non-school nights with no explanation for my parents refusal. Their only response is that "I said no and no means no." The only reason i can think of is because i am leaving for college in about 9 months and they do not want me to leave...if you understand what i mean. Unfortunately for me, it is ruining my senior year and even my friends have even been realizing that i have not been able to do much lately and are starting to become agitated by it. Can anyone help me out with this and give me a few tips on how to loosen their grip on me? thanks :)

2006-12-01 19:15:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I hope i'm not offending anyone, with this question, remember, all questions you answer, are by choice.

2006-12-01 18:01:33 · 8 answers · asked by A_WWE_FAN_4LYFE 6

it's x-mas time and my s.i.l yelled at my husband over why we can't spend x-mas eve with them (we will be there all of x-mas day). This wasn't regular yelling this was personal attacks, telling him he hates their family, calling me (his wife)all kinds of names. All this in a crazy screaming frenzy. I guess she did this most of his childhhood. Now x-mas is feeling strange he doesn't even want to buy her anything. BTW at 33 s.i.l. lives at home with parents, has never had a date, and no real friends to speak of other then parents. How do we deal with hwr now? Do we/I bring it up again?

2006-12-01 17:54:46 · 15 answers · asked by nataashaa 1

I have problem with my wife & my mother.Both hate eachother staying in same house . can any one help me in bringinig these two ladies together so that I can get PEACE of mind. Thanks

2006-12-01 17:41:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have problem with my wife & my mother.Both hate eachother staying in same house . can any one help me in bringinig these two ladies together so that I can get PEACE of mind. Thanks

2006-12-01 17:40:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My grandfarther and i are verry close and he has a heart proublem. th doctor said he may die soon and that he ould live anwhere from 6 day's to 6 years, but im the only one in my family who hasnt cried yet and him and i used to be so close. Why am i not in tears about this?

2006-12-01 17:12:43 · 9 answers · asked by sastelmach 1

It's terrible to live with a person like that. He is big, won't go to work, has greasy hair, his stained underwear shows off on top of his pants, he smells the whole house up and even the couch where he sleeps. You could smell his armpits from miles away. Disgusting! And flatly refuses hygiene, but he thinks he's the all clean, well doing kinda guy....please help, what to do?? He's otherwise a nice person, just how do we tell him to clean his act up and get to work?

2006-12-01 17:01:40 · 31 answers · asked by McMurdo 3

2006-12-01 16:46:26 · 7 answers · asked by Cakes 1

Here are six reasons why you should think before you speak -
>the last one is great!
>Have you ever spoken and wished that you could immediately take the
>words back... or that you could crawl into a hole?
>Here are the Testimonials of a few people who did....
>
>
>
>
>FIRST TESTIMONY:
>I walked into a hair salon with my husband and three kids in tow
>and asked loudly,
>"How much do you charge for a shampoo and a ********?"
>I turned around and walked back out and never went back
>My husband didn't say a word...
>he knew better.
>
>
>
>
>SECOND TESTIMONY:
>I was at the golf store comparing different kinds of golf balls.
>I was unhappy with the women's type I had been using.
>After browsing for several minutes,
>I was approached by one of the good-looking gentlemen who works at
>the
>store.
>He asked if he could help me.
>Without thinking, I looked at him and said, "I think I like playing
>with
>mens balls"
>
>
>THIRD TESTIMONY:
>My sister and I were at the mall and
>passed by a store that sold a
>variety of candy and nuts.
>As we were looking at the display case,
>the boy behind the counter asked if we needed any help.
>I replied, "No, I'm just looking at your nuts."
>My sister started to laugh hysterically.
>The boy grinned, and I turned beet-red and walked away.
>To this day,
>my sister has never let me forget.
>
>
>
>
>FOURTH TESTIMONY:
>While in line at the bank one afternoon,
>my toddler decided to release
>some pent-up energy and ran amok.
>I was finally able to grab hold of
>her after receiving looks of disgust
>and annoyance from other patrons.
>I told her that if she did not start behaving
>"right now" she would be punished.
>To my horror, she looked me in the eye and said in a voice just as
>threatening,
>"If you don't let me go right now,
>I will tell Grandma that I saw you
>kissing Daddy's pee-pee last night!"
>The silence was deafening after this enlightening exchange.
>Even the tellers stopped what they were doing.
>I mustered up the last of my dignity and
>walked out of the bank with my daughter in tow.
>The last thing I heard when the door closed behind me, were screams
>of
>laughter.
>
>
>
>
>FIFTH TESTIMONY:
>Have you ever ! asked your child a question too many times?
>My three-year-old son had a lot of problems with potty training and
>I
>was
>on him constantly.
>One day we stopped at Taco Bell for a quick lunch, in between
>errands
>It was very busy, with a full dining room.
>While enjoying my taco,
>I smelled something funny,
>so of course I checked
>my seven-month-old daughter, she was clean.
>The realized that Danny
>had not asked to go potty in a while.
>I asked him if he needed to go,
>and he said "No".
>I kept thinking
>"Oh Lord, that child has had an accident, and I don't have any
>clothes
>with
>me."
>Then I said,
>"Danny, are you SURE you didn't have an accident?"
>"No," he replied.
>I just KNEW that he must have had an accident, because the smell was
>getting worse.
>Soooooo, I asked one more time, "Danny did you have an accident ?
>This time
>he jumped up, yanked down his pants,
>bent over, spread his cheeks
>and yelled
>"SEE MOM, IT'S JUST FARTS!!"
>While 30 people nearly choked to death on their tacos laughing,
>he calmly pulled up his pants and sat down.
>An old couple made me feel better,
>thanking me for the best laugh they'd ever had!
>
>
>
>
>LAST BUT NOT LEAST TESTIMONY:
>This had most of the state of Michigan laughing for 2 days
>and a very embarrassed female news anchor who will,
>in the future, likely think before she speaks.
>What happens when you predict snow but don't get any!
>We had a female news anchor that,
>the day after it was supposed to have snowed and didn't,
>turned to the weatherman and asked:
>"So Bob, where's that 8 inches you promised me last night?"
>Not only did HE have to leave the set,
>but half the crew did too they were laughing so hard!
>
>
>
>
>Now, didn't that feel good?
>Pass it on to someone you know who needs a laugh
>and remember
>we all say things we don't really mean,
>so think before you speak

2006-12-01 16:39:54 · 18 answers · asked by notthemamas1 4

The father of my child/boyfriend just got into a fist fight with my father. It just happend about 20 minutes ago. Now I am going to be torn in between this altercation. What should I do please help!!!!

2006-12-01 16:33:56 · 13 answers · asked by chloerochelle102887 1

i'm 19 and and my sis is 23.
my mom is considering to have another kid because she thought it would be fun. myself don't want another younger sis or bro. i dont even want to see my mom's pregnant. i can't imagine a newborn baby next year. i just think it's not right.
what should i do?
and what do u think about that??

2006-12-01 16:30:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

1.) Do you think you would ever consider adopting a child from an orphanage? _____ Yes or _____ No

2.) Do you think you would ever consider adopting a child from a foster home? _____ Yes or _____ No

3.) Which kind of home do you think is a good place for a child to live? (Mark all that apply)
____An orphanage_____ A foster home_____A homeless shelter
____A boarding school_____An adoptive home____On the streets

____ Other_________________________

4.) Do you think that orphanages should still be in operation? _____ Yes or _____ No

5.) If someone can not provide for a child, or if they do not want to have the child then what do you think the person should do? (Mark all that apply)
____ Abortion ____ Birth control _____Find a home for the child
___Leave the child in a box in an alley___ Keep the child anyways

__ Ask for help___ Sell the child___ Leave the child at the hospital

____ Other________________________

2006-12-01 16:21:11 · 12 answers · asked by Angelica 3

She is 6. My sister is in hospital having another child and her husband is with her. I have my niece at my house and my nan is here too. My niece is acting like a spoiled child with no regard and she broke my sweet nan's heart tonight. I am so angry! She'll be here another 3 weeks. My nan is knitting sweaters tonight for Christmas. She has been doing this for all of us for 35 years. We rave even when the sleaves are too long, or they are getting crooked because she can't see. And my niece says, I don't want one of your ugly sweaters, they're stupid and no one is going to wear them. I could have strangled her looking at the crushed and confused look on my nan's face. She wants something different than the rest of us for dinner, won't get to bed on time, speaks very rudely and is all around abnocious. What can I do? Please--some solid experience needed here.

2006-12-01 16:04:29 · 9 answers · asked by donewiththismess 5

My 25 yr old. son moved in with me in July and Its been so hard and difficult, he doesn't work or clean up my little one bedroom apt. he works sometimes but quit soon after. Then he cries and cries after he talks to his soon to be x-wife usally because they are arguing, or him and I get into it --sometimes I can't take this ordeal. what do I do when he is crying so hard and for a long time, do I let him be? do I talk to him? sometimes it annoying and gets me upset... what do I do?

2006-12-01 16:04:10 · 10 answers · asked by tina 1

my ex-boyfriend keeps calling me everynight. and although ive made it clear to him i dont want anything serious with him anymore he said he'd try anyway.. eventhough i told him to stop calling me.. he still calls.. whenever he calls me he opens up topics about the future where I plan to work, my plans after graduation, etc.. and then he popped up a proposal if we could get married right after my graduation.. so i told him we're not even back to girlfriend-boyfriend mode.. and im not sure if i still want "us".. i told him not to wait.. and to plan a future without me.. but it's not working.. lately he signed a contract in an immigration agency for the US.. he just have to take some examinations and within one and a half year he could migrate to the US.. and he is still telling me.. he wants me to go with him.. i asked him, "why would i go with you?".. he answered me "fiances can be considered an immediate family member and can be included in his migration"...

2006-12-01 15:43:38 · 15 answers · asked by evismea 1

My parents house is messy, always has been.My aunt and uncle are coming to visit them for a few days, and now all of a sudden they want it cleaned up. I am thinking of offering them one hour to help clean tomorow.The reason I dont offer more is because my aunt and uncle are coming at the last minute, and I have spent HOURS in the past cleaning the house for them, only have it look like a tornado went thru a few days later. It is messy enough that even if all 3 of us worked all day tomorow, it would still not be totally clean.They got a little mad today because I would not come over after work and help them clean. Telling my aunt and uncle not to come is not an option, we have not seen them for years.The funny part is, my aunt is total neat freak, and will probably spend the visit cleaning...like she usually does. I feel bad even though THEY choose to keep the house messy. And this site is great for getting unbiased answers!!

2006-12-01 15:36:44 · 12 answers · asked by eastcoastdebra 3

My older sister kicked me out of her room because my stupid dumb little sister, came in the room and said to use the computer, and i told my older sis i will get my revenge 3times.

but how will get my revenge on i need help please!

2006-12-01 15:30:35 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My moher in law is a nightmare, she has caused us more trouble in the past 2 months than everyone we know put together. The last straw was that she called drunk and abused both of us and when we fought back disowned her son. The problem is that she uses her daughter as her lackey, and I was just talking to her and she said oh why are you not talking to mum anymore, did my husband tell her to f*&^ off (which he did, but only after severe agrivation.) I told ehr that there was a lot more to it than that and that she needed to realise that she had hurt us, but now I am thinking that the story will get twisted and i will look like the bad one again, can anyone help me find a way to deal with her? I am 7 months pregnant and dont need the ****

2006-12-01 15:16:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Have you ever lashed out on your kids out of frustration and then after the fact realised what you have done and regretted it?

2006-12-01 15:06:19 · 18 answers · asked by lily s 1

My husband told his father not to pay the rent but I disagree. I've been trying to tell him that his father has to pay the rent because he lives here. His father has a good job which he can affords. Am I selfish that I tell him about his father paying the rent? What should I do?

2006-12-01 15:01:22 · 4 answers · asked by Mia C 1