my ex-boyfriend keeps calling me everynight. and although ive made it clear to him i dont want anything serious with him anymore he said he'd try anyway.. eventhough i told him to stop calling me.. he still calls.. whenever he calls me he opens up topics about the future where I plan to work, my plans after graduation, etc.. and then he popped up a proposal if we could get married right after my graduation.. so i told him we're not even back to girlfriend-boyfriend mode.. and im not sure if i still want "us".. i told him not to wait.. and to plan a future without me.. but it's not working.. lately he signed a contract in an immigration agency for the US.. he just have to take some examinations and within one and a half year he could migrate to the US.. and he is still telling me.. he wants me to go with him.. i asked him, "why would i go with you?".. he answered me "fiances can be considered an immediate family member and can be included in his migration"...
2006-12-01 15:43:38 · 15 answers · asked by evismea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
so i told him "im not your fiance not even your girlfriend, we're just friends".. so i told him again "what if i won't agree to your plans?" then he asked "why not?" i told him "because im not ready and i think we still have a lot to learn, because we're very young". then he said that if im not ready he'll wait. so i told him, just go abroad when your time to go comes and ill just be here but im just not ready to go with you.. and he said.. "im not going without you".. then i told him he cannot put his life on hold. i told him he has to take the risk and go and if God wills it, we'll be back together someday. but do you know what his response was? he said, "ok what is the main reason that you can't be my fiance, marry me, and go with me?" when all along i have already told him right?!!!!!!!!! so i decided to paraphrase my reason and told him, "because i am not ready personally to get into marriage and i think you should see a whole lot about the world and other women first"..
2006-12-01 15:44:10 · update #1
well he said if my reason is im not ready personally he'll wait for me.. but the problem sam is.. he won't go abroad without me!!!!!!! he'll just wait for me.... he'll really wait!!!!!! he even got mad when i said about "other women" because he said im doubting him! i dont know what to do with this guy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-01 15:44:28 · update #2
What he is doing can be considered a form of harrassment, tell him so. If you have a cellphone change the number, change your home phone#. If you are serious about moving on with your life you need to cut him off completely, it doesn't sound as if he is being reasonable at all. He is not respecting your wishes and wants to force his plans on you. This is very telling of the kind of life you would have next to a man such as him. It might not seem like a big deal now but be careful. Your personal and emotional safety should be your number one concern. If it's all too much to bear confide in a friend or family. I hope you resolve this and may your decision be a wise one. Best of luck.
2006-12-01 15:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by NamGem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is scary. He is controlling and very dense. You know you can do better and you know you have to be done with him. You have to stop answering his calls, and or start recording them. These kind of people can go over the edge and actually do harm to other people. You need to talk to the police about him unless you can just stop talking to him. Don't answer his calls, and if he comes to your house...it's time for a 911 call.
2006-12-02 00:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by whitefleur369 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really wanted him to stop calling you, you would hang up and not talk to him. By talking to him you are giving him hope. You know him better than I do, what are the pros and cons of a relationship with him? If there are more cons than pro's quit leading him on. Only you have the answers. Think long and hard, it'll come to you.
2006-12-01 23:48:00 · answer #3 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it seems as if he is trying to win your heart back and won't take no for an answer. he loves you. but if you don't love him back or like him at all, you should not answer his phone calls and nudge on what he's doing. just let things flow and put him in the past. say goodbye, but never talk to him until you're ready or if you are ever ready to get back with him.
2006-12-01 23:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he calls again, say 2 another boy 2 answer the phone n act like he is ur boyfriend or u could try something like that. Mayb then he`ll give up!
2006-12-02 00:17:50 · answer #5 · answered by wanna b me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my god I feel like i am reading a script for days of our lives! Why did you break up in the first place? perhaps remind him of that, tell him nicely that waiting around will just make his life go by without him and taht he can wait forever and lose all the chances that life offers him. Failing that get a bloody restraing order!
2006-12-01 23:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by jacks my boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay in this problem, u keep telling him that you just aren't ready for marriage cause you're too young. you didn't really say that you dont love him. it kinda sounds to me like you don't no whether you still like him or not, because you continue to answer his calls. he's hoping still. and you're right about him not being able to put his life on hold...because if you konw u don't love him he's gonna be right where he started for the rest of his life. so for starters, tell him that you DONT LOVE HIM. DONT. YOU. DONT. tell him that its already over, remember? its time to move on!
2006-12-02 01:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by michie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call block,
Police to report a Stalker,
Pepper spray and a police whistle (whistle for phone),
Rabid pitbull with aids - chained to front door,
Big gun to end him if the above list won't slow him up!
.... there that should cover it.
Good Luck .... Just Say No.... works for drugs ... it's a fit all sizes thingy !
2006-12-02 00:13:53 · answer #8 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Block his calls. And if it gets worse, get a restaining order. No joke, it helps people forget if their just completely blocked off. Good luck! =)
2006-12-01 23:46:31 · answer #9 · answered by yomonkeysdaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you women write novels on here? After two sentences I had an answer for you. DON'T ANSWER HIS CALLS!!!
2006-12-01 23:47:29 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋