Mother in law?

Question

My moher in law is a nightmare, she has caused us more trouble in the past 2 months than everyone we know put together. The last straw was that she called drunk and abused both of us and when we fought back disowned her son. The problem is that she uses her daughter as her lackey, and I was just talking to her and she said oh why are you not talking to mum anymore, did my husband tell her to f*&^ off (which he did, but only after severe agrivation.) I told ehr that there was a lot more to it than that and that she needed to realise that she had hurt us, but now I am thinking that the story will get twisted and i will look like the bad one again, can anyone help me find a way to deal with her? I am 7 months pregnant and dont need the ****

Answer 1

Well since she disowned him. Take a nice vacation from the b**** since she will be back in your lives once the baby arrives.

Trust me you'll need it. My mother in-law cause me to go into early labor from stess that she gave me. The thing that set me off was she wanted me not to invite my hubby's dad to our wedding but her lover instead. And that was while she was still married to hubby's father. Less than 4 hrs later and me not being able to calm down (hormones and the fact that she was going to ruin my wedding) I went into labor almost 3 weeks early.

I can't wait till my hubby wakes up and finally disownes her. I know she is his mother blah blah blah but everyone knows that she could give a rats **** about what happens to any of her children or her grandchildren.

Sad thing is there is only a little bit that you can do, the rest of it is up to your husband. Because "it is his mother " .

Answer 2

She called you and caused you grief while you are pregnant. She also did it when she was drunk. She is concerned with herself.

The best thing to do is simply when her daughter calls you just say nicely " I would rather not discuss it just cause problems" Then stop talking. Put the ball in her daughters courts. If she asks again - repeat above.


As for the mother. If she calls and is nice.. be nice back.
If she calls drunk. Simply hang up the telephone. She IS drunk after all.

If she calls sober and gripes tell her you have to go do,, chores,, use restroom....shop,,, check email,,,etc,,, If you keep doing this she will get the message, If she doesn't get the message then just keep blowing her off.

Don't go to her house.

Good luck. I have been married for 21 years and I am 39. So take it for what its worth.

Answer 3

If the mother-in-law was just a child, what would you do? Basically, you must do the same thing, but be more careful. It seems she has not grown up mentally or realizes what the big picture is all about. With a child, you set the rules, the child complains, and you explain, and a new level of understanding is accomplished.

Answer 4

She called you drunk?
Oh, that's mature.
She needs to know that you and your husband now have your own life together and are starting your own family.
She needs to respect that. And if she doesn't, then she won't be welcome to be a grandmother to your child. And no, she does not have a "right" to see her grandchild when it's born. That's a privledge. She needs to know that.
You need to quit putting the sister in the middle. If your mother in law has something to say to you, she should be a mature adult and say it. You're not in high school. You don't have friends run around and deal with your crap FOR you.

Answer 5

Hi Person. You are seven months pregnant?! Okay yeah you don't need this sh**. Sorry. Okay my advice to you is if you have somewhere else to go..........go there. Take you're husband too. Or you can always send you're mom to rehab. Or my favorite you can always give her an intervention. Like, make here realize what she is doing and show it to the family too. Make you're mother in law understand what she is doing is wrong. I hope this helps.......bye

Answer 6

I wouldn't even talk to them anymore. If they are going to act like that then they don't deserve to have you, your husband, or your children in their lives. The sis in law will only ever believe what her mother tells her lies or not. Put both of them out of your lives. Your child does not need their influences in his (her) life.

Best of luck and congratulations!!

Answer 7

first of all, stop feeling like you need to explain things to your sister in-law. second stop talking to your mother in-law when she calls and acts this way. just hang up on her. if she can call and talk to you with respect then by all means talk to her. but if she begins with her bad attitude just hang up.

Answer 8

i thought i had the motherin law from h*** but the way i deal with her is to ignore her it is the best she can not say you said anything because you do not talk to her perfect solution to ignorate monster in laws!

Answer 9

I understand and no, you need to remain stress free because of the baby....maybe you can steer clear of her for a while....