I'm a senior and am 17 years old. When i was a baby, i had to have surgery on my skull because of a problem i had and had a slim chance of not making it through the surgery. Because of this, my parents have always been extremely overprotective to the point of absurdity. In various examples, in the past two weeks, i have not been allowed to go play football with friends, or stay overnight at friends on non-school nights with no explanation for my parents refusal. Their only response is that "I said no and no means no." The only reason i can think of is because i am leaving for college in about 9 months and they do not want me to leave...if you understand what i mean. Unfortunately for me, it is ruining my senior year and even my friends have even been realizing that i have not been able to do much lately and are starting to become agitated by it. Can anyone help me out with this and give me a few tips on how to loosen their grip on me? thanks :)
2006-12-01 19:15:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow, you really should have a little more freedom, especially your last year of H.S. Do you have a job? My parents were "over-protective" when I was in H.S. and very controlling of my time, until I got a job. Then it was total freedom! Maybe it's because they saw that I was being responsible and "grown up." It was only part time, so I still had a lot of time for friends and "doing things." Good luck, and just know your parents love you, and that's why they're so over-protective.
2006-12-01 19:43:11 · answer #1 · answered by wendy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents and explain to them how important senior year is., and how many memories it will one day hold.Explain to them that you will be leaving for college in a few months and you'd really like to be able to spend time with your friends. Tell them that you understand that they are trying to protect you but that next year you'll be on your own. Try to be understanding with them, they love you and are worried about you. I'd talk to them about their high school years and especially what their senior year was like. Maybe you could choose your battles and only push to do the things that are the most important to you.Good Luck, man.
2006-12-02 02:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent I can fully understand your parents view and someday you will as well but true this is your senior year and you need to enjoy. Instead of getting mad sit down with your parents and TALK to them. Tell them that you love them and no matter what you will always need them but you want to enjoy your last year as a kid before you go to college and start a future. Start with instead of going to your friends houses have them come to yours. The key here is going to be compromise. If you can't talk to them without getting mad or upset then write it down and place it in front of them to read.
2006-12-02 00:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change your parents, but you can change how you react to them.
Unfortunatly they pay the bills and they make the rules. Yeah, they are way too strict. Start saving money and get yourself out on your own after graduation.
Compared to the years you will live after high school, this won't be a big deal in the future.
Put your time in . Love them.
2006-12-01 20:44:42 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, so they are probably afraid of you injuring your skull or something right? Well, I don't know why you can't go over to friends houses on non-school nights, but if I were your parent, and I WANTED your skull to crack, the very first place I'll send you is to play football. As far as with your friends, she might be afraid of you being intimidated by peer pressure to do something that could hurt you. But heck, I don't know you, and your parents tight grip on your life might not even have anything to do with your injury; it might just be your friends they are discouraged about.
BUT IF YOU WANT TO HAVE FUN, YOU NEED TO HAVE YOUR FRIENDS COME TO YOUR HOUSE, INSTEAD OF YOU GOING TO THEIR HOUSES.
2006-12-01 20:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by ~luminary legacy~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents you will no longer put up with this treatment as you are not a child. If they do not give you some slack in your senior year you will have to just go ahead and get out and about despite them.
2006-12-02 01:34:29 · answer #6 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the truth,,that you would like to spend time with them but also would like to spend some time with friends before you go to college.
2006-12-01 19:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont take this time for granted. your will be leaving for college in a few months and your mom and dad are just scared about letting you grow up. if it really bothers you then talk with them about it.
2006-12-02 00:46:09 · answer #8 · answered by robin k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a few years. When you are a parent, you will understand.
2006-12-01 19:17:27 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to them... only way u going to work something out. compromise a little
2006-12-01 19:45:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋