My mom is a super cow, and living with her makes me cry and get very depressed. My ex-psychiatrist told me to move out, as did my ex-psychologist, two years before the psychiatrist said it! So it's a long term thing. It's "irreconcilable differences" and it's not likely to get better enough to make it worth staying her.
That being said, I need to have some idea of a cheap way to move out. I have a whole bunch of furniture I can take, and I have friends who also desperately need to move, but how can we manage it?
Also, are there any tips on any other ways to get out etc? Or does anyone have an alternate solution other than dealing with her? We even saw a family counsellor this year who also *shock, horror* told me to move. It really won't work... I've tried everything I can think of. Please help!
2006-12-01 21:28:34 · 5 answers · asked by Callisto 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm 19 years old, and I don't have a job atm because I was finishing year 12 and was told to concentrate on that and that alone. I'm now looking for a job, and just finished applying for a few, as it happens :P
2006-12-01 22:10:39 · update #1
And may I add- I hate being a freeloader, I think people who do it are selfish, and I am one under duress. I want a job, and assuming I get one, that's where the answers to this qst come in lol
2006-12-01 23:24:54 · update #2
You have dealt with your mom for 19 years. Get your job and save as much as you can till you graduate. Get with some of your girl friends (who also have jobs) and get an apartment that you can afford even if one of you has to move out. If you can go to collage and have a great life. Someday though you need to make peace with your mom. You know you are not doing everything you can to make life easy on her either......like fighting with her in front of your friends. Neither one of you felt good after that. Enough of that stay on track with getting a job, work hard you will be fine. Good Luck :).
2006-12-01 21:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by D J Honestly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this answer won't be a shocker. Get a job! If your looking for an easy way out, I can see why you and your Mom don't see eye to eye. Nothing in life is free! You can move in with a friend but after a while you are labeled a user, and it costs you your reputation. If you move in with a boy friend be prepared to put out whenever he wants it. This makes you no better than a prostitute, and costs you your moral integrity, self esteem, and the list goes on!
You don't have to get some corporate job right out of the starting block! Just go to some fast food joint and begin. Trick is to never settle until you hit a nice paying interesting job. Never quit one till you have another LOCKED in! Don't get depressed if when you try this you end up failing and having to move back in with Mommy. This happens, not often, but still it happens, just start all over and don't quit! If you have a job and are surprised by the responses then reword your question, it sounds like you are a little immature. Not much! Just a little. But, Hey, We all were at one time or another, it's just knowing when it's time to grow up!
2006-12-02 05:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first priority is to get a job, which you are already working on. If you have a friend or friends who want to move, too then have a talk and decide to get serious about getting a place together. Work as many hours as you can, stay home to save your money and when you have enough between you for a deposit...move out. In the meantime, if you are spending most of your time at work, you won't have to deal with your Mom much. Get a plan together, then work hard to make it happen...it's the American way. That's what I did when I was 17. If you can't stand to stay there anymore, see if you can stay with a friend until you've saved enough to move out. I wish you luck.
2006-12-02 08:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is you obviously need a job, I don't know WHY you don't have one but in order to be able to pay rent and the bills it helps to have a job. There is no easy or inexpensive way to do things. Life takes money and if you can't handle it then you will have to bite the bullet and stop blaming your mother for all of it becuase you're not mature enough to be on your own obviously.
2006-12-02 05:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting a job will help alot. You'll probably won't be able to support yourself on a standered wage. Do you have a relatives/ close friends you could stay with?
2006-12-02 05:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by jo4idol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋