Have you ever lashed out on your kids out of frustration and then after the fact realised what you have done and regretted it?
2006-12-01 15:06:19 · 18 answers · asked by lily s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2006-12-01 15:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by larlonewolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think every parent has gotten upset and lashed out. I found myself getting upset over something, the kids would enter the room with Mommy and I would abruptly say, WHAT or NOT NOW Those big eyes look at you and are filling with tears.
I found the best way to handle this was to give myself a time out chair then my kids understood I was upset and to leave me alone at that moment until I could settle down and not take my frustration out on them.
2006-12-01 15:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its not easy being a parent, at the end we are all human. We all make mistakes.
However I read this book called "Parenting Guide" that once is you have scolded or lash out on your children, always sit them down and explain to them the reason why. Never let the children forgive and forget by themselves.
2006-12-01 15:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by Rosy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have -- and I'm not afraid to admit it. I've been angry over work, money problems, and believe it or not my parents and just snarked (ok that's my word for lashing) at my kids. I will say in my defense that I do apologize when I've done that -- and my son has thanked me for apologizing. It's okay to snark, and realize and regret----but the most important thing is to say "I'm sorry".
2006-12-01 16:40:32 · answer #4 · answered by fallingstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have done that on occasion. And as soon as I realize it, I have gone to them and apologized. We're human, and it's good for the kids to learn that. It's okay, as long as you have not done irreparable or inexcusable harm, such as beatings or debilitating verbal abuse. If that is the case here, you need to seek help and your child should know you are seeking help. Many years ago I realized I was in a pattern of verbal abuse with my daughter, something I had learned from my father. I got counseling for both of us. It helped break the chain of abuse. Anti-depressants helped me more, though. Really.
2006-12-01 15:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by PDY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, and thankfully after sitting with them and talking about what happened and explaining why I acted that way, and allowing them the right to talk and explain what was/is going on in their world (without fear of anything) afterwards the occurance was forgiven and learned from. Not to mention our relationship grew stronger.
2006-12-01 15:14:13 · answer #6 · answered by cathy m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing you mean scream and yell at them and then regret it. Of course, I have done that. But I have never hauled off and decked my kids.
2006-12-01 15:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bad parent, ya we all did that.
Ya, that is what makes us good parents today.
count to 10 next time. Think of your actions. Think cops, kids taken away, be afraid of reality.
That helps
2006-12-01 15:09:17 · answer #8 · answered by Faith Walker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Even though most all of us love you with all our hearts and souls we are human, and to a lesser or greater degree have our own faults and limitations. We make mistakes.
2006-12-01 17:28:41 · answer #9 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but when a child is born they do not come with a book we all make mistakes but you must learn from them and not make them again.talk to the child and explain that you were wrong but they made you mad and the two of you can work it out.
2006-12-02 00:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by nene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, everyone has a bad day. I always apologize and use myself as an example of how control needs to be exercised."See even Mommy loses her temper from time to time."
2006-12-01 15:10:13 · answer #11 · answered by yogangel7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋