Family - December 2006

Quite a few years ago I was seperated from family,well nieces and nephew. { about 3 mo after there daddy died} We were finally reunited about 8 yrs later! what a joy!!!! I was so excited but after they started talking with a family member who has remained secluded since the fathers death of my nieces and nephew and claimed thereself an orphan and only on speaking terms when on drugs all heck has broken loose and within 2 days i'm the bad one? I really don't get this butt they are in the same state as the children so it's easier to influence them i suppose!and now my nieces and nephew will have nothing to do with me or there dads parents if someone can give a helping message or uplifting advice i'm open!!! plz there dad died a tragic death all alone and meanwhile, his children were at a party with these family members because he was not welcome in there home I need advice plz!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thanks for all the input even if i'm in the wrong

2006-12-01 04:28:33 · 4 answers · asked by i_dont_get_it 1

would u rather hear from them? would be more disapointed fom the fact that ur shild was dismissed or tht u werent informed?

2006-12-01 04:28:04 · 12 answers · asked by Blackrain 1

If i bought an xbox with my own money, does my dad have the right to destroy it, and take it away from me?

2006-12-01 04:27:29 · 2 answers · asked by TunaFiasco 2

She will be 18 in 40 days and says she will be dropping out than no matter what.I've said everything I can think of and nothing works.Do I keep fighting for 40 more days or just give in?My heart is breaking and I'm not sure I take many more fights.I've told her if she quits her car and cell phone are mine and not even that works.

2006-12-01 04:15:39 · 38 answers · asked by BIEKER 1

you can't control your anger? Like something gets to you so bad that you just scream and freak out? This happens to me on a regular basis and I hate it. I end up crying about it afterwards, but in the moment I just feel like I can't control myself. I want to do something about it because I have a 4 yr old and I need to keep my cool. What's wrong with me?!

2006-12-01 04:04:56 · 6 answers · asked by little mama kat 23 3

She rang today to give news of her christmas visit, only to tell me what she has bought me for christmas. Cleaning products, i feel insulted, i have a clean house. And for my other half a phone that you can not use in the uk. Seriously she told me that the connecters are different. I was like what?

I really went all out for her present, now i feel like giving her a box of biscuits, with bite marks in.

2006-12-01 03:54:53 · 40 answers · asked by lonely as a cloud 6

My husband has three kids who are 24, 15 and 13. The 24 year old is married with kids of her own the other two live 6 hours away with their mother. I have three kids 14, 9 and 7 that live with us. I took the child support my kids dad paid and went and bought their X-mas and yes they pretty much got what they asked for but I do not feel it is fair to my kids to use their money to get for his kids nor does he so we went and bought them what we could afford as well as a few other things for my kids. Instead of buying her a gift we cleared the loans we gave his oldest and bought for her kids. The problem is his kids came down for a long weekend as their grandfather is terminal and saw the gifts under the tree and are furious they have less, if they wouldn't have made this surprise visit they wouldn't even know because they have already said they will not be down at X-mas and to mail their gifts. What do we do now do I use my kids money and even it up or what.

2006-12-01 03:54:01 · 2 answers · asked by Martha S 4

In our family, we buy gifts for Godparents every year. I have 3 children and they together have 7 Godparents. I would like to find something nice to get them, but don't want to spend all my Christmas budget on them! If you have any thought, I would appreciate it. Also, I am kinda crafty and wouldnt mind making the gifts. Hope to hear from you soon! Thanks!

2006-12-01 03:51:46 · 7 answers · asked by holly w 2

at women who have there underware exposed? like the g string way above the skirt or throusers. or a button undone and you can see in at the bra? or should we tell them that we can see

2006-12-01 03:49:46 · 48 answers · asked by oh_sh1te 1

I'm 26 yrs old & I have a great mom who stays stressed all the time. I feel bad for her. My father is an alcoholic who is very mouthy, mean, & violent. He use to go a few days at a time without drinking, now he drinks everyday. I do not live at home & I'm married. My mom & younger sister (15 yrs old) moved out with my grandma but he wants them to stay with him. He calls her & wants her to come over & since he can't drive she takes him stuff. They don't want to live with him since he is an angry drunk. He still tries to have the say-so over my sister & won't let her date. She has a bf now but mom is keeping it from him bc he would be mad if he knew. He has never helped raise us so why does he care? I visit him sometimes & try to talk to him about my life & he just nods his head. He doesnt care. My mom always calls me telling me what kind of mean things he says 2 them n how he treats my her. I want 2 just erase this from my life n move on but it's hard seeing this happen to them. Help

2006-12-01 03:33:13 · 6 answers · asked by beachbum26 2

He's now 7 inches taller than me. He's 6'4" and 15 y/o. I'm 17 and 5'9". I've been monitoring his growth for about two years now. He was about 2 inches shorter than me. Around this time last year we were about the same height and then he had his growth spurt of about 7 inches. I'm jealous because I'm older and I thought I would always be taller than him. It sucks having to look up at your "little brother", especially since now he treats me like I'm the little brother. He knows he has a size advantage over me and tries to be bossy sometimes. He's stronger and he knows that I know it because he proved it by seeing who could lift more weight and he won. I'm afraid he's gonna grow bigger still because he's younger. At my age I'm probably done growing. My question is : Has anyone had a similar experience themselves or know someone who has? Maybe the person could offer me some advice on how to face the situation.

2006-12-01 03:31:51 · 5 answers · asked by teebow 1

My sister and brother in law have a 4 year old little boy. Sweet kid but kind of a handfull. They are not real big on children and he was unexpected, so they're not the best parents in the world. They don't abuse him, but he has a nanny who raises him and they are very impatient with him. Anyway, apparently he was "bad" this year so his parents told him Santa is not coming. They are serious!! My sister laughed that this saves her a lot of trouble and they have asked all family members not to get him anything to teach him a lesson. I think this is cruel. My little nephew is heartbroken and is going out of his way to be good. We are all gathering at my parents' for Christmas and he will have no presents. We have tried to talk to his parents but they are really serious. I know if I get my nephew anything it will cause major family drama. I'm almost to the point where I don't even care, but I don't want to risk not being "allowed" to see my nephew. What would you do in this situation?

2006-12-01 03:24:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am so furious right now. I talked to my brother about my grandpa hitting him with the book, and he said, "Are you kidding me? That's the easiest he's hit me in years." Then he showed me his back (ew, I know) and his arms. He was covered in brusies.

So we went to grandma, and she said he'd fallen from skatebording the other day and wasn't really getting hurt by Gramps. When I told her I saw Gramps hit him, she hit the roof and threatened to call the cops on ME for attempting to file a false police report. And I know my grandmother's lying, because my brother doesn't skateboard.

HELP!

2006-12-01 03:11:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I tried to exlplain our financial situation to them. We just moved back from out of state, we bought a new home and I have not yet found a job. We are barely getting by as it is. We are lucky to put food on the table, and they know this.

I came up with the idea of pulling names from a hat and they wouldn't. I came up with the idea to do something together as a family rather than gift exchanging. They thought it was a good idea in ADDITION to gift exchanging.

We literally have no money and are completely up front. Yet, they stand firm on this. My husband's sister made it clear that she expects us to purchase gifts for her 2 kids. She resommended that we put it on credit. I don't prefer to go into debt over a holiday. x-mas is not about gifts.

We have agreed that we will spend x-mas alone at our home if they will not come to an agreement with us. They are upset with us about our decision. What else can we do to help them understand and work on a compromise with us?

2006-12-01 02:57:37 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

When my mother in law comes over she will often bring other relatives with her. It may just be her, 1 extra guest or up to 6+. It makes it difficult to plan dinner. However, if I ask her if she'll be solo - she will say "Well, you really should invite ___ over and if you invite them you have to invite__..." Any suggestions on how to figure out if she plans on bringing extra guests without it being interpreted as an open invite? The in laws are tough to please and fairly critical. She used to be at my house before I got home from work (unannounced and usually with 1 or 2 guests ), I would arrive home and after a few minutes she'd ask "what's for dinner?" My husband and I don't have kids, so dinner is usually "whatever" during the week. She'd proceed to tell me I should have prepared frozen meals that could be brought out when she popped in. Ugh..

2006-12-01 02:49:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Father always told me not to hit a Broad unless she wants to fight like a man then smack the crap out of the Ho'. He also taugh me that Chicks are suppose to serve men and men are suppose to provide for them. Last I talked to him, he told me how the world is going to hell, how society allows Chicks to be Skanks and allows young girls to be Hoochies before they even start their period. He told me not to let a Chick manipulate me, and to keep a strong hand and show her, who ever it is, what her place is. I admire my dad.

2006-12-01 02:48:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok here is the deal my older brother (57) is marrying a 23 year old bimbo. She found out that he might come into a good ammount of money whern our mother dies (he wont it goes into a trust fund) everyone in the family has been trying to warn him about her and it has gotten to the point where we have all told him that if he marries her he will be cut off from everyone else in the family (even his kids by his ex) he acts like he doesn't believe it will happen. I know for a fact that the trust had been changeed to where if he marries this girl he gets nothing. How do I convince him to act his age??

2006-12-01 02:46:06 · 8 answers · asked by flyfisherman_46 2

2006-12-01 02:25:48 · 17 answers · asked by melvin-miller@sbcglobal.net 1

I am divorced and live with my parents. I find it hard to open up with my parents though.

My mom is busy with her own life and she favors my brother and his family whom she is going to visit next week. My dad is busy with his work and other hobbies.

I sometimes feel left out and alone even though I am living with them. I can not share my problems and issues with them.

I am worried about my child. She lives with her Dad in another state. She is 14 and needs help with projects and tests in school. I wish that I could be there for her, but I have to keep reminding myself that my ex-husband has custody and I do not.

I have a job that I do not like. I am trying to look around for another job, but it is taking time.

I am confused about my Christmas plans. My child wants me to visit her and help her with a project. I was thinking of going to Las Vegas.

I am so confused but don't know who to turn to.

2006-12-01 02:12:04 · 2 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

How many of you think he is possibly gay? Why do you think he hates women so much? Other comments on his waivering sanity would be appreciated.

2006-12-01 02:05:28 · 2 answers · asked by stacey h 3

My mother & I lived together with my grandparents until I was 5 & she remaried. At 5, I knew this guy did not like me & told my mother so. She refused to hear me & walked away. As it turned out, I was unwanted baggage & I was left with my grandparents. My mother was always in my life...for most of my growing up she was not more than 30 min. away and I would see her each week. My mother could never understand why I was so close to them & to this day refuses to say that they raised me. When they died they left me most everything which made my mother very angry. With them gone, I was the only one to blame & our relationship got even worse. I've tried many times to repair things and each time get knocked down. 3 years ago I asked my mother to see a therapist with me - to figure out a way for us to have a relationship. She refused & we stopped talking. 2 months ago, I asked again. She said she'd think about it, but has never called back. I don't know what else to do...

2006-12-01 02:05:17 · 11 answers · asked by ashorething001 2

My sister's husband has never liked me and has always been jealous of our close relationship. For years he has tried to break us up. He took her and their kids far away into the country and
has actually poisoned her against me. She has changed a lot and no longer likes me. She hasn't spoken to me for two years - infact
my sister hasn't spoken to my brothers for many years also.
He has always hated our phone calls and emails and I found out later that he read the emails I sent to her.
Is this a form of domestic violence?

2006-12-01 02:04:59 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Question Details: 3 months ago I told my girlfriend I wanted to take some time apart because things were moving fast, and we were getting pretty serious. My girlfriend was very upset, but I insisted and we didnt see each other for a month. When I realized how much I loved her I asked her to take me back. At first she was still angry at me, but after a few weeks she finaly took me back. We have been happy for the past two months, but last week I asked if she had dated anyone while we were apart - I did not. I found out she not only did date but she even slept with someone she knows from the gym and someone from work. The past few days I have been trying not to take it out on her that I am jealous. I know it is my fault and I gave her the freedom, but how do I get rid of my rage without showing it to my girlfriend. I have been asking her all the details of what happened and my girlfriend feels uncomfortable telling me, but I feel I need to know. Is this bad? Please give me advice if yo have any!d

2006-12-01 01:34:52 · 6 answers · asked by downtokissit 1

Here's the deal, my parents are going to visit my older brothers in college (a 4 hour drive) and I can come along too. I really want to go because we're gonna go shopping and out to eat and of course I miss my brothers. But, my dad and I have been having some well, umm 'troubles' getting along lately and everything is really uncomfortable between us. I just honestly can't enjoy myself when he's around. He's just done too much for me to forgive him (and im not just being stubborn here). I also really like the time I get to be by myself at home, so it's not like it's that much of a sacrifise. So, what do you think? should i stay home? or go with my parents to visit my brothers?

2006-12-01 01:32:48 · 8 answers · asked by Sweetie 4

Whatever happened to competition, now a days is "It doesn't matter who wins, as long as you have fun", what, is that the attitude you want children to have when they grow up and go into the work force. They will never aspire to get high up in a career for fear of being competative. And what is it about giving losers consolation prizes, when I was younger, if you lost, the others would laugh at you call you a looser, and then you'd try harder to beat them next time. Now a days, if a person looses they get a bigger trophy than the ones who won, that only teaches kids not to try their hardest because they feel everything will be given to them. What next, giving out trophies just because they are Chicks, then again Chicks don't stand a chance so that might be good, you don't want them going PsychoBitch on you for no reason.

http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-Nr4iWwE.f6MWSl0AAmWri2pV9rCIp6CCpNR3?p=30

2006-12-01 01:23:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

MY parents think i stole 50 dollers from them witch i didnt and It is a snow day and i really want to hang out with my friends but they said unless they find the money i cant do anything and there at work what should i do?

2006-12-01 01:20:41 · 4 answers · asked by Chelsea J 2

2006-12-01 01:13:57 · 15 answers · asked by nushnush 1

2006-12-01 01:09:52 · 8 answers · asked by tsnlajmdc 1

Last nite I was thinking about my ex, and I couldn't help it so I called him but I only heard his voice I didn't say anything he kept saying hello, hello and he would hang up, I know its stupid but then I started to text him about the sexual things we use to do and he would and still does say to me he always wants to have sex with me, but the worst thing about it was that he didn't answer me at all and then just shut off his phone all 2gether...I felt bad about it but got over it and went to bed, I left him a message on his voice mail that I was sorry and that reaction of me doing that was not cause I had one to many cause it wasn't I was simply home and got the urge to act up, but now I feel stupid should I feel this way? what can I do to just simply 4get about it! Why would he shut off his phone, way into my 7th text message I called to chk if the phone was on and it was and I know he got my messages then when I wrote my 13th text suddenly the phone was off. (help) :..(

2006-12-01 01:08:57 · 24 answers · asked by Wendy 2

What do I do. What is my choises. Which are faster and what does each choises infolve me have into do and go thought / Please someone help me.

2006-12-01 00:52:04 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous