My sister and brother in law have a 4 year old little boy. Sweet kid but kind of a handfull. They are not real big on children and he was unexpected, so they're not the best parents in the world. They don't abuse him, but he has a nanny who raises him and they are very impatient with him. Anyway, apparently he was "bad" this year so his parents told him Santa is not coming. They are serious!! My sister laughed that this saves her a lot of trouble and they have asked all family members not to get him anything to teach him a lesson. I think this is cruel. My little nephew is heartbroken and is going out of his way to be good. We are all gathering at my parents' for Christmas and he will have no presents. We have tried to talk to his parents but they are really serious. I know if I get my nephew anything it will cause major family drama. I'm almost to the point where I don't even care, but I don't want to risk not being "allowed" to see my nephew. What would you do in this situation?
2006-12-01 03:24:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What a selfish witch to keep her son from enjoying the holidays with the rest of the family! I'm with you, this is unbelievably cruel. Whatever "trouble" she would go to is offset by the happiness her son would get from sharing in the holiday.
Personally, I would buy the kid a gift, and make sure he understands that it's from you, not Santa. (Hey, she only said Santa wasn't coming!) Then I would tell the little boy that this gift is to be kept at Grandmom's or at your house, not to be taken home. Then they wouldn't have the option of taking the toy away, or breaking it so he wouldn't have it.
If they got mad enough that they didn't want you to see him, I would let them have a piece of my mind. I'm sorry if this is rude or harsh, but there is no excuse for excluding children from Christmas. Christmas is about love, family, and the spirit of giving. It's not about "teaching a lesson" to a child who is too young to remember his actions from long ago, i.e. all year long.
2006-12-01 03:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. They reallllly reallly need parenting help. Books, anything. Those 2 sound like winners. This boy will really need his extended family. I agree with the whole family getting him stuff. Maybe his parents wont cause a stink if the whole family does it. If they live nearby, maybe someone with a key could even sneak the stuff into his room while they are all somewhere else. Like real Santa. Or leave it all wrapped and glorious looking in the front lawn for all the neighbors to see. ( maybe they wont act like 2 turdballs if all the neighbors are peeking out the windows ) . OR maybe if they will let gramma or someone babysit him for a while , you could all take him somewhere fun ( dont tell parents beforehand of course). The turdballs could take back his presents but not the fun experience he would have at Chuckee Cheeze or wherever. Just an idea. What would also be neat is if you told your nephew something like "once santa didnt bring me any presents either" just so he wont feel like hes all alone on this. Let him know that youre so glad he is your nephew and you love him always. stay blessed.
2006-12-01 05:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by cheese food product 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your sister and husband may not be physically abusing their son, but what about emotional abuse? This to me sounds like that latter. He was "BAD" therefore no presents...sounds like a self esteem killer to me and the constant reminder to him that he is "bad" will only make things worse as he gets older. I can only imagine other ways they are trying to teach him lessons and the ramifications on his little innocent being. Life lessons need to be taught in a safe, positive and reassuring way. The fact they also have a nanny raising him tells me they are very detached from his behavior and maybe the undesirable behavior is out of his cry for attention from his parents.
Secondly, I would buy him some presents and they can be from YOU. You can simply say to your sister that just because SHE wanted to teach him a lesson, doesn't mean that you have to agree or go along with it. You love your nephew and it would break your heart to have him remember a Christmas where he received NO presents at all. Your sister is cruel to want to teach him a lesson in this way. I feel really bad for your nephew and I do not agree with your sister's reasoning. If you make a stand this Christmas, yes it will cause problems but maybe perhaps, it will also expose the absurdity of your sister's ways of discipline and be a vehicle of change.
2006-12-01 03:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by hollyberry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is being good and they don't allow him to get presents "from santa" he will not understand why sant didn't visit because he was good. He will soon start to not believe in santa and/or hate santa. This is not good for a child. Christmas is not about the gifts. It's about family. But can you expect a child to understand that. Just talk to his parents. I hope everything goes well. Happy Holidays to you and your family.
2006-12-01 04:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an ignorant biotch! Sure we all threatened our children at one time or another but Santa always came! Do you know anyone who could dress as Santa and come to your house on Christmas when they are there? My dad had a friend who would dress every year. My dad used to put presents on the front porch for the kids, grand kids, etc. (anyone who was little enough to believe). Santa would quietly sneak up to the house, put the gifts (they had the children's' names on them as we always had more than one little one at the home), knock at the door and bring them in and pass them out! I suggest you ALL buy the child gifts and do this. When your stupid sister asks who bought them, just tell her "Santa" and leave it at that. Make HER look like the idiot she is. (I certainly feel sorry for that little boy), he will be crying for attention all his life! Merry Christmas!
2006-12-01 03:34:28 · answer #5 · answered by ladygwen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easily, the relations might want to be staying in a motel, if it were my project. and yuletide might want to be cancelled this 12 months. someone is continuously ill at a visit amassing, and with a sparkling infant round, they are going to be even a lot less in all likelihood to stay abode the position they belong. A newborn doesn't favor to be round those germs. See about celebrating Christmas on the top of January at the same time as the baby will be a touch older and better able to strive against off although germs are lurking. If human beings don't realize your perspective, that is in straight forward words out of selfishness and also you purely favor to assert screw them. at the same time as hospitals those days are not from now on allowing any travelers in LDR by way of flu, you haven't any reason to experience like you may want to deal with a majority of those human beings.
2016-10-08 01:28:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, what a nasty sister you have. For god sake he is 4 yrs old. This would eat at me if it was my sister. I would fight with her tooth and nail over this. I personally would still buy him gifts and ask the whole family to do the same. If you ALL do it then she cant just be mad at one person. What is she going to do, keep the whole family away from him ?? I say talk to everyone behind her back and everybody bring gifts. Just because she is nasty doesn't mean this poor 4 yr old should go without Christmas.
2006-12-01 03:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...this is bizarre. Maybe you could go ahead and buy him a present and ask his parents when he is good can you give him his present then. They need to seriously think about what they are doing to him. He will think that by being good this is the only way to get approval and to receive material things and love. As his Aunt, please keep an eye and ear open for him. Someday he just may need you. Maybe you could even anonymously send them a book about "Parenting"....
2006-12-01 03:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by kymmy_kins 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow thats horrible.
i would confront ur sister. tell her to stop being a lazy selfish b**** who looks for excuses....then i would go out and get him a huge gift.... and say its from his parents....i'm being totally serious.... what would they say?? they wouldn't argue.... u know the real reason they;re not getting anything is to probably be cheap ....it is so cruel....come on... u know ur family will be on ur side.... i wouldnt worry about any drama....they probably all think the same way u do
2006-12-01 03:33:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋