is it wrong for men to stare?

Question

at women who have there underware exposed? like the g string way above the skirt or throusers. or a button undone and you can see in at the bra? or should we tell them that we can see

Answer 1

Only if it hurts a significant other

Answer 2

Most women find "the look" flattering. Most women find "the stare" to be rude and even threatening, especially if the woman notices the stare and seems uncomfortable but the man continues staring. C'mon, you know that's rude. If a button has come undone, etc and it's clearly an accident, it's definitely rude to stare.

However, if a woman is wearing a jeweled thong or gstring showing above her low rider jeans or a shirt cut down to her nipples, I figure she wants men to stare.

Answer 3

I think there is a big difference between staring and noticing.

Most people like you to notice how they dress, even women who dress with g-strings showing and buttons undone.

Staring makes someone feel uncomfortable.

Do you really need to stare? To me, if you are staring, you are being lecherous... and I suspect that even a sexily dressed woman does not want someone being lecherous and gross about the way they notice them.

We heterosexual men enjoy seeing a g-string poking out sometimes, and the occasional alluring low cut top or button left undone in a casual flirtatious way... but we make fools of ourselves when we stare. I feel gross when I stare, and I can immagine they feel gross being stared at.

Noticed... perhaps, in the right circumstances, you can flirt... you know the peek-a-boo with the eyes routine... to be continued IF and ONLY IF it is mutual though, of course... otherwise you are back to the grossness real fast.

I cannot answer for women, I am answering based on the experience I have with the women in my life.

Answer 4

ive had this problem with my boyfriend but any women can say this,,,men are VERY visual....they like to look , the problem comes in when they want to touch....thats wrong! now...staring at another women while a man is with his girl is a very uncomfortable situation for us girls, but you have to take into consideration that a girl with her bra hanging out or a g-string exposed over the pants line is usually done on purpose for attention....girls are whores now a days they wikll dress, do, and say anything to get a guy to notice them and if thats the way they do it....most guys are gonna look but would not consider them to ever be an ideal gorlfriend....b/c what man looking for a relationship is going to want to have a girl walking around in slutty clothes??? none..so when he looks you just need to say i know men are very visual and all but it would just be common courtesy if you didn't stare at her breast like that right in front of my eyes...it doesnt make me feel too good. (every man looks, no matter what they say, but some just have more respect to do it more descritely) good luck!

Answer 5

There is a difference between noticing these attempts at seeking attention and just staring. People, i feel, that do these things are hoping to attract some attention. If you are with your girlfriend, wife, or children, though, it probably isn't sending the right message to them if you are ogling this type of behavior. Some may call me prudish, but I believe there is still a lot to be said for showing manners and having consideration for the people who are around you.

Answer 6

Urgh that drives me up the wall. As a woman myself I try my best not to do it as I don't think anyone wants to see my knickers but I do know girls that pull theres up so that it's more obvious, to me the only answer whether your male or female is to go and pull them and give them a big wedgie. Although I'm sure you'd get sued! As for the bra issue, it can happen quite by mistake, but there are of course those women who find it great fun to falsh their bits so stare away! Don't say that you can see, you'd get so much greif about looking.....either way sorry to say as a man you will never do the right thing, so best of luck!

Answer 7

I think most women do that for men to stare at them, they want attention otherwise they wouldn't show sacred parts. However, some of us have these things happen to us by mistake. I find my trousers too low at times and/or one of my buttons comes lose. So not all women do this for male attention. But there are a handful who do. So my answer is, no dont look. As the girls who do it for attention just suck and i HATE attention seekers and the ones who dont realise, well, how embarrassing to find someone looking at your private parts!! cringe !

Answer 8

Hello,

I think most mens reactions are VERY instinctual, we just cannot help it, we just stare!! perhaps in disbelief or because your not expecting someone to be exposing themselves in that way, in public.

**I once saw a tall leggy beautiful blond walking down the street with a guy just wearing the most releaving all in one leotard I've ver seen. It left literally nothing to the imagination. I was utterly amazed she seemed genuinely unaware to other peoples reactions, she might as well have been stark naked apart from high heels. Well she did have a superb shaped figure and so it was hard not to stare. And its not something I've ever seen since in a city centre street here in the UK.

IR

Answer 9

the polite thing to do is take the woman aside and let her know its showing, most of the time she wouldnt know. if she makes it known that she knows its show, then she wants you to stare, so go ahead.

one time at work there was a women who's middle button had come undone and her boobs were showing, all the guys i work with were staring and making comments, people even took her order without saying anything, so i pulled her aside and let her know, she was mortified that she might have been walking around like that all day and was very thankful that i told her.

another time i was at a club and had been there for a while, and was walking up the stairs and the girls behind me tapped me and let me know my thong was up above my pant line, i was so embarassed, i have no idea how long it was showing!!!

Answer 10

I dont care if its wrong. if the gurls got a a s s u cant get my eyes off it. The bra situation is i do it all the time and i enjoy it espessically if shes got big 1's and i can c inside the bra but the trick is not to get caught. where some sunglasses or somin

Answer 11

they're probably asking for it if they dress in a certain way, but sometimes underware on view is an accident.. if the girl doesn't seem like the type who would really want to be stared at, you should say something and save her embarressment.. I do think its rude if men stare shamelessly at your breasts.. especially when your talking to them! "errm, i'm up here!"