My husband has three kids who are 24, 15 and 13. The 24 year old is married with kids of her own the other two live 6 hours away with their mother. I have three kids 14, 9 and 7 that live with us. I took the child support my kids dad paid and went and bought their X-mas and yes they pretty much got what they asked for but I do not feel it is fair to my kids to use their money to get for his kids nor does he so we went and bought them what we could afford as well as a few other things for my kids. Instead of buying her a gift we cleared the loans we gave his oldest and bought for her kids. The problem is his kids came down for a long weekend as their grandfather is terminal and saw the gifts under the tree and are furious they have less, if they wouldn't have made this surprise visit they wouldn't even know because they have already said they will not be down at X-mas and to mail their gifts. What do we do now do I use my kids money and even it up or what.
2006-12-01 03:54:01 · 2 answers · asked by Martha S 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
His kids only contact their dad twice a year which is X-mas and their b-day and say hateful, hurtful things when they are around. What they asked for was all big ticket items as well which we feel their mother should buy as he pays her over 1000 a month in support. We don't want the holidays ruined but neither of us feel my kids should buy their gifts just to make them happy when we did get them nice things.
2006-12-01 03:56:44 · update #1
This is one of those timeless dilemas that happens each year in countless families. The 24 year old needs to get a grip. She is an adult with a family of her own. One or two presents for her is enough. As far as I'm concerned, I would have given the other 2 kids gift cards and let them shop for themselves.
Christmas is not about money or presents. Maybe this family needs a refresher lesson in the real meaning of Christmas.
2006-12-01 06:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by babidoozer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just ask them if it hurt their feelings and that if wasnt your intention to hurt their feelings. Then apologize and maybe invite them down more often so that everyone can get connected!
:-)
Good Luck!! Hope I helped!!
2006-12-01 12:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋