Need advice... should I stay or go?

Question

Here's the deal, my parents are going to visit my older brothers in college (a 4 hour drive) and I can come along too. I really want to go because we're gonna go shopping and out to eat and of course I miss my brothers. But, my dad and I have been having some well, umm 'troubles' getting along lately and everything is really uncomfortable between us. I just honestly can't enjoy myself when he's around. He's just done too much for me to forgive him (and im not just being stubborn here). I also really like the time I get to be by myself at home, so it's not like it's that much of a sacrifise. So, what do you think? should i stay home? or go with my parents to visit my brothers?

The problem between us isn't police worthy wizard2, don't worry. Margaret B pretty much has it right with the 'my dad isn't understanding a situation im going through right now, causing a conflict between us.'

Answer 1

Well, i know the answer to this one... been there plenty of times myself. Just stay home. Yeah the thought of things being good with your dad might be nice, but its just a thought.If you two arent getting along right now then u arent going to get along on the trip. Therefore if u go, ur not gonna have much fun because you'll be unhappy. Stay home, distress and just give ur brothers a call explaining why u didnt go... i have a feeling they know how u feel. Have fun having the house to yourself!!

-ash

Answer 2

To answer your question honestly, I need to look into my heart and the fact I am missing my brothers would probably make me want to go. However, having that time by yourself may give you time to think about what is going on between you and your dad. You know, as you grow up you lean toward a different parent from year to year. The reason for this is, during those times "you" are changing and each parent has different views and values that may or may not understand the situation you are in at that time. Maybe you are going through something that you dad just can't understand and it is causing conflicts between you too. Parents need to remember that they were kids once and be more open minded and understanding.
I would hate to see you miss your dinner out with your family and miss your brothers because of the situation with your dad. Maybe you could talk to your dad before the trip and simply say, "Let's try to be civil to each other dad, just for this trip and when we get back, can we talk a little? See how that goes.

Answer 3

If your parents don't mind you not going then I wouldn't go. Maybe in the long run it would be best for your father and yourself to have a little time away from each other. But I'd defiantly set a time where you can talk with your father soon about your differences and try to make peace with each other. Good luck to you ;o)

Answer 4

Sounds to me like you're already leaning towards staying home. Skip this trip, and work on smoothing things out with your dad so you can enjoy yourself on the next trip.

No point in going to just be P.O.ed the whole time

Answer 5

Your choice! Just don't let your father get to you that much where you can't spend time with your brothers and mother as well! Or it'll end up driving you away from your family completely.

Answer 6

It still boils down to what you think and how you feel. If there isn't any other way to see your brothers then I would say go and just enjoy yourself.

Answer 7

If the 'trpub;es' are what they sound like, you might think of going to the police

Answer 8

Go on the trip. If you don't it will put more strain on the relationship with your dad.