Why won't my grandma do anything about my brother's abuse? What should I/can I do?

Question

I am so furious right now. I talked to my brother about my grandpa hitting him with the book, and he said, "Are you kidding me? That's the easiest he's hit me in years." Then he showed me his back (ew, I know) and his arms. He was covered in brusies.

So we went to grandma, and she said he'd fallen from skatebording the other day and wasn't really getting hurt by Gramps. When I told her I saw Gramps hit him, she hit the roof and threatened to call the cops on ME for attempting to file a false police report. And I know my grandmother's lying, because my brother doesn't skateboard.

HELP!

both parents are in jail

Answer 1

OK this is really pretty straight forwards. You need to go to your teacher or schools counselor (if you are in school), the local police, welfare department in your state, boys and girls hot line, or just someone in authority. Any of these can and will help. Both of you need to be totally open and honest with them. Follow their advice, and you two will be protected.

Don't worry about what kind of trouble that Grandma and Grandpa may get into. Right now it's a matter of survival for the both of you.

I wish you both good luck.

Answer 2

Do your family a favor, go to the police.Grandma obviously knows that what is going on is wrong and will just defend her husband at any cost - it is a sad way for any family to live.....Your brother has every right to live with out being hurt.call the police and file a report against him (grandpa) request help.social services will have a social worker sent out to the house and you can request counseling and parenting classes - or request to be removed from the house. Depending on how bad the abuse is they may opt. to do that for you any way. The thing is your brother's safety and health is more important than he is being aloud to believe and should not be taught that abuse is the way to raise kids.- I hope you do get him help. Grandpa may have a medical problem and that may be why he is doing this also - so by getting your brother help you might be helping grandpa as well. I do hope all works out for your family,take care.

Answer 3

Honey, I don't give a fig what your grandma say's to you. Anger is a guilt defence and it most likely it that she knows its going on from what your saying......
Call the Child Protective Services, and if you don't live with her, Great..... Your brother does ..... So if I were you, take some photos of your brothers bruises...... then take them to the police yourself if your able and old enough..... If not go to a friends home and ask her parents to report the issue for you and have a police officer come to that home and you can speak to the police with the evidence in hand then --- beleive it or not the police will immediately call CPS and take it from there..... Yes your grandpa will be arrested for abuse, and your grandma will be arrested for neglance of a child, and for not reporting the issues herself..... Neither one will be alble to hurt either one of you again or a long time....... But report the issue anyway no matter the stakes your brother is in serious danger, hematoma's can cause clots that can cause a hemorage --- if severe enough.... You know the abuse is going on.... If you don't report it,,,, YOU are just as guilty as they are for allowing it to continue.....
Please get HELP FAST..

Answer 4

Call the CPS hotline and leave an anonymous tip. They will investigate the matter and if your brother has bruises, probably remove him from the home. I'm not sure what your situation is, but it sounds like you two don't live together? Perhaps they will place him with another family member, or a foster home until things get sorted out. But please either call CPS or talk to a teacher or school counselor about this. They are obligated to report it. You could even go to your brother's school and talk to someone there as they may have noticed bruises, etc. Good luck to you sweetie. Please don't ignore this.

Answer 5

Call child protective services, and the police. You don't have to tell your grandparents you did. You can look up the numbers in a phone book or right on the internet. You have good evidence that this is happening, I'm sure they will believe you and try to help.

I'm sure it is scary to imagine what could change if you make the call, but it is the right thing to do for both of you, especially for your brother.

~Kyle

Answer 6

Unless you live with your grandparents and have to be there, stay away. Grandpa should not be hitting anyone. Talk to a relative you can trust, and hopefully you will get some help. Your Grandmother should be ashamed of herself also, for condoning her husbands actions. Good luck!

Answer 7

you need to call the police immediately! no child or no human what so ever deserves to be beaten and if he is covered in brusies, he is being abused severly. There will be no question if he is covered in bruses, I feel bad for your Grandma that she is taking such steps when a child is involved but maybe she was abused by your grandpa as well. PLEASE do something soon.

Answer 8

Call the cops have them both arrested, abuse is abuse it doesn't matter who is hitting who.I have noticed you have posted many times about this,you or your brother should do something soon,before some one gets hurt really bad.

Answer 9

You need to get him out of there. You need to tell someone. Obviously grandma is not right in her head and is probably also afraid of grandpa. Can you find any other family member he can live with ?

Answer 10

If you feel that your grandfather is abusing your brother as horrible and hard as it may sound I would call DCF on him. Let them know you would like to be anonymous and they will come, say a neighbor called and asked questions to your grandfather. I understand it used to be that way in the past but your grandfather needs to understand that he may end up hurting your brother permanently.